"Daughter-in-law, you marry your brother-in-law in the wedding room, otherwise my son will divorce you" "Listen to you".
There are many mothers-in-law in life, who always pay too much attention to the dowry of their daughter-in-law, hoping to take all the dowry into their own hands. However, this is not possible. In any case, a daughter-in-law will not give her dowry to her mother-in-law, but she may give her dowry to her husband. After all, there is a deep affection between husband and wife, and if a husband truly loves his wife, he will not ask for his wife's dowry.
Many mothers-in-law may ask their daughters-in-law to transfer the dowry house given by their parents to their brother-in-law as a marriage room. This is a double win for the mother-in-law, which not only saves the cost of buying a wedding house for the brother-in-law, but also occupies a property. However, most daughters-in-law are unlikely to accept this arrangement. The bridal room was given by the parents, even if the daughter-in-law was generous and careless, she was not willing to give this house to the brother-in-law.
In this case, the man, who is a son and husband, should decisively stop the mother's idea and not make her feel that the idea can be realized, so that the wife is not implicated.
When they got married, their parents married a house.
Lili and her husband experienced six years of long-distance love before getting married, and their relationship has been very stable. However, due to her mother-in-law's difficult personality, her parents were worried that Lili would be troubled by her after marriage, so they married a house.
After marriage, Lili and her husband lived happily, but the brother-in-law made trouble from time to time, which made Lili feel very angry. The little uncle is no longer a child, but he does not have a thoughtful consciousness. The mother-in-law also did not educate the brother-in-law well, which made Lili feel that it was too difficult for her husband to be an elder brother.
The couple lived in the house that the husband had bought, and the house where Lili was married was vacant. Her parents suggested that Lili rent it out and get a lot of rent every month. However, Lili was reluctant because she had not lived in that house herself. If you rent it to someone who doesn't know how to cherish it, you will have to renovate it when you are ready to move in.
Lili's cousin came to the city to look for a job, but at first she couldn't find a place to live, so she lived in Lili's bridal house for half a year. The cousin was willing to pay 2,000 yuan in rent every month, and although Lili was unwilling to accept it, the cousin insisted on paying.
When her mother-in-law learned that her cousin had lived in Lili's wedding room, she was very angry, thinking that Lili had no brains and let outsiders live in it. Lili felt that her mother-in-law was too broad, her cousin was not an outsider, the relationship between them was very good, and her cousin was not living in vain.
The mother-in-law made a request that made Lili feel unreasonable.
The house where Lili and her husband's parents married has become a small world for the couple. Usually, if the two have a dispute over a trivial matter, Lili will choose to temporarily move to the bridal room for a day or two, and then return after the mood calms down. In this way, the two never quarreled for more than three days.
Although the bridal room is often vacant, Lili still goes to clean it regularly to keep it tidy. It is well equipped with appliances and cooking utensils. Lili will also arrange for relatives, friends or college classmates to stay in the bridal room, saving the cost of staying in a hotel.
One day, Lili had just come home from work, and her husband had also returned. When the two were discussing dinner, the mother-in-law suddenly called her husband and asked the couple to go home for dinner the next day to discuss the marriage of the brother-in-law. Lili was a little puzzled and asked when her brother-in-law had a girlfriend, but her husband didn't know, so he only said that he would go back tomorrow to find out.
When she returned to her in-law's house the next day, Lili found that her brother-in-law's marriage had not been settled, and the two had only known each other for more than a month. She didn't know what her mother-in-law had come back to discuss with them, and at dinner, her mother-in-law mentioned that she wanted to buy a wedding house for her brother-in-law. Lili understood that her mother-in-law came back to discuss financial issues, and probably hoped that they would pay to help her brother-in-law buy a house.
During the whole dinner, the mother-in-law talked a lot alone, and Lili and her husband hardly had a chance to speak. After the meal, Lili was about to put away the dishes and chopsticks in the kitchen, but her mother-in-law asked her to stop, saying that she had something to discuss. Lili thought to herself that the discussion should be with her husband, what is there to discuss herself?
The mother-in-law said to Lili: "Daughter-in-law, you have to marry the dowry room to the brother-in-law, otherwise my son will divorce you." ”
Hearing this, Lili wanted to laugh. It turned out that the mother-in-law's plan was aimed at her dowry room, so it was no wonder that she came back to discuss it. Lili responded, "I see." ”
Then you agree to give the wedding room to the little uncle, great, I don't have to worry about the little brother-in-law's wedding room. You are such an understanding and good daughter-in-law. ”
I think you misunderstood what I meant. I mean, I won't give the dowry room to my brother-in-law. As for you asking my son to divorce me, I'll wait. ”
What do you mean?Do you care about that shabby house and don't care about my son's marriage?My son is dead set on you, but I didn't expect you to care about him. ”
Please don't reverse black and white. Go talk to your son, he won't listen to you. If he agrees with your approach and wants to divorce me, I have no problem. ”
The mother-in-law listened to Lili's words and was furious.
The mother-in-law walked straight to her husband and said in a heavy tone: "Son, your Lili's wedding house has never been occupied, and I want to give that house to your brother so that he can buy a new house." But why doesn't your wife agree?What do you think we should do?”
When the husband heard this, he retorted angrily to his mother-in-law: "Mom, you are embarrassed to say, why should Lili's wedding room be given to my younger brother?"When your brother gets married and buys a house, you and your father figure it out on their own, and it has nothing to do with us. Don't make up your mind about Lili's dowry room. ”
The mother-in-law's face turned blue, but Lili showed a happy look. The mother-in-law said to her husband again, "What you said is really infuriating, how can you say that it has nothing to do with you?"You and your brother are brothers, blood is thicker than water, why don't you, who are brothers, know how to care about your brother?”
The husband scolded angrily: "The matter of my brother's marriage has not yet been settled, what are you doing here?"Why don't I care about him anymore?If I don't care about him, who will solve those problems for him?I also have my life, it is my wife's dowry room, you take it away, my wife must not divorce me?”
The mother-in-law was speechless by her husband and angrily told her husband to get out. Lili was in the kitchen, and her husband called her: "Wife, don't wash the dishes, let's go!".”
After walking out of her in-law's house, Lili asked her husband, "Husband, aren't you afraid that your mother will be angry?"”
I'm afraid, but I can't let my mother take your dowry room away. It was given to you by your father-in-law and mother-in-law, I have to consider your feelings, you are my wife, of course I have to help you. ”
Listening to her husband's words, Lili was moved, she was so happy to marry such a husband who could think about her.
Many mothers-in-law will entrust the matter of buying a house for their younger son and marrying a daughter-in-law to their eldest son and daughter-in-law. If the eldest son and his wife live well and earn a lot of money, and the eldest daughter-in-law doesn't mind helping the younger son buy a house, the mother-in-law may be more relaxed. But if the eldest son and his wife are doing well, how can this burden be handed over to them?
Now it does cost a lot of money to marry a son's daughter-in-law, and buying a wedding house and bride price may exhaust a lifetime of savings. But in any case, you can't hit others with your ideas, and you can't take what doesn't belong to you. This kind of thinking is unrealistic and should not be.
If the mother-in-law wants to take advantage of the daughter-in-law's dowry, the son will be dissatisfied. An upright and fair person can see right from wrong, and must think twice before doing something, so as not to cause dissatisfaction among his son and daughter-in-law.