February**Dynamic Incentive Plan China's traditional pension model is to raise children to prevent old age, even in the current society, relying on children to provide for the elderly is still the most common pension model.
Therefore, in old age, if you do not arrange a better way for yourself to provide for the elderly in advance, then you need to rely on the support of your children to spend your old age in peace; Especially after getting sick, you need more care and care from your children so that you can recuperate with peace of mind and recuperate as soon as possible.
The following three sentences, as a parent, do not say it to your children, it is easy to get into trouble with your children, and even turn against them, especially when you are old or sick, not to mention, you must remember.
1. "I really raised you for nothing, just a white-eyed wolf".
In life, many parents have said such things to their children: "I raised you for nothing", "You white-eyed wolf", "I knew I lost you since I was a child", ......
These words are really hurtful, not to mention that they come from the mouths of the closest parents, and the pain is even more indescribable and goes straight to the hearts of children.
In fact, if you want your children to be filial, beating and scolding them are futile, and not only will your children feel guilty and become filial; On the contrary, they will be more rebellious and unfilial, alienating their parents.
To tell the truth, if you are old or sick, but your children can't be filial to their parents and serve them, the most important thing to reflect on is the parents themselves: when you were young, did you set an example and be filial to your parents? Have you neglected to care for and educate your children, so that your children have become so unkind and unfilial?
Perhaps, not every parent in this world loves their children, but every child is born to love his parents.
Therefore, when people are old and sick, but they do not receive the care and care of their children, instead of blaming them with resentment, it is better to reflect on themselves and change the way and tone of conversation with their children, and perhaps they will reap different results.
2. "I can take care of myself, I don't need you to take care of me".
In real life, although many people are old, they still refuse to accept old age, even if they are sick, they do not admit that they are sick, and they are not willing to let their children take care of themselves.
On the one hand, it is self-esteem that causes trouble, they feel that when they are old, they will be useless, and they will be rejected by their children; On the other hand, they feel sorry for their children, they don't want their children to worry about themselves, let alone become a drag on their children, but as long as they can persevere, they don't want to trouble their children.
Although it is said that parents are well-intentioned, if they blindly do not accept old age, do not admit illness, and always do things that are beyond their power, they will not only make themselves suffer and suffer, but also bring greater trouble to their children.
In addition, filial piety to parents has always been a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation.
Everyone is taught from an early age to be grateful and repay their parents; When you grow up, start a family and have children, you will be more able to appreciate the bitterness of being a parent, and you will be more grateful to your parents.
If parents are old or sick and do not give their children a chance to take care of them and fulfill their filial piety, then they will only let their filial children bear heavy moral shackles and live in deep guilt and self-blame.
3. "Your brother and sister are busy, so don't bother him, you can take care of me."
In a family with many children, although parents say that "every child loves", in reality, it is impossible to achieve a bowl of water.
People's hearts are inherently biased, and it is normal for parents to have a preference for a certain child. However, if parents are old or sick and need their children to take care of them, they still blindly favor one child, and it is easy to cause dissatisfaction among other children.
A netizen said: I have always known that my parents are partial to my younger brother, and in the minds of their generation, the youngest boy is always very precious, and I have long persuaded myself not to be jealous and unbalanced.
However, once, my mother was sick, and my mother woke up in a coma, and told me as soon as possible: "Don't tell your brother, he is busy with work and it is not easy to make money, you can take care of me......”
At that moment, my mood changed from worrying about my mother, to jealousy and complaining, I am also a mother's child, why does my mother think about my brother in everything, but never think about me, I don't have a job? Is it easy for me to make money?
In the final analysis, in a family with many children, parents are not the parents of one person, so the responsibility of caring for parents should not be borne by one person alone, let alone by someone who has always been unfavored.
However, many parents do not care about this, even if they are old or sick, they will continue to favor one child or another, which will inevitably arouse the jealousy and dissatisfaction of other children, and in serious cases, it will also cause infighting between siblings, causing constant strife and lack of peace within the family.
Conclusion: Since ancient times, no one can escape the natural law of birth, old age, sickness and death, and everyone has to face aging and experience the ...... of illness
When people are old and sick, their emotions will be greatly affected, and they will say a lot of words that do not go through the brain.
However, in any case, the above three sentences, when you are old and sick, it is best not to say it to your children, there is no benefit, you need to remember.
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Parents 61, 97 children, 115 elderly, 80