As the saying goes:The speaker has no intention, but the listener has the intention。The same sentence is said in a different tone, and the listener will feel differently. Misunderstandings between people are often not because of poor words, but because words do not reach the meaning. Sometimes, how you say it is more important than what you say. In life,The 4 most offensive tones,The lower the emotional intelligence, the more people like to talk like this. 01 Shouting, full of commandsInterrupting, denying, criticizing, and ridiculing others frequently; Asking tough questions to others, often not responding to others' questions, and changing the subject；"Pick me up from work", "Buy me a gift", "Buy me flowers", "You know how to play games, don't know how to accompany me?" "When the anniversary comes, prepare a gift for me" ......Putting yourself in a high position as a matter of course, even if you don't know the truth, you are confident that you are absolutely right and authoritative. Dominate the conversation and get used to pointing at others in a condescending and arrogant manner; Ignoring other people's experiences and feelings,Treating others as ignorant and naïve children is full of aggression and personal prejudice。The commander seems to be strong, but in fact he is afraid of narcissism and brokenness, and in order to maintain narcissism, he does not hesitate to damage the relationship. No one likes a commanding tone, and it's really important to speak well. 
02 Stereotypes, love labels"The people of the Northeast are very bold! "Shanghainese are stingy! ”；Girls don't understand basketball", "chasing stars = irrational", "you do this to save money"; "I people must bring E people when they go out", "I people make friends by relying on E people to take the initiative to find and take them in", "I people lack social skills"; "Poor female physiology", "Poor driving skills of female drivers", "Thinking that women should get married when they reach a certain age"...Stereotypes and labelled tones and titles such as these can easily be offended by others. They are always used to labeling peopleUse subjective first stereotypes to define someone else's life。Stereotypes save cognitive resources, in simple terms - lazy. After all, "the victim is guilty" is much simpler than analyzing the cause of the case. The stereotypical eyes of your eyes that see the world have been filtered by themselves. Don't limit yourself, don't trap yourself with worldly requirements, and don't want to trap others after trapping yourself. 03 Impatience, reluctanceSome people say: ".Everyone who doesn't speak well is a little expert who is impatient to answer。"I can't help it if you think so! "It's all my fault, it's all my fault, you're right, okay? "The impatient tone is saying that you are a problem, that you are a problem, that you make me unhappy. A rhetorical question is not only a rebuttal, but also an attack on the person speaking to himself. When a person says "yes, yes" to you, and at the same time has a face full of reluctance, it will only make people understand that reluctance, or even disgust, is the real idea. So,This so-called compromise is more annoying than saying "no" directly04 All kinds of rhetorical questions, no politeness"You know what I mean? "Didn't I tell you before? "You don't understand such a simple truth? ”A rhetorical question is more than just a rebuttal, which also includes attacks on the person speaking to him/herself. It sends the message that you're making mistakes, and you're not only wrong, you're wrong, you're ridiculously wrong. This can do a lot of damage to a person's self-esteem。Won't you speak well? Didn't your mother teach you how to talk to people when you were a child?
Don't you know the most basic politeness? Don't want to think before asking a question?
Use declarative sentences to say things directly, and use interrogative sentences if you have questions to askIf you have no questions to ask, don't use rhetorical questions or interrogative sentences!
What if you find yourself in the habit of rhetorical questions? One of the easiest ways to do this is to learn to use a declarative tone instead, so that it will be much more friendly to others. Author: Yan Jiu, 99 years of Dachang naked resignation in the text, working life, healthy life, make money and save money, pay attention to me, grow together!
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