Why isn't you the one who succeeds? The road to simplicity, in fact, the successful method and path were explored by the ancestors thousands of years ago and written into books. It can be said that this secret has long been exposed to the sun. But why is success still elusive for most people today? What exactly is the problem? There is an aunt in her 40s who is struggling with whether to quit her current job and open a nail salon with her daughter. She has no experience, but she is confident that she is a good learner, can get started quickly, and has the courage and determination to persevere. From this aunt, the human weakness of many people can be illuminated. People who don't know anything feel that they are invincible in the world the most; If she is really a person who dares to speak and do, she will not stay in one unit for twenty years. There are all kinds of signs that she is a person who seeks stability and can't take high risks, and the partnership for nail art is just a whim, because she is dissatisfied with her current job and wants to change her reliance. The first misunderstanding on the road to success is that the self-understanding is not clear, and the real self is equivalent to the ideal self. 
Secondly, the myth of getting rich overnight still exists in many people's daydreams, so that they look for shortcuts everywhere, not only do they find nothing, but they are also miserably treated as leeks and cut to the point of nothing. On the one hand, the lucky ones you see are only a few of them, and this kind of small probability event has little reference significance; On the other hand, some cases of rapid success are actually the natural result of decades of struggle. You saw Li Jiaqi become popular, but you didn't see that when he first started doing e-commerce live broadcasts, the number of fans was almost zero; In the past three years, even if it didn't stir up many waves, he still persevered and worked silently. Many people gave up, and he was the only one left; So when the wind came, he was the only one who became the first brother of lipstick. You see that during the epidemic, when the education industry is so depressed, the human business war team can suddenly emerge, and you think they have gone out of their shit luck. But what you don't see is that the founder's experience in the education industry for more than ten years; Their ability to see through the essence at a glance and their sharp words are not at all something that can be achieved quickly in a month or two. You see that even a housewife living on welfare money can create a series of Harry Potter books that are popular all over the country, and you feel that you are just around the corner to become a well-known author. But you don't see the bitterness of J.K. Rowling's rejection by the publisher again and again, and you don't see her years of unknown labor. You only see the glamorous side of successful people now, but you don't know how they were forced to be. So, how can what you know be the truth? 
On top of that, most people often say "I have a talent for something". But what they don't know is that there are thousands of people who have similar skills. From talent to enough to make a living, the journey is long. What really determines how far you go is not the so-called talent at all, but the hard work you work day in and day out. Just like the comedian Chris Rock, who is known for his improvisational performances, his success is no accident. His mind is so quick and his acting is so natural that people mistakenly think that it is all because of his great talent. But the reality is that before the performance, he will make small materials little by little, and even a minute of hilarious performance is a careful selection of two-hour materials that have been prepared with all his heart. Not only that, but he will also do 18 rehearsals at the New Jersey Street Factory, and then cut and add to it until the final performance. So what looks effortless, silky and elegant is the result of hours of hard work and repeated rehearsals. In this world, there are no shortcuts. To sum up, most people overestimate their strength and perseverance, and underestimate the difficulties encountered on the way forward, which is why very few people can succeed. 
The closer you get to success, the more scared you are? There is a very interesting phenomenon: we feel especially safe when goals and dreams exist only in the brain; And once you expose it to the sun, you will be instantly uneasy. In other words, many people will imagine their own success scenario, but when they are really given the opportunity to do actions that are one step closer to the goal, they will be afraid of difficulties and hold back. It is extremely difficult to get out of your comfort zone, especially when you have a very stable and decent job with a decent salary, and it can make people settle for the status quo and stagnate. Compared with the pursuit of success, what most people subconsciously want is to stay away from failure. When dreams can really become a reality one day, our first reaction is not excitement, but fear of worry, fear of failure, fear of embarrassment, fear of unpredictable endings. Without complete certainty, we are often worried. Many people are stuck at this point, but any excellent professional, in the initial stage, has also come from a little novice. He also has the appearance of trembling when he first came on stage, and he also has a side that makes a fool of himself because of nervousness, and there are also moments when he wants to run away. This first time, there must be a must. If you don't try and stay where you are, you won't make your dreams come true. Whoever takes the first step, even if you fail, is a winner, because you are one step closer to your dream. 
The inevitable path to successWhy is there such a high threshold for success, I currently agree with two types of statements. First, if it is particularly easy to succeed in doing something, then the road will be overcrowded and there will no longer be scarcity; Second, things that are too easy to get hold of are often not cherished by people, nor are they worthy of praise and pursuit. Knowing that the journey to success is challenging, you won't find it so difficult, because everything that happens is expected, and you'll be better able to handle the difficulties and adversities that lie ahead. Success generally pays attention to the following three points: First, you must find your passion. When you think about what you're doing, you can focus for a long time, feel energized, forget about the passage of time, and stay at ease despite the challenges you face. Well, it's your passion. Next, create a career around what you love. Many people fall into the misconception that I want to make money through something, and if I can't make money, I won't put in the effort. The end result of this mentality is often that the more you want to make money, the less you can make it. People who work only for money may end up with neither money nor a job they like. Finally, moving from a job that doesn't suit you to a job that works for you is progress. You can start with an internship and get infinitely closer to the industry or field you love. 
When you feel like you're in a bad situation and the whole world seems to be out of control, the following three things can help you: 1. Strengthen your workouts. Exercise can not only make people think clearly, but also relieve anxiety. People with abundant energy can often turn evil into good fortune. 2. No matter what happens, you must maintain the rules and habits of life. Even if the world is going to collapse and the company is on the verge of bankruptcy, it is time to eat, eat, sleep, read the newspaper, meditate, and stabilize the state of mind as usual. Remember, if you are alive, there will be hope, and you will be able to usher in the day when you will make a comeback. 3. While doing daily activities, you can also repeatedly do autosuggestion, telling yourself that anything that can't kill me will make me stronger. This will go a long way in relieving your anxiety.