Hua Lan in Know, is the first child of Sheng Hong and Wang Ruofu. Needless to say, Wang Ruofu is a mother and daughter by nature, and they love Hualan to the core.
The Sheng family has many children, and there are a lot of concubines. Among these children, in addition to the fourth daughter Mo Lan who is born to Lin Yushuang, the head of the family, Sheng Hong, loves the eldest daughter Hua Lan the most.
Hua Lan is also the child that Mrs. Sheng loves and teaches the most among the many sisters of the Sheng family, except for Minglan .
Hua Lan, who has been favored by her parents since she was a child and raised by Mrs. Sheng's side, is knowledgeable and open-minded.
At the time of Hualan Wending's ceremony, Mrs. Sheng once said: Your character is the most amiable, tenacious and calculating, I am relieved.
can reassure Mrs. Sheng that Hua Lan, who has been favored by thousands of people in her mother's family, has a very difficult life after marriage: not only is she often troubled by her mother-in-law, but she also has to use her dowry to subsidize her mother-in-law's family.
Hua Lan's unsatisfactory living state even became a nightmare for her sister Rulan. Rulan's reluctance to marry a high-ranking dignitary when she proposed marriage was influenced by Hua Lan.
In Rulan's words, what about the eldest sister marrying into the Earl's Court? Aren't you still angry with your mother-in-law?
The reason for Hualan's marriage is the inequality of the marriage partners. Hua Lan's husband's family is the Earl's Palace, which is a lot higher than the Sheng family. But that's just one reason for that. Even small factors.
Hua Lan's misfortune is not that her father Sheng Hong clings to the high gate and has a problem with her vision for choosing a son-in-law, nor is it that Mrs. Sheng is not accurate. Hua Lan's marital status only reflects the characteristics of the times, and it is a real photo of the times.
As the saying goes, a daughter-in-law of thirty years becomes a mother-in-law. A boiling word exhausts the living conditions of women in feudal society.
Rulan attributed the reason for Hua Lan's unhappy marriage to high marriage, which was just her naïve misunderstanding.
Facts have proved that no matter whether you marry high or low, there will always be problems of one kind or another in your marriage, and it is rare to be satisfactory.
Wang Ruofu's father, Mrs. Wang, is not only a high-ranking and powerful person, but also deserves to enjoy the temple. Wang Ruofu's marriage to Sheng Hong is a veritable low marriage.
Rulan doesn't look at the door to look at her appearance, and marries a poor student Wen Yanjing according to her wishes, and she is also a low marriage. But the life of the mother and daughter is the same.
Wang Ruofu's mother's family is very powerful. Although Mrs. Wang died early, there were many protégés. Drinking water and thinking about the source, in order to repay the old lady's kindness, he has a lot of support for Sheng Hong in his career.
Even so, didn't it stop Sheng Hong and Lin Yushuang from hooking up and making Wang Ruofu disgusting?
And the Wang family did not come to the door to turn their faces with the Sheng family because Wang Ruofu was wronged, and stood up for Wang Ruofu.
Rulan married the poor boy Wen Yanjing with a rich dowry, and the Wen family relied on Rulan's dowry to achieve a leap in life level. But Rulan was still picked by her mother-in-law, with her nose and eyes picked. The ordeal is no less.
What happened to Rulan after marriage was something she didn't expect before marriage. But Hua Lan has always been very sober about the state of marriage.
The grievances suffered by Hua Lan in the Yuan family were not only due to the social environment at that time, but also Hua Lan's intention to bear them. Otherwise, it is helpless to be troubled by the mother-in-law, but it is incomprehensible to use the dowry to subsidize the family's use.
Hua Lan's seemingly cowardly behavior just fully demonstrates the bearing and responsibility of the eldest daughter of the Sheng family, which is a manifestation of wisdom.
When Hua Lan got married, Sheng Hong was still in a foreign position, not only was he not a Beijing official, but he was only a five-grade person.
Although the Yuan family is in decline, the shelf is still there. There is a huge difference in the status of the Sheng family and the Yuan family, and the Yuan family feels that marrying the Sheng family has lost face.
Therefore, the head of the Yuan family and the housemother who were originally good went to the Sheng family to make a decision, and temporarily became Yuan Wenchun, the son of the Yuan family.
On the day of the decision, Yuan Wenchun instigated Gu Tingye and Changfeng, the second son of the Sheng family, to throw a pot, wanting to welcome the hired goose over and make the Sheng family embarrassed.
These episodes of Hualan's Wending ceremony indicate that Hualan's married life will not be smooth sailing.
After Mrs. Sheng heard about the matter of the Yuan family's guests and Changfeng throwing pots, she asked Hua Lan what she thought of the matter?
Hua Lan first said that everything was up to her grandmother. When Mrs. Sheng said that Hua Lan was about to get married, she would have to make her own decisions in the future.
Hua Lan thought for a while and replied: If you lose, you will lose. Losing the hired goose, the Sheng family is certainly disgraced, but the Yuan family is not glorious for conniving at the guests. Since both are disgraced, it's no big deal.
Old Lady Sheng listened to Hua Lan's answer and smiled with satisfaction. She knew that as long as Hua Lan had such a bearing and mentality, even if the days after marriage were unsatisfactory, it would not hurt Hua Lan's roots.
Sure enough, after Hua Lan married into the Yuan family, she was often embarrassed by her mother-in-law. In order to maintain the harmony and face of the family, Hua Lan often used her dowry to fill the daily expenses of the Yuan family.
Why is Hualan so cowardly? Even if the daughter-in-law has a low status and can't be confronted with her mother-in-law, she can't pay for it upside down.
You must know that the dowry is the private property of the daughter-in-law. As long as Hua Lan doesn't let go, no matter how strong her mother-in-law is, she won't dare to move.
The reason why Hua Lan chose to be "stupid and generous" and was willing to take out the dowry to supplement the Yuan family was not stupid or cowardly, this is precisely Hua Lan's great wisdom.
Hua Lan is the eldest daughter of the Sheng family and the representative of all the daughters of the Sheng family. If her reputation is not good, it will affect the marriage of other sisters.
Hua Lan is responsible for the family, even if she knows that her mother-in-law is biased and the Yuan family has a lot of unbearable things, she can only endure it for the time being.
Hualan's efforts were not in vain. By the time Sheng Hong was successfully promoted and his family moved to Tokyo, Hua Lan had already earned a good reputation among the women of Tokyo as virtuous and housekeepers.
The Sheng family's family background is not prominent enough, but the family is rich, which Hualan knows very well. Since you can use the money to gain a good reputation for the other daughters of the Sheng family, why not?
With the rise of the Sheng family and the stability of Hualan's good reputation, Hualan's strategy in her in-law's family is slowly changing.
First of all, with the support and operation of Mrs. Sheng, Hua Lan returned the stewardship of the Yuan family to her mother-in-law.
The Yuan family is a declining aristocracy, and there is only an empty shelf left. The scenery of these years relied on Hualan's dowry.
After Hua Lan lost the stewardship, she killed two birds with one stone: not only kept the remaining dowry, but also let the successor housekeeper of the Yuan family taste the taste of cooking without rice.
The Yuan family, which does not have Hualan's private money to fill, will naturally be overstretched in subsequent external exchanges and internal management, and their face will be greatly frustrated.
Hua Lan completed the historical mission of shaping the Sheng family's daughter with a good upbringing, and her behavior of pushing the boat down the river made her eccentric mother-in-law unable to speak.
And Hua Lan, with the help of her grandmother, gave birth to a son successfully after being recuperated by Mrs. He, a master of Xinglin, and gained a firm foothold in the Yuan family.
Although Hua Lan's mother-in-law was angry and devastated, her difficulties with Hua Lan had a tendency to escalate, but she couldn't get on the stage after all.
Hua Lanqiang is strong in sticking to the strategy of opening the bow and not turning back. She knew that the reason why her mother-in-law made things difficult for her and even snatched her son was to force herself to take charge of the Yuan family again, that is, to use her dowry to subsidize the Yuan family again.
But Hua Lan didn't give in, she knew that with her father's promotion, her younger brother Changbai's high school, the Sheng family was getting fuller, and she didn't have to do it knowing that she couldn't do it.
In Hua Lan's original plan, there was no Minglan marrying Gu Tingye, and her husband Yuan Wenshao was taken care of by Gu Tingye.
Gu Tingye coincidentally burned the cold stove and ascended to the sky in one step, and married Minglan again, which was an unexpected event that no one could have imagined.
Even without Minglan 's help, with Hua Lan's sober and step-by-step strategy, she can still gain a firm foothold in the Yuan family with her own planning. It's just that the time span will be longer.
Hualan is not only tenacious and open-minded, but also very good at seizing opportunities and judging the situation. Many times, Hualan's choice is a win-win situation, which is not only the best beauty, but also benefits itself.
Gu Tingye saved the country and begged to marry Minglan , but Minglan was delayed. Hua Lan came forward to invite Minglan to come to her house as a guest to help Gu Tingye match.
Hua Lan did this for her own purposes, and Hua Lan's husband Yuan Wenshao served under Gu Tingye. If Minglan and Gu Tingye's marriage is completed, Yuan Wenshao and Hua Lan will be the direct beneficiaries.
But Hua Lan will not push her sister Minglan into the fire pit just for her own selfishness. She had already heard about Gu Tingye's personality from Changbai.
knew that Gu Tingye's character was not as bad as the outside world rumored, so he actively matched Minglan and Gu Tingye.
After Minglan and Gu Tingye got married, Yuan Wenshao, who was a real relative of his own family and a meritorious man who successfully married Minglan, was promoted by Gu Tingye.
Yuan Wenshao thought of the source when he drank water, and naturally looked at Hualan differently, and no longer became a mother's treasure man, but changed his course to Hualan's platform. Hua Lanhua's dowry in the Yuan family was also made up by Yuan Wenshao little by little.
Seeing that the time was ripe, Hua Lan also took advantage of the victory to pursue, in order to completely get rid of her mother-in-law's harsh treatment and entanglement, Hua Lan came to a trick to draw salary, and directly sent a charming aunt to her father-in-law, Old Marquis Yuan.
In the backyard**, Hua Lan's mother-in-law can only turn her head to protect her own vital interests, and she no longer has the energy to deal with Hua Lan.
Hua Lan, who has experienced many years of twists and turns after marriage, finally gained a foothold in the Yuan family and raised her eyebrows.
Do you know, the author said with the help of He Hongwen's words: It is not easy for women. Indeed it is.
In a feudal society where male power is supreme, there are not many stages for women to show. Most women can only endure the years. Looking forward to the daughter-in-law of 30 years, she will become a mother-in-law.
But Hua Lan didn't, Hua Lan didn't have unrealistic illusions about the marriage with the Yuan family at the beginning, but had soldiers to cover up the water and earth: if you want to lose face, you will lose face together, and it's not a big deal.
And Hua Lan knows that she shoulders the family mission and is the vane of the Sheng family's daughter, so although she has an unsatisfactory life after marriage, she is not arrogant or impatient.
Hualan did not become a steel until she became a hundred endures, and achieved a good reputation among the women of Bianjing and completed the family mission. only then did he begin to show his sword to the eccentric mother-in-law and fight for his own living space.
Although Hua Lan and her cousin Shulan were both troubled by their mother-in-law, their responses were fundamentally different.
Shulan has no principles and no calculations, so she is obedient and defeated. Hualan is a strategic and step-by-step strategic forbearance.
Hua Lan, who finally worked hard and won a happy marriage, is another person among the daughters of the Sheng family who can be comparable to Minglan and master the art of war in the inner house.
And the Yuan family's ** milk, who is eccentric, confused and stupid, can't cover it hot, and has no gratitude for the slightest short-sightedness, Hua Lan's mother-in-law is completely cold.
not only lost her husband's heart, but also made Yuan Wenshao, the son of the original mother, grow up gradually in life and drift away from his mother.
In a patriarchal society, it is not easy for women to survive. Therefore, it is more necessary to be sober, wise and strategic. Happiness doesn't come out of nowhere. Unless the galaxy was really saved in the previous life, you still have to fight for it yourself. Hua Lan did this.