Many parents often complain that they are usually busy with work and have no time to spend with their children, and parents must seize this opportunity to care more about their children during the holidays.
Educating children is a test for parents in itself。A child's growth is only once, and parents can only establish a good parent-child relationship if they are fully accompanied, observed, understood, and helped their children develop good habits.
How to use the winter vacation time to spend time with children effectively? A few suggestions for parents, worthy of parents' collection and reference.
Cultivate a sense of time, enriching winter vacation life
Will your bear child have the following situations during the winter vacation:
1.I can't get out of bed in the morning, and I have breakfast and grindingSleep a lot during the day and stay up late at night to play games
Turn on the TV and watch cartoonsWinter breakDelay your job as late as you can.
3.At home, it seems that studying is very hard, but the learning efficiency is not high.
4.Do things and lose everything,Very sloppy in writing homework
5.I played games with my mobile phone and tablet to stop him from playing and losing his temper.
Parents can help their children divide their time into several sections:What to do on a daily basis, what must be done, what is good for you, and what you shouldn't do
Daily things: get up and wash, tidy up the room, get dressed independently, and play parent-child games with mom and dad.
Things you must do: eat well, read and do homework, be hygienic, and be polite.
Things that are good for you: reading extracurricular books, playing outdoor sports, becoming proficient in a musical instrument, visiting relatives.
Don'ts: Looking at your phone for a long time to play games, losing your temper.
Such a distinction will have a specific time goal for the child, what he can do to help him, parents can also tell the child what must be done is good for the child and what should not be done is bad for the child.
Parents should discipline their children reasonably
Many parents reflect that their children are very disobedient, willful and often crying, and it is even more common to talk back to their parents.
Discipline is the responsibility of parents until the child is a minor.
Underage children are not yet mature in self-restraint, so parents must take responsibility for it.
But this kind of discipline should be full of affection, humane, scientific and rational, and should not be arbitrarily repaired and manipulated as private property. Are you with your child today Do not use simple and crude commands, without regard for and respect for children's ideas and personalities.
On the other hand, minor children regard their parents as their backers, and reasonable discipline and care will make them feel safe and supported, and they will turn to their parents when they encounter problems and crises.
If parents are too resigned to everything about their children (academics, performance, hobbies, etc.), it seems to give them more freedom, but children will feel that their parents "don't care" about them and become alienated.
Parents and children play different rolesand respect each other
Role swapping is a way for children to play "mom" or "dad" and parents to play games or hypothetical situations for "children", and then communicate their feelings with each other after the game is over.
Parents can understand their children's thoughts and feelings by switching roles with young children, and children can also understand their parents' painstaking efforts, so that they can better communicate and get along, so that children can feel the love of their parents, and parents can better adjust their own education methods.
We often emphasize the need to properly understand children, respect children, and give children enough space for development, but this is not laissez-faire, parents must grasp the scale and put forward strict requirements.
Parents affirm their children's strengths, help children establish good behavior habits, and increase children's confidence, so parents must give their children praise generously, but not abuse.
Criticism and punishment should be done according to the child's specific behavior, rather than attacking the child's physical defects, personality characteristics, etc. To avoid punishing your child in public, criticize too often, and it may be ***
High-quality companionship during winter vacation"Five Ones".
At least once a day, complete absence of cell phone distractions.
Giggle wildly with your child at least once a day.
Physical contact (hugging, kissing) at least once a day.
Put it down at least once a day"Teach" the child's thoughts, but play with the child.
Look into your child's eyes at least once a day and say, I love you, I love being with you.
Effective companionship is inseparable from the dedication and observation of parents, so let's spend time with our children during this holiday season and encourage him to be what he expects him to be.