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"Consumable" housework is reducing a woman's happiness at home, and the biggest "consumable" is your "husband".
Although housework is a common and ordinary thing, you may not know that some "invisible" housework is eating your happiness, and the biggest consumable of this is your husband.
Because you are at home, not only do you have to clean up the housework, but you also have to follow your husband's ass back to "clean him up" at all times:
The wardrobe that had just been sorted out was dragged out by him."
Go home and throw clothes and socks on the sofa".
I only wash the dishes, but I don't wipe the kitchen countertops".
It is these ordinary daily housework that are consuming the energy of countless women, and if there are too many, it will become "nothing to do", this kind of housework that is not understood is more sad than not being able to "share housework".
Therefore, if you want to "reduce housework" fundamentally and effectively, the first thing to do is to "get your husband".
Among all the housework, the saddest story is that the home that has been cleaned up so hard is "disfigured" by the husband who came home for a second.
My best friend's husband is obviously a person who likes shoes very much, and outside, the shoes are a little dirty and have to be taken care of, but when I get home, I just throw them away.
Moreover, what is used up, never knows that it will return to its place.
For example, used toothpaste never knows how to screw the lid on, used up bottles never know how to close it again, and used facial cleanser never knows how to put it back in place.
These seemingly inconspicuous housework, girlfriends have to clean up behind their butts every day, and they have quarreled countless times because of these things.
All of the above are relatively busy at work, and they may be able to make do with it, but with the increasing frequency of home life, this problem is gradually "infinitely magnified".
Later, I went to her house a few times to play, and accidentally found that this problem in her house was solved, so I asked her, "How did you do it?" ”
She said: "The way to make the family reduce housework is not to fight with her husband, but to find a way to get him".
Establish a sense of ritual in the dedicated area of the item
Set up a dedicated area for the things that the husband often uses, and make this area exquisite and ceremonial, and the husband will naturally throw it around.
It's like when you walk down a spotless street, you don't want to throw a piece of paper to destroy the cleanliness; If you're walking down a messy street, you won't feel guilty about throwing a cigarette butt in your hand.
Change the "supervisor".
Every man is a "pet daughter maniac", maybe you follow your husband's ass behind the supervision, he will find it very annoying. But if the overseer is replaced by a daughter or son, the effect will be immediate.
Shopping is not a hobby exclusive to women, and there are many men who are also keen to buy their favorite things.
For example, in some families, the husband is keen on all kinds of figurines, whether he likes them or not, he moves them home, but after buying them, he never knows how to clean them up.
There are also men who belong to the "centipede spirit" and are very keen to buy shoes, and some shoes do not fit, so they buy them back and become decorations because they like them, resulting in a mess at the entrance.
What's more, he would buy socks endlessly in order to match his shoes, and even when the economy was tight in the past two years, he still bought a lot; The point is that they only love to buy, not throw, and in the end, they have hundreds of pairs of socks and dozens of pairs of shoes at home.
There are even some men who like to "pick wool", and when they encounter cheap things, they can't help but buy them back to Tuntuntun, and then cause the sundries and small objects at home to be placed in piles, and they can't even find a clue to clean up.
For these"Desire to buy"A super strong husband, just relying on bitter advice can't change anything at all, this is a kind of "emptiness fetish", a kind of "sickness" that can't be ***.
When they see an empty cupboard or space in their home, they feel that they mistakenly believe that they don't buy enough, so they buy more to fill.
For the "husband" who has a strong desire to buy, the only way to get him is to "properly control the storage space".
For example, when decorating, according to the list of items, properly control the size of the storage cabinet, not the bigger the better, when the storage space is "full", they will have a sense of satisfaction, thereby reducing their desire to buy.
The wardrobe that has just been put away will be a mess in a few days", do you also have such a husband at home.
Anyway, my husband is like this, he always takes clothes and pulls them casually", other clothes that were originally hung up well will also be messy, and he will follow him every day to clean up, and he can't keep up with the speed of his "making".
Later, I couldn't bear not to do this kind of internal friction type of housework, so I was analyzing why his wardrobe was always so messy, and sure enough, I really found two reasons:
There are too many clothes, and they are turned over every time, and it is easy to mess up other clothes.
There is no partition plan for clothes, which makes it troublesome to rummage through every time.
Now that the reason has been found, there are two ways to "get my husband".
Clothing is discarded. Limit him to an endless number of clothes, and while maintaining a constant quantity, buying a new one is discarding an old one, keeping the clothes in the wardrobe at a certain level at all times.
Partition storage. Divide and store your husband's clothes, pants, tops, shirts, bags, underwear, and socks all have their own areas.
Since using these two methods, my husband's wardrobe has really become clear at a glance, and every time he takes clothes, he will not mess up other clothes, and every time he hangs clothes, he will store them according to the partition.
It took a lot of effort to persuade my husband to take on the housework together, but his "housework habits" sometimes might as well not do it. For example, the following situations not only do not help, but increase the amount of housework.
Obedient housework
Let him wash the dishes, he is really obedient, he washes the dishes in a proper manner, he doesn't care about the hygiene on the stove and in the sink at all, it is completely "say a word and take a step", don't expect to do more at all, and finally have to clean up after his ass again.
Foolish housework
If you ask him to dry his clothes, you never imagine what the clothes will look like, and you don't even think about whether the dried clothes will wrinkle and bulge.
Selective housework
After eating, he asked him to help clean up the dishes and chopsticks, he would only take his own to the kitchen, selectively blind to things that did not concern him, and only wanted to enjoy the benefits he received, rather than taking on common household chores.
I think the main reason for my husband's "bad habits of housework" is that he feels that even if he doesn't do it, someone will do it, so there will be perfunctory housework.
In order to deal with these housework habits of the husband, in line with the principles of fairness, openness and justice, the two jointly customized a housework**, and formulated the implementation standards, each responsible for their own housework.
Sure enough, since the housework responsibility system was introduced, there were no more housework such as "obedient", "foolish" and "selective" in the family.
Sometimes, having a husband who is "nonsense literature" is also a kind of happiness in life.
However, when you meet your husband's knowingly question in housework, it will instantly make people upset.
For example, after washing clothes, he knows that he wants to take them out to dry, but he wants to ask you if you need to take them out to dry.
Even when you see that the trash can is full, you have to ask if you need to take it out.
Wife, where are my pants? ”
Wife, where are my socks? ”
Husband, where's my shirt? ”
The most headache is that you have to ask for anything, as if you are a know-it-all at home, and you can help find it when you are in a good mood, but when you encounter a "mood irritability", it will make your mood inexplicably worse.
As the saying goes, the answer to the question knowingly is a kind of expectation in the heart.
So I think there are two main reasons why my husband knowingly asks, one is the hint that he wants to escape from housework, and the other is mixed with an element of wanting to invite credit.
Therefore, if you choose to turn a blind eye or reprimand your husband's "knowingly asking", it will only have the opposite effect.
Therefore, in order to knowingly ask for "getting my husband", I looked for a lot of suggestions on the Internet, and finally found that these two methods are the most effective.
Funny God replied
For this kind of behavior of the husband, there is a very popular way called "funny reply", which can not only make the husband do housework willingly, but also serve the purpose of adjusting the interest of life, killing two birds with one stone.
Don't be stingy with praise
Sometimes the husband doesn't want to do it, but wants you to know that he has done housework, just like a child who wants to be rewarded with 100 points, so he should praise the housework that the husband will do in the future knowingly, so that he will be full of energy every time he does housework.
Written at the end of the article:
The era of male dominance and female dominance has passed, women will also make money to support the family, men should also take on some of the housework, don't feel ashamed of men doing housework, it is the neglect of housework again and again that defeats many marriages.
I hope that this article can help wives "get their husbands", and I also hope that the men who read this article will take responsibility and responsibility for the family and make the family more happy and happy.