A few days ago, I swiped such a news, which really made people speechless.
The poster is a 27-year-old boy who spent 40,000 yuan to buy a second-hand car and prepare to go back to his hometown, and by the way, he went back with Fa Xiao.
It was originally a good thing that everyone was happy about, but who knew that it was broken by a sentence from "good buddy".
"Who is a normal person who buys a second-hand car?”
Along the way, Fa Xiao kept talking about all kinds of bad things about second-hand cars, his face was full of disgust, and his tone was full of ridicule and contempt.
In the end, the boy even had self-doubt
Am I really that bad?It's such a shame to buy a used car?
But in fact, many people nowadays have not been driving their cars for a long time, and they sell them at a low price because they like the new and hate the old.
Buying a scooter in good condition at a cost far below the factory price can basically save nearly half of the cost of a new car, which is not only not ashamed, but also a wise choice with high cost performance.
In the comment area, netizens questioned the character of this "buddy":
"Your friend is very uneducated, and he has a problem with his character";
"Instead of introspecting yourself, it is better to change friends";
"Don't be ashamed, say that your talent is ashamed".
Some netizens said that if you take him home, he doesn't even have a car, insurance, fuel costs, highway fees, parking fees, car wash fees, glass water, maintenance, these things are not low in cheap cars and expensive cars.
"Mercedes-Benz parking is 5 yuan an hour, and Alto parking fee is also 5 yuan an hour, is he willing to go out?”
Someone suggested that the guy "tell him to get off", which is not a friend.
Some people even said"Do you have a misunderstanding of what a buddy is?”
What kind of relationship can be called a "buddy"?
You can eat abalone and drink Moutai together in a luxury restaurant, and you can also eat peanuts and rice on the park bench together.
Some netizens came forward to explain what a real buddy is.
Real buddy, don't care about the tens of thousands of cars you drive.
He'll just call "wc" when he learns that you've bought a "broken used car" and rush to drive your car to give it a try.
However, in real life, such like-minded friends are always hard to find.
Most people are like the "buddy" who dislikes all the way, and they can't help but come up and step on it and take a sip when they see that you are having a good time.
A very cruel reality in human nature is:No one in this world wants you to do well except your parents.
A netizen posted his ** of going out to play in the circle of friends, originally sharing the happiness of travel with joy, but who knew that there were some discordant voices in the comment area:
"Don't you have to go to work, run around every day?”
"I thought you quit your job, why did you go out again?”
Netizens are very helpless and incomprehensible:
I just want to record my life, I don't want to waste every day, and I go out and see more while I'm young.
Is this holding them back?
Below the complaining post, there are many collective huddles that are similar to netizens.
When someone gets tired of being asked, they reply "I'm a vagrant now", and then they leave happily and don't bother to ask.
It seems that as long as they know that you are worse off than them, they will be at ease.
There are also people who often share their ** outings in the circle of friends, and a few friends who have been chatting with her have begun to love and ignore her messages.
Even when some netizens consulted about a beauty device in the circle of friends, the next comment was half-sourly and joking:
"So rich?Borrow points. ”
These people can't see familiar friends who are better than themselves a little bit, otherwise they will go online, fill up the skills of yin and yang, and have to make a breath in other people's circle of friends and disgust others.
Sometimes, the logic of this world is strange.
Some people's mindset is,I am afraid that my brother will have a hard time, and I am afraid that my brother will drive a Land Rover.
A very clear example is that when it is reported on the news that a stranger has won the first prize in the lottery, people only have envy for him, but if it is a friend or even a relative around him who suddenly rises to become rich, people will instantly state of mind, jealousy arises spontaneously, how to look at him how unpleasant.
Russell once said:
"A beggar will not be jealous of the power of a king, nor of the wealth of a king, but of another beggar who is better than himself. ”
Similarly, as ordinary people, you and I will not be jealous that Bill Gates has more money than me, but will only have a grudge against colleagues who are suddenly promoted and raised.
Jealousy tends to occur only between people of the same circle, the same class level.
Ask yourself, each of us has a moment of poking and probing against our peers:
When I was in school, I compared my grades with my classmates;
worked and colleagues than performance;
When you get married, you and your friends are more beautiful than whose wife is beautiful, whose house is bigger, whose car is luxurious;
In the endless comparisons, we become more and more anxious and miserable.
When we are less than the above, we are jealous of those who are able to mix up, and when we are more than enough, we laugh at those who are not as good as ourselves.
In the long run, all the energy is focused on comparison, neglecting the improvement of one's own skills, and even breaking down interpersonal relationships and becoming more and more narrow-minded.
In the end you will wonder:
"Why can't I be happy all the time?”
Why do I advise you not to be "overly happy" in the circle of friends?
A netizen's mother warned her child not to post too many moments.
Because no one wants to see the joys and sorrows in your life except your parents.
"I'm too happy, there are always people who don't really want me to do well. ”
As cruel as it sounds, it's an indisputable truth about human nature.
American oil tycoon Rockefeller once told his children:
"Don't flaunt your wealth, because those who are richer than you will laugh at you, those who are poorer than you will be jealous of you, and the bad people will calculate you. ”
Because most people are not saints, the humanity of most people isI can't see the good of others, especially the people around me.
When you think about it, life is like a long-distance run.
There may be times when he runs ahead of you, and after a while you catch up again.
If you miss the scenery along the way because of jealousy, even if you reach the end in the end, you will only reap remorse and unwillingness.
In the face of people who laugh at themselves,Just don't argue, just stay away from them;
In the face of people who are not as good as themselves,Don't show off, because showing off will stimulate evil thoughts in the bones of others.
Of course, we can't stop the evil thoughts in the hearts of others, but we can achieve self-transcendence.
Just like Mr. Dai Jianye said:
"Life is like playing chess, if you are only willing to play chess with a group of stinky players every day, then your chess skills will get worse and worse, and you will never get ahead. ”
Keep up with people with high levels and play with masters, and life will be a process of continuous improvement.
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