The "capital of sons-in-law" has favorable conditions, and the children follow the woman's surname
Introduction: Hangzhou is a rich place, and Xiaoshan is a gathering place for rich people"Son-in-law heaven"called. Here, there are many wealthy women who are keen to recruit sons-in-law, provide attractive economic conditions, and even let their children take their wife's surname. This unusual marriage model has sparked heated discussions in society and attracted many wants"The first strike is stronger"of men. However, as a man who is willing to become a door-to-door son-in-law, are you ready for this particular form of marriage?
A unique phenomenon of wealthy cities.
The prosperity of Hangzhou in the past and the landlords and aristocrats of Xiaoshan have been created"Son-in-law heaven"This is a unique phenomenon. Rich girls are waiting for a suitable son-in-law, which is not only a marriage of wealth and status, but also an exchange of economic conditions and family responsibilities. At the 2023 Yunqi Conference, a unique landscape emerged: middle-aged women held high posters looking for a husband and spread unique marriage declarations in the streets and alleys.
Despite the tempting conditions, the threshold of the son-in-law's family is not so easy to cross. Li Jiyan runs a marriage agency for this"Son-in-law party"Matchmaking, she pointed out that now a man who wants to be a son-in-law must be very smart, highly educated, and have a high income to stand out from the crowd of sons-in-law, and the competition is very fierce.
However, it is important to note that despite the financial benefits, becoming a son-in-law is not an easy task. You have to face a range of challenges, including adjusting to family traditions and accepting the reality of having children with the same surname as your wife.
1.The test behind the good conditions.
Local families looking for a son-in-law in Xiaoshan are often wealthy families with assets of more than 10 million yuan and multiple properties. Most of the women looking for a son-in-law have a bachelor's degree or a bachelor's degree, and their careers involve many fields such as ** and teachers. For these women, men with stable jobs, dual careers, and annual salaries of around 200,000 are preferred. This also shows that despite the good economic situation, not all professions are in demand. Professions such as doctors, civil servants, and employees of public institutions are favored because behind these professions, there is often a stable and reliable living environment, which meets the boyfriend's expectations for family stability.
However, it is worth noting that some doctors, civil servants or staff of public institutions already have stable careers and incomes, and they are really willing to join"Son-in-law"of the ranks? This may be a question worth pondering, because people often have to choose between material and dignity. For men, accepting a woman's property and conditions means accepting the challenges and restrictions they face after marriage.
2.Realities of the life of employees.
There are many issues that a man who is a son-in-law needs to consider, including a conflict with traditional notions of marriage. In the traditional Chinese concept, it is common for a man to marry his wife, but for a man who is about to become a son-in-law, this choice may be puzzled and ridiculed by the outside world. The general perception of a son-in-law tends to be poor or incompetent, and as a result, this status is not favored in society.
In addition, the acceptance of the conditions of the female family also means that men must temper their character and behavior. Let's imagine that in a family with a favorable woman, both parents may have strong personalities, which places higher demands on the man's status and voice in the family. Unless the man is talented and capable, he will most likely have to be in the family"Play small roles", to comply with the demands of the woman's family.
3) The issue of the surname of the children in the marriage.
In a family with lovers, a reality that men cannot ignore is that children take the woman's surname. This may be an unacceptable reality for many men, since in the traditional concept of the family, children generally take their father's surname, which is seen as the traditional way of keeping the family going.
In this case, the man needs to be prepared for the doubts and confusion of the outside world about the choice of his son's surname. For example, the awkwardness of parent-teacher meetings and children's questions about who is the biological father will be issues that men will have to face and solve. As a son-in-law, you must learn to deal with these conflicts and challenges in the family in order to adapt to this particular pattern of marriage.
4.A balance between love and responsibility.
One of the questions that a man should seriously think about before deciding to become a door-to-door son-in-law is whether to enter into a marriage on the basis of true love. Marriage is a marriage ceremony with deep emotional bonds. If you marry into the other party's family just because you are lustful for the woman's family, you need to seriously think about whether you can really face the other party and take responsibility after marriage.
In addition, another important question that boyfriends should consider is whether they will regret their choice because of the other person's family conditions. If the man chooses the woman's wealth now, will he still be able to rely on the other party to realize his ideals and ambitions in the future? If the man succeeds through the woman's resources, will he still be able to accept his original identity and status? These are all questions that men need to think about seriously when considering the status of a son-in-law.
5.Voluntary or balanced commitments.
Unlike women who marry into the man's family, the door-to-door son-in-law faces not only financial benefits, but also many real-life challenges that must be adapted and endured. Are you mentally prepared to accept the restrictions and pressures you will face in the future under this particular institution of marriage?
Finally, on reflection, you will find that being a son-in-law is both an economic transaction and a family responsibility. On the road to choosing a son-in-law, men need to find a balance between material interests and emotional identity in order to truly achieve harmony between self and family.
Abstract:In today's society, the traditional marriage model is gradually changing, and the emergence of the special identity of son-in-law reflects people's new understanding of economic and family responsibilities. Men who are about to become sons-in-law should seriously reflect on their choices, understand the challenges and opportunities inherent in this special marriage, strengthen their inner choices, and find their own happiness and place in this special family structure.