Nowadays, from time to time, I hear the news that a child is depressed. No one dares to mess with a child who says he is depressed, he can do whatever he wants, he can not get up, he can not go to school, he can not write homework, he can not take exams.
When I meet such a child, parents and teachers can't ask, and when I ask, I'm depressed, and I don't want to do these things, and I can't do them. If you ask why you can't do it again, if you ask a few more words, the child may cry, either without shedding tears, or crying hysterically, the decibel resounding in the sky, really scary.
When it comes to children's depression, many people will blame it on the high pressure of learning, the involution of school education and the excessive expectations of parents. All the stressful children can't breathe, so they become depressed.
However, depression is likely to be true or false.
Some children are really depressed, so they really need special care. In addition to seeking medical attention in a timely manner, parents, teachers and people around them should be more tolerant.
Some children's depression may not be real. Recently, a friend talked about his son, let's hear if it's really depression or fake depression.
A friend recently connected to his son's homeroom teacher**, saying that the kid didn't do homework, played games, and talked back to the teacher.
After receiving a complaint from the teacher, my friend asked my son why this was the case, and the kid directly said that he was depressed, couldn't write his homework, and played games to distract himself
Seeing him like this, parents were afraid that it would be true, so they found a psychiatrist for their son. The ending can make people laugh!
After two sessions by the psychiatrist, the kid said that the doctor's fees were too expensive, and asked his mother to stop wasting money.
A friend asked him what he should do if he didn't go to a doctor for counseling. The son said, "Depression!."Scare you. I just didn't want to learn. Not to mention depression, you have to force me to learn. As soon as I said that I was depressed, the teacher didn't dare to take care of it, and even you didn't force me to study. ”
You see, this is a typical fake depression!I think that depression is an all-purpose umbrella, and hiding under this umbrella, you can do whatever you want, do whatever you want, and don't do what you don't want to do!
Such a child can't be said to be not smart, but it's a pity that the smart energy is used in crooked places.
Therefore, if a child says that he is depressed, teachers and parents should keep their eyes open and screen it well.
If it's fake, he was deceived by him and told him that adults are not so easy to fool, and he should do whatever he wants. Sneaking and playing slippery and disobedient, no!
If it's true, care about it and take care of it. In fact, there is a solution that may work, and that is to let the child speak his heart.
Depression is something that is unhappy, and what you are afraid of is depressed in your heart and forms a crux. Open the heart knot and remove the crux.
There are many ways to say it, you can talk to someone, or you can keep a diary. Either way, just say it, and it's much better.
Today, I talked about Su Shi's famous article "Red Cliff Fu", and when it came to the sentence "I can't know it suddenly, I will resound in the sad wind", and I said to the children: "You see, in fact, the ancients were also very depressed. The ideal is very plump, and the reality is very skinny. What should I do when my ideal cannot be reflected in reality?People are not depressed, they say something in their hearts, express their grievances through **, and write articles to express their anguish. In the future, don't be scared to say that you are depressed, and if you are unhappy, write a diary, write an essay, and talk about it, maybe it will be fine!”
Let's be honest