The most beautiful love in the world is not a sense of ritual piled up, but to spend every day well.
There is such a couple,Valentine's Day has not been celebrated once in my lifeBut they have been in love for 70 years, and to this day, their story is still circulating. 
The picture "Flat as a Begonia" has such a couple,I didn't say "I love you" directlyBut the love for each other will be moistened in every morning and twilight. No matter how you look at the memories of the past, they are as beautiful as the poems left by the years......
Picture "Flat as a Begonia" Today, in the overwhelming vows of love and the sound of traffic, I don't want to talk about the coquettishness of roses anymore, nor do I want to calculate the ranking of restaurants. I just want to share with you, written by an old man6 little things about love. In this era where everything is fast, feel the warmth of slowing down a little. Leave the hustle and bustle of the "Valentine's Day arena" and go to the ordinary "running account" to feel the real emotion. 
Picture: Ding Ding laughing and laughing
The year I was really familiar with Meitang, Rao Pingru was 26 years old. After graduating from the Whampoa Military Academy, he joined the second platoon of the mortar wing. In the battle on the periphery of Xiangxi Snow Peak, his comrades-in-arms were hit in the stomach beside him, and their intestines flowed out. He was pressed tightly on the hillside by the bullets, and raised his eyes to look at the white clouds and green mountains. Thinking-"Maybe this is where I'm buried, right? It's good. ”
Picture "Flat as Meitang" Fortunately, the enemy strafed for a while, and when he saw that there was no movement, he stopped, and he was lucky to escape. In the years that followed, he and his brothers continued to leap forward, fight, and fight bravely under artillery fire......Until the other party surrendered unconditionally, in the jubilation, Rao Ping realized it as if he was aware of itThe war was won. 
In the summer of 1945, Rao Pingru returned to his hometown. His father took him straight to his home in the world, intendedFor the son who resigned from his marriage because he was a soldier, he talked about a family matter. Rao Pingru, who is still a hairy boy, only remembers that the weather was very good that day, and the wind was blowing. When I walked through the patio and was about to enter the hall, I suddenly saw the small window of the main house on the west side open.
Look at it again,I happened to see a young lady with a beautiful face, about 20 years old, in front of the window to take a self-portrait and apply lipstickShe didn't see me, I knew it was her." In 2009, 87-year-old Rao Pingru drew this scene with unprofessional strokes in the book commemorating the love between the two, and wrote a very beautiful name in the chapter of the origin"Dotted lips". 
The picture "Flat as Meitang" The words of the matchmaker of the parents' order, the two became closer and closer after they got engaged, only to find that that day was not the "first meeting". As early as when Meitang was 10 years old, Rao and his family came to visit and took toys to play with her. 
Picture "Pingru Meitang" When Meitang was 13 years old, she followed her parents to Rao's house for dinner, and Rao Pingru also helped her fold a small stool ......So much, I thought it was love at first sight, but it turned out to be two little guesses. 
Picture "Flat as a Begonia".
The beauty of love, starting from the first sight, is deep because of companionship. The two of them began to walk into the fireworks of the world, savoring the sweet, sour, salty and spicy flavors - or going togetherNanchang, eaten on the streetPiping hot pancakes
Picture "Flat as a Begonia".Fragrant and crispy baked cakes, golden on both sides, full and fragrant filling. After the two of them finished eating, they could also go for a walk in the park to cool off.
Figure Network or inXuzhouBought on the streetBig pear, tender and sweet. The two of them ate it as if they were celebrating it on the side of the street, even boasting about its sweetness years later.
Picture "Flat as a Begonia" There are also freshly friedChurros, crispy on the outside and tender on the inside, steaming hot. With soy milk porridge, it is very good for the stomach. When I want to put it in my mouth, I will be very comfortable.
Figure Network Meitang is here, and she also began to learn some cooking. One day Rao bought pancakes and raw meat, and Meitang chopped the meat for a long time and made itMeatballs
Picture "Flat as a Begonia".Who knew that after steaming, Rao Ping tasted it, and it was not quite right. After careful discernment, it was found that Meitang also added the meat skin to it", which really made people cry and laugh.
Figure Network arrivedLiuzhou, Guangxi, yusheng porridgeThey were impressed.
Picture "Flat as a beautiful begonia" Rao wrote in his memories - ".The porridge is not thick or thin, and it is mellow and deliciousOn the left side, there is a rectangular **, which contains fish fillets, pork liver, pig heart, and ...... with bone spurs removedIt's lively when cooked, and it's hot and fresh in the mouth."。It's so tempting.
Figure Network The two also went to a friend's house as a guest, and the friend wasNortheastpeople, madeLeek boxThe softness and hardness, the heat, and the saltiness are all just right, which is quite memorable.
Figure network they are still togetherAnshun, Guizhouof the streets, eat upRoasted cornStick. Fragrant and chewy, the point is cheap.
The picture "Ping Ru Meitang" also had the idea of wanting to compare Guizhou rice noodles with Jiangxi rice noodles, and ordered two bowls of soup noodles, which were really fragrant. So much so that Rao Pingru later wrote it into his memories"The rice noodles are fine and smooth, and the soup is clear and fresh", with fried minced meat and fried lard residue as toppings, sprinkled with minced onions and garlic, the fresh fragrance is endless......
Figure Network Later, the situation was turbulent, and Rao ran around as much as he could. When he was at peace, he brought it back for his wifeNanjing's plate duck. Salty and fresh taste, tenacious and delicious, will not live up to the name of today's "duck capital". And his wife, Meitang, will also return to her husbandLinchuanAfter that, accompany him to eat a dishStir-fry the lotus root。Although the two are often in different places, they are like this lotus, and their thoughts about each other are still like filaments.
Figure: Nanjing loves to eat
The most comfortable relationships tend to maintain a desire to share. Two like-minded people lay on their sides on the bed together, feeling the moonlight behind them and sighing"The moonlight is so beautiful tonight."
The picture "Flat as a Begonia" alsoShare interesting things and food, for each other to caress the waves of life, into the years of quiet. For example, yesterday's fruits, today's weather.
Figure "Flat as a Begonia" For exampleKeep track of favorite snacks.
Picture "Flat as a Begonia".Fragrant and crispy, perhaps it is the tacit understanding between the two in terms of flavor.
Figure Network together"Tasting" of porcelain of your own choosingAlthough in the eyes of his father, the two of them are "too picky", but both of them feel happy.
The picture "Flat as a Begonia" also entered the crowdWet marketand feel the smoke and fireworks.
Figure An egg cub though it can't be avoided"Laugh at each other"., but the romance in ordinary love is not just firewood, rice, oil and salt, it is simple.
Picture "Flat as a Begonia".
The only time the two quarreled was in Linchuan. Rao Pingru wrote in his memories - "Why quarrel, I really can't remember, I was young and vigorous at the time, I just felt that she was too unreasonable, and in a fit of anger, I dropped the red hot water bottle on the table." Meitang cried on the bed, we didn't talk to each other, and after two or three hours, I went over to pull her to persuade her, but I didn't expect her to laugh out loud and ......”
Picture "Pingru Meitang" Later, when a host interviewed Rao Pingru, he asked him, didn't you get angry again? Rao said-"A few days ago, I saw on TV that a man in his fifties and sixties had a quarrel with his wife, saying how bad his wife was. She is not as educated as you, her intelligence is not as good as you, your logic is good, you can analyze, she can't analyze, she can't explain the reason, when she is good to youHave you thought about it, you are reasonable, but you are ruthless。"For mature love, home is not a place of reason, but a place of love.
Picture: Ding Ding laughing and laughing
Suddenly, one day, for no reason, Rao Pingru was taken away from the unit and went to work in a remote area. The unit found Meitang and said, "This person, you have to draw a line." Meitang understood in her heart, but said bluntly, "I know what kind of person this person is, how can I divorce him." They were separated for 22 years. Rao Ping is like transporting earth to repair the dam, his wife takes care of the family, and he has to carry cement and pave bricks. Even the children in the family are having a hard time. The two could only intermittently communicate with each otherLengthen the thoughts and shorten the distance.
Picture "Flat as a Begonia" Later, everything passed. Rao Ping is like a generalAll of his wife's letters are dated and pasted in the album, pasted a dozen copies, thick and heavy. There are family trivialities, the hard work of carrying cement, the trajectory of children's growth, and the memories of thousands of miles away. As for his own letters? It's been lost a long time ago.
Picture "Pingru Meitang" Rao Pingru in his later years, every time he passed by the Shanghai Natural History Museum, he would stop. He said"I don't know which step here is the cement she lifted."。But all in all, even if it is a misplaced time and space, is it considered to be embracing each other in the air?
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Mu Xin, who was born on Valentine's Day, once wrote in a poem——
Once upon a time, it was slow. I remember that when I was a teenager, everyone said it sincerely, yes.
Early in the morning, the long street of the railway station was dark and deserted.
The small shop where you buy soy milk is steaming.
The old days have slowed down.
Cars, horses, and mail are slowThere is only enough to love one person in a lifetime
Once, Rao Pingru confessed tactfully by singing English songs and playing. Later, when Meitang passed away,He taught himself the piano and played his wife's favorite tunes during her lifetime, so that ** would leave his memory.
Picture "Flat as a Begonia" Once the two were thousands of miles apart, Hongyan passed on the message. Later, not long after they were together, they were close at hand, but Meitang became ill. At first, I just had a bad appetite, but then I needed dialysis, and then later, even people became confused. So Rao Pingru learned to wrap wheat starch dumplingsLearn to use the instrument and never get bored.
Picture "Flat as Meitang" Even in the face of Meitang's whimsical idea at night to eat the small cake of Xinghualou, he also complied with it one by one, although she didn't want to eat it when it was delivered to her mouth. But he said"I know that she is confused, but I can't get used to it, and I can't help but follow her what she tells me to do."
Picture "Flat as Meitang" In the end, Meitang still left. Rao Pingru was in pain for a long time, and finally cheered up, picked up the paintbrush, and recorded their experience. The name of the "memoir" is called"Flat as a begonia".。He said-"Bai Juyi once wrote, 'Acacia begins to feel that the sea is not deep', and I didn't know until this timeThe sea is not deep, and the nostalgia for a person is deeper than the sea."
Picture "Flat as a Begonia".
The sketch left by Rao Pingru ends with these two pictures.
One sheetBrilliant as a dream, which is written by a cousin, wrote about his former expectations of "returning to the countryside, cloth and vegetable food".
The picture "Flat as a Begonia" is a piecePlain as the windOn one side are three cats jumping and frolicking, and on the other side is a lonely person.
Picture "Flat as a Begonia" I can't help but think of a passage ——
"The word loneliness is taken apart, there are children, melons and fruits, dogs, and insects, which are enough to support the mouth of the alley in a midsummer evening, full of human feelings.Under the willow canopy of the childish melon, the thin dog chases the butterfly in the deep alley. There are many flowers and laughter in the world, but I have two sideburns to spare
Children, fruits, cats, dogs, flying insects, of course, are lively, but they have nothing to do with you, this is called loneliness."
Figure 2 Network In his later years, Mr. Rao was interviewed and mentioned the end, he said, "That's it." yes,The story seems to end there, but there is no love.
Picture "Flat as Meitang" Every time he was interviewed, he would bring the ring that his wife used to wear, and he said, "I will bring her with me and let her experience some ......."Anyway, life is like a dream, let her also see, our story". I heard Rao Pingru's granddaughter say that before he passed away, he planted a begonia, which must have grown now. Maybe their love is also like a tree, slowly stretching, slowly turning into a accessible root system, into a pleasant floral fragrance. Every time the wind rises from now on, it's me thinking about you.
In today's day and age, there are all sorts of proverbs about love. More than a thousand-word article, less than a four-word idiom. People scrambled to learn the fur, and sure enough, they broke in love. And Mr. Rao's trick is not so complicated, so he is generously pressed under his desk. When you look closer, it's just a word for "slow".
No embellishments are required, and it can be done in a second. And to realize this word, it took his whole life.