The common denominators of the reunited family are revealed! Families with these traits are more likely to be reunited
Family gatherings are an important tradition and value of a family. However, some families are always able to stay together during the holiday season, while others are gradually estranged for various reasons. Through years of observation and understanding, I have found that most families who get together every Chinese New Year's Eve have the following in common.
There is also a healthy, wealthy old man living in the house.
Having an elderly person in good health and financial strength in the family plays an important role in family cohesion. This elderly person is not only the center and pillar of the family, but also provides assistance and financial support to family members. For example, if the elders in the family are healthy, have a certain amount of wealth, and are able to take on certain financial responsibilities and provide material support, then the children and grandchildren will be more willing to go home and be together. These older persons are able to provide a stable economic basis for the family, thereby reducing the pressure on future generations and making family members more willing to stay together.
For example, in my village, there is a family of five generations living together and living a long and wealthy family, and the core of the family is 94-year-old Zeng Taigong. Although the children split up and developed separately in the early years, the children and grandchildren would still go home to eat with the old lady Zeng during the three major festivals of the Dragon Boat Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival and Spring Festival. Mrs. Zeng said:"As long as I live, I will have a pension of more than 3,000 yuan per month, and my children and grandchildren will not have to bear it, so they are willing to come back to accompany me. Mrs. Zeng's sponsorship made her children and grandchildren grateful and made them more willing to get together on Chinese New Year's Eve and holidays.
One or two organizers are willing to pay for each festival.
Extended family dinners must be organized by people who are willing to contribute to them, otherwise it is difficult to get all the members to participate. If no one is willing to pay, the party will be in trouble. Therefore, whether or not a family can get together depends mainly on those who are willing to pay for the organization. Their contributions can inspire other siblings to get involved, knowing that attending a potluck not only doesn't cost money, but also strengthens the bond. Among my neighbors, there was a family whose brother came home more and more often for the parties because there were people in the family who were willing to bear the cost of the organization. They organize sibling gatherings on Chinese New Year's Eve and holidays, and even give gifts to everyone when they return home. Because one person was willing to pay for the dinner, and the brothers and sisters were willing to go home to participate, the family was as harmonious as it was when the parents were still alive.
There is someone in the family who is willing to contribute.
In addition to the need for someone to organize the family reunion, there needs to be someone willing to put in the effort. It's not easy to organize a dinner pot and get them to want to come back for a reunion, it takes someone to put in the effort. When siblings get together, someone has to be responsible for buying ingredients, cooking, doing laundry, housekeeping, and so on. If everyone is too lazy to exert themselves, the party is likely to become difficult. Therefore, in order for a family to come together, in addition to those who are willing to contribute, there must be someone who is willing to take care of the organization and care.
For example, a cousin next door to me is a prime example. He was the eldest son in the family, and after the death of his parents, he became the second eldest in the family and took over the burden of the family. During the New Year's holidays, when the brothers and sisters went home for the holidays, he took care of all the housework, from grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, to buying New Year's goods, worshipping ancestors, etc., all of which were handled by him and his wife. All the siblings who come to the house do not have to do any housework, and even the children of the siblings are helped by their couple. Since they don't have to worry about housework, they come home as if they were at their parents' house, and enjoy the joy of being together. It is because of such a willing collaborator that the siblings are more willing to go home and have a happy time together.
In short, all three of these common denominators have a common feature, that is, there is an elderly person in the family who is willing to contribute money and effort to organize gatherings and provide financial and material support and help to other members. The presence of such an elderly person can provide a stable economic foundation and support for the family, reduce the burden on future generations, and make family members more willing to get together. Of course, reunion also requires the joint efforts and cooperation of other family members, including those who are willing to contribute money and efforts, and those who are willing to go home for reunion. It is only through the efforts and dedication of all family members that the traditions and values of family reunification can be passed on and maintained.