When the two of them can't get by, they often blame the tribulations of marriage on incompatible personalities.
But in fact, the biggest disaster in marriage is not personality incompatibility, but these few things.
Lack of effective communication
Communication between husband and wife is an important bond to maintain the marital relationship.
However, in many cases, there are barriers and misunderstandings in our communication.
We may be frustrated because we can't express our thoughts clearly, or we may be confused because we can't understand the other person's intentions.
In addition to creating estrangement and hurting feelings, a lack of effective communication will also delay the resolution of the problem.
If no changes are made, if not taken seriously, small problems can accumulate into big problems until they are completely irreconcilable.
Therefore, we must learn to listen to each other's voices, understand each other's thoughts and feelings, and also learn to express our own needs and emotions.
Only in this way can a real emotional connection be established and make married life more beautiful, stable and meaningful.
Inability to face the pressures of life togetherMarried life is a time for couples to face a variety of pressures and challenges.
For example, the pressure of work, family responsibilities, children's education, and so on.
If couples are unable to face these pressures together and support and encourage each other, the marital relationship is prone to problems.
At the same time, the two who cannot share the hardships are destined to become more and more estranged, and the marriage will become very fragile.
If this continues, deserters and traitors may appear at the slightest storm.
As the saying goes, husband and wife work together to break their profits, and only by thinking in one place and working hard in one place can the marriage relationship be more healthy and lasting.
Only by supporting and understanding each other can husbands and wives get through the difficulties together and usher in the dawn.
There is no mutual tolerance and understandingMarriage is the union of two people, and it is the marriage of two families.
In this process, it contains the collision and run-in of various personalities, concepts, and even habits.
Without tolerance, couples will only become disgusted with each other, and if they don't know how to understand, they will take each other's efforts for granted.
Living together with two thorny people is destined to be a torment, and the breakdown of the marriage is a matter of time.
In married life, we need to learn to appreciate each other's strengths, tolerate each other's shortcomings, and understand each other's needs and feelings.
This is not only a physical cognition, but also a deep emotional interaction.
It is only through mutual tolerance and understanding that we can build true trust and respect, which will make the marriage relationship more stable and healthy.
There is a crisis of confidence
Marriage is when two people treat each other sincerely, and with trust, they can blend.
If the marriage is full of pimples and suspicions, then the relationship between husband and wife will become more and more awkward.
The lack of trust will make it difficult to complain to each other in marriage, and every word and deed will be interpreted by the other party from the perspective of suspicion.
Once you fall into a crisis of trust, once the relationship is full of suspicion, then the marriage is not far from collapse.
Therefore, we need to build and maintain trust in our marriage, to be honest, respectful, transparent, trustworthy and single-minded.
Don't dig holes for yourself, don't leave contradictions overnight, talk about things, and don't treat people right.
Only by learning to communicate and negotiate effectively and build real trust can we better protect our relationships and marriages.
Personality discord is a common conflict in marriage, but it is not the greatest disaster.
The above 4 situations are the most fatal problems in the marriage relationship.
If you find that the marital status is not right, then find out the problem, solve the problem, do not procrastinate, do not shirk, and do not give up.
Only when husband and wife work together and prescribe the right medicine can they create a beautiful married life together!