Read:
Possibly" asked, "impossible," said
Where do you live? ”
It replied, "In that powerless dream." ”
Rabindranath Tagore, The Birds
Insight: In many cases, "powerlessness" is a state of mind.
Observe some children who are tired of school, holding a book and a pen in their hands, weighing thousands of pounds. No matter how hard you try to persecute and persuade you, it won't help. Is there something wrong with your body? No, once the class is out or the teachers and parents are not around, he will "live" up, run and fight, and make a lot of effort.
Therefore, excluding some force majeure factors, "possible" and "impossible" basically depend on people's ideological understanding.
It is not difficult to find the root cause and make the "impossible" into a "possible" path.
In ancient China, there were many inspirational stories, such as hanging beams and piercing strands, sacs reflecting snow, chiseling walls to borrow light, Yugong moving mountains, Jingwei reclamation ......There are also many biographies of outstanding people, which should be used to diagnose and treat "impossible" heart disease.
Of course, storytelling alone doesn't solve the problem at the root.
The key is to have a deep understanding of him, to genuinely care about him, and not to make him feel that you have even the slightest "utilitarian" purpose.
One thing is for sure, it's not that children who are tired of school don't want to be "good". It is precisely because you want to be "good" too much, but you feel "impossible", and there are violent contradictions and conflicts in your heart, that it is so painful.
Otherwise, wouldn't it be better to pretend to be perfunctory and ask for a moment of peace?