Writer: Easter Egg Dad
My cousin and her husband have been having some trouble lately, just because of one thing: whether the child should go to the primary class.
The daughter of the cousin's family, Yoyo, is not yet 3 years old and will go to kindergarten in the second half of 24, and thenIn order for the child to better adapt to kindergarten life, my cousin decided to let Yoyo go to the primary class.
ButYoyo's dad was not happy, I feel that the child is too young, it is not worth spending money to suffer, and there is no elderly person at home.
My cousin thinks that other people's children go to small classes, and after they all say that they go to kindergarten, they can really adapt to it quickly, and the teacher prefers it.
Do you think, is Yoyo's dad right, or is Yoyo's mom right?
To be honest, Easter Egg Dad has always felt"With a small class, the child is better able to transition to kindergarten".This is an indisputable fact, thoughIt is indeed a small class".
First of all, whether it is a small class or a kindergarten, it will go through a "chaotic period".
The so-called excessive, so that children can better adapt to kindergarten life in the future, is actually just "adapt in advance".
OriginalIt was supposed to be 3 years old to get used to itKindergarten life, nowIt becomes 2 and a half years old to adaptThat's it.
will go through the "chaotic period" of adapting to kindergarten, and it is not necessarily a good thing to experience it in advance.
Secondly, the kindergarten class and the kindergarten are not the same school and teacher, and the child has to "double adapt".
Some small classes are opened by kindergartens, and those teachers may follow the children from the small class to the large class, accompanying the child throughout the kindergarten stage.
However, the vast majority of public kindergartens do not have small classes, and many of those that open small classes are private early education institutions, or even only small classes, and there are no small classes behind. In other words, after the nursery is over, the child has to leave and look for a new kindergarten.
In the process,Your child may have to adapt to the life of the kindergarten again and again, schools, teachers, living habits, etc., all have to "double adapt".
This is not a good thing for some babies, and it will make them feel insecure.
The admission condition of kindergarten is that the child is over 3 years old, why is it this age, have parents thought about it?
fromSocializeSpeaking up, after the age of 3 the child willMove away from the "self-centered" consciousness and start into the "collaborative consciousness".
That is, before the age of 3, children will only think about playing and doing things from their own point of view, and after the age of 3, they will begin to be able to work as a team, improve their self-awareness, and better adapt to their surroundings.
fromdietFor example, 3-year-old children can also eat adult meals, and eating in kindergarten will not be too restrictive.
fromAbility to be independentSpeaking of which, 3-year-old children, the muscle development to control excretion has been perfected, they can go to the toilet independently, they can also wear first-class shoes by themselves, and they can better live in kindergarten with a certain degree of self-care ability.
fromAbility to express oneselfIn addition, a 3-year-old child is able to express his needs and communicate with the teacher normally in kindergarten.
fromPhysiqueSpeaking of which, 3-year-old children, whose digestive function is already relatively perfect, are less prone to vomiting, diarrhea and other problems.
In general, 3 years old is equivalent to a "watershed" for children, and only when all aspects of their abilities are in place can they truly adapt to kindergarten life.
Therefore, there is no need for parents to be in a hurry to send their children to the nursery class.
Of course, there is no one to take the child, and the child is over 3 years old, which will also motivate parents to send their children to the nursery class.
However, the easter egg father still suggests that the following 3 types of children, no matter how difficult it is for parents, do not send their children there.
The first type of child: the child with poor physical fitness
Even if some children are over 3 years old, their physique may not be really good, and then the child really suffers from old age.
For example:, a relative of the easter egg father, their child goes to a small class, and the school time for a semester is not more than 1 month, because the child is sick non-stop, and finally gets better, and when he goes to kindergarten, he gets sick again.
Another example, Easter egg dad colleague's child, when the small class did not break the runny nose, I found a lot of doctors at that time, but I have not been able to **. Then,The ordinary runny nose became allergic rhinitis, and later, sinusitis, which has already begun to haveAdenoid faciesFinish.
For children with poor physical fitness, it is very easy to get sick when they enter such a group life. Therefore, at this time, the small class is really not a must.
The second type of child: the child who is very attached to his family
There is a very difficult thing for a child to do when he is in a small class, and that is:Separation anxiety
Psychologically speakingIt is a good thing that children have established a very good parent-child attachment relationship with their parents and families.
However, there are parent-child attachment relationships where the child is unable to place the emotion anywhere else while being attached.
For example:Even if children want to play games, they have to be accompanied by their parents, and they can't play alone, unlike some children, who can bravely explore on their own;
For example:, people come from the family, children have to be accompanied by family members in order to communicate with each other, etc., unlike some children, who can be self-cooked.
That is to say,Children are too clingy and will collapse and be overwhelmed when they leave their parents and family, so this type of child is very painful when they experience separation anxiety.
Not only is it difficult to complete the process of "separation", but it is also easy to lose the sense of security that has been built up with great difficulty.
The third category of children: children who do not know anything about kindergarten
Some parents know that their children are going to kindergarten.
But does the child know why he wants to go to kindergarten?
What is it like for a child to know what life is like in kindergarten? What do I need to do every day? What will you face?
Children who don't know anything about kindergarten have a hard time adapting to kindergarten at the beginning of their entry.
Therefore, if you really want your child to attend a small class, then you must first establish a connection between your child and the kindergarten.
There are many ways to make connections, and you can visit the kindergarten, but you can usually only visit it one time.
Follow-up,Parents can use picture books to "strengthen" the connection between their children and the kindergarten.
Easter eggsAt that time, it wasAt the suggestion of the kindergarten principal, I used this set of "I Love Kindergarten" series of picture booksLet's Easter eggs"** into kindergarten".
I Love Kindergarten series of picture books6 copies, each of which is a theme, which are:
"I'm the Best in Kindergarten".
"You're My Good Friend".
"Eat more, grow up".
"Teacher, I want to go to the toilet".
"Mom, I want to go to kindergarten".
"It's time for school! Who's going to pick me up?"
These topics include:Separation anxiety, independent self-care skills, social, communication, self-confidenceThese are the "big difficulties" for children after entering the kindergartenIf you solve it in advance and are mentally prepared, it will naturally be easier to adapt to kindergarten.
A set of "I Love Kindergarten" series of picture books,With a story close to the real kindergarten life, it perfectly solves the problem of children's admission to the kindergartenRelatively speaking, it is much more useful than parents pinning their hopes on small classes, teachers, and kindergartens.
To strike iron, you also need to be hard.
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