I lived in my son-in-law's house for 6 years, and I took 380,000 to buy a house for my son-in-law, and my daughter was taught by her.
At half past two in the afternoon, I was tidying up my wardrobe, and my daughter suddenly called**: Mom, my in-laws and aunt are coming to dinner tonight, you see if the ingredients at home are enough, if not, go to the supermarket to buy some back. "The daughter's aunt is the aunt of the son-in-law and the sister of the father-in-law. To be honest, I don't really appreciate this aunt of my son-in-law.
Before I got married, this aunt was always critical of my daughter. Even after marriage, every time I see her, I will always be accused of "caring".
My daughter is not the weak type, though, and she will fight back firmly. After a few times like this, my aunt has never succeeded, so naturally I don't like my daughter, a nephew and daughter-in-law, very much.
Usually, the father-in-law and the mother-in-law are either in their own old house or in the younger son's house, so the eldest aunt rarely comes to our side.
I don't really want her to come. Because she always likes to point fingers, my daughter doesn't like it, and I naturally don't like it either.
I haven't remarried since my husband died. My aunt didn't understand this, and always thought that there must be something wrong with me, otherwise how could I not get married after 30 years? Just because she loves to talk nonsense, I kept my distance from her.
After I hung up my daughter's **, I hurriedly opened the refrigerator and found that there were still some chicken and a few slices of greens.
I got a live chicken this morning, used half of it for cooking at noon, and planned to use the rest again in the evening. But considering that there were three more people for the meal, that dish didn't seem to be enough.
After looking at my watch, it was already past 2:40, so I quickly packed up the rest of my clothes and put them in the cupboard. Then, immediately went to the market to buy groceries.
The granddaughter likes to eat beef, and the little grandson loves shrimp. So, I bought three catties of shrimp and one catty of beef.
Last night, my granddaughter and I coquettishly wanted to eat beef, and my little grandson also joined in the fun and said that he wanted to eat shrimp.
I agreed, but I woke up and forgot about it. I didn't even remember it when I passed by the beef stall this morning.
Anyway, I haven't cooked these dishes for a few days, so I just took advantage of this time to buy them. Let everyone eat to their heart's content, and the children will be happy.
I was worried about my aunt's taboos, so I bought some pork ribs and pork, as well as some mushrooms. I remember that my mother-in-law likes to eat mushrooms, saying that they taste smooth and fresh, and they are very delicious. The taste of the father-in-law and the granddaughter is a bit similar, they both love beef.
After I finished shopping, I bought some drinks along the way. It was nearly 4 o'clock when I got home with a full shopping bag.
Just when my daughter called**: Mom, have you started preparing dinner? ”
That's when I remembered that I had completely forgotten to prepare dinner when I was in a hurry to go shopping. If you can soak the rice in the rice cooker in advance before going out, the rice will be cooked at this moment.
I couldn't help but pat my forehead: "Alas, I'm old, and my memory is not as good as before." ”
My daughter heard my annoyance and comforted, "Mom, don't worry, it's still too late, take your time." You prepare dinner first, I'll be off work in half an hour, and I'll help you when I get home. ”
I told my supervisor that I needed to leave work early, and he promised to just finish the day's work. I don't need you to pick up my child from school, I'll go, and you prepare dinner first. ”
My two grandsons are in the same kindergarten, Yingying is in the kindergarten and Lei Lei is in the kindergarten. Kindergarten ends at 4:30 a.m. and must be picked up by 5 p.m., because teachers also have work hours.
My daughter may have to take a detour to pick her up, which takes about half an hour. But today she left work half an hour earlier than usual, so the time was enough.
*After hanging up, I quickly washed the rice and put it in the rice cooker, and pressed the cook button. Then quickly wash the chicken and ribs, put them in a clay pot and start the soup. Next, I set out to prepare the tomato beef casserole.
Cut the beef into large pieces, stir-fry until it changes color, then put it in a pressure cooker, add the chopped potatoes, carrots and tomatoes, sprinkle with salt, peanut oil and light soy sauce, stir gently, cover and start simmering.
When my daughter came home with her two children, I had already taken care of the other ingredients and had just finished cleaning up the vegetables.
Yingying shouted excitedly: "Grandma, it's so fragrant!" Did you make beef? I smelled it right at the door. Lei Lei also sniffed a few times, "Grandma must have made beef, and I smelled it too." ”
I smiled and replied, "That's right, today my grandmother stewed Yingying's favorite beef pot." ”
Yingying was about to run over, but was stopped by her daughter and asked to change her shoes first.
I turned off the low heat, and the beef had been simmering for forty minutes, and it was enough to be hot.
Yingying ran into the kitchen: "Grandma, I want to eat beef." ”
Lei Lei followed his sister and said happily when he saw the shrimp, "There are also prawns!" Grandma, I want to eat prawns, I want the oily ones, and I want to eat them with the fragrant oil. ”
I know he's talking about boiled shrimp and he especially likes the dipping sauce I make. His mother wouldn't let him eat it, saying he wouldn't like to eat vegetables.
These two little guys can't wait every time they see the beef pot and boiled shrimp.
I told them, "Wait a minute, your grandma and aunt will come for dinner, and you won't be able to eat until everyone is ready." Go wash your hands and help Grandma wipe the table, Grandma is going to stir-fry. ”
They were a little disappointed, but they obediently went to wash their hands and wipe the table.
My daughter gently pushed open the kitchen door and looked at me, "Mom, have you started preparing dinner?" Ah Hao went to pick up his parents, parents and aunt, and he will be back in about half an hour. ”
Yes, the preparation begins. You can serve the soup and the portion of beef from the pressure cooker on a plate, and then wash the dishes. ”
The daughter glanced at the ingredients on the stove and said with a smile: "Wow, the kitchen god of the family is going out today." ”
I listened to her teasing words and couldn't help laughing: "Stop talking, hurry up and do it." ”
As I spoke, I put the iron pot on the stove and started to light the fire, ready to start cooking.
The daughter smiled and replied, "Okay, I see." And then I got busy. Looking at my daughter's busy figure in the kitchen, my heart also became warm. I really enjoy doing things with my daughter, especially in the kitchen.
The smell of various spices wafts in the heat, filling the kitchen with a calm and welcoming atmosphere.
Our mother and daughter stood in such an atmosphere, exchanging laughter from time to time, and this kind of time was so beautiful and intoxicating.
My greatest wish is to see my daughter live a safe and happy life. And now, I can see this every day, it's great.
I have been living in my son-in-law's house for 6 years, and after such a long time, I have also seen their life in the past 6 years. I had never thought of living with my daughter's family before, let alone relying on my son-in-law for my old age. I just hope I don't become a burden to my daughter.
My daughter grew up in a single-parent family, so when she got married, I never thought I'd go with her. When the son-in-law and the daughter were talking about marriage, the relatives used to oppose their marriage because of the daughter's background.
But the son-in-law is a determined person, he has always believed that his daughter is his most suitable partner and has never wavered. He continued to work this relationship, inviting both families to dinner, and the atmosphere of getting along gradually became harmonious.
My daughter behaved very maturely and generously, and I gradually accepted this fact. It's just that the son-in-law sometimes seems a little eager and always tries to behave better in front of me. His efforts made me feel his sincerity to us, and the families were no longer resistant to the marriage.
When my son-in-law entered the door with my father-in-law, mother-in-law, and his aunt, I was preparing the seasoning for boiled shrimp. My daughter brought the shrimp out, and I started pouring oil into the pan to prepare the greens.
My father-in-law walked into the kitchen and greeted me, saying that I had worked hard. I hurriedly said that it was okay and asked him to go sit down and eat, and the food would be ready immediately.
Then, my mother-in-law and my aunt also came in to wash their hands and greet me as well.
The mother-in-law smiled and said, "In-laws, I'm really troublesome to you today, we are too hungry for your food, so we came over to disturb it." ”
Before he could reply, his son-in-law's aunt smiled and said, "Sister-in-law, you are so funny, how can you say that?" This is your son's home, and it's your home, so how can you be disturbed when you go back to your own house? ”
I was a little nervous, but I tried to keep smiling. I know that my son-in-law's aunt has always been open-mouthed, and although I am a little mentally prepared, I am still a little embarrassed that she said this.
I want to talk back, but I am afraid of breaking my mother's heart, and I don't want my daughter and son-in-law to be difficult people. I hesitated, pretended not to hear, and went on busy. While turning over the dishes in the pot, I took the dishes and prepared to fill them.
At this time, the daughter walked in and said to her mother and aunt, "Mom, aunt, let's go out to eat." So my mother and aunt went out.
My daughter picked up the vegetables and said to me, "Mom, you should hurry up and wash your hands." ”
I nodded, "I'll wash the pot and go out." "I know it's best to wash the pot while it's still hot, otherwise it will be difficult to clean when it cools and the oil stains solidify.
Just now I was busy with the kitchen and when I sat down to rest, I suddenly heard my aunt's voice: "Yo, Ah Hao, have you two been promoted and raised?" The son-in-law and daughter were a little puzzled, shook their heads and said no.
The aunt smiled and said, "I thought you were rich!" Look at the beef, chicken, ribs, and pork on this table, this meal will cost hundreds, right? You guys are too lavish to eat. ”
I feel a little embarrassed, today these ingredients plus drinks cost nearly 400 yuan, which is indeed a bit overspending.
At that time, I just thought that there were relatives at home and wanted to make the two grandchildren happy and take into account their tastes, so I bought some variety of dishes. I didn't expect my aunt to react like this.
The smile on her daughter's face faded a little, explaining, "We don't usually have such a hearty meal. It's just that my parents and aunts are coming, so I specially asked my mother to buy more. With so many dishes, my mother has been busy for nearly two hours. ”
My mother-in-law said, "I've worked hard for you, and I've also broken my money." I especially like to eat lean meat and fried mushrooms, Lao Zhao, you see, my in-laws also made beef pot, don't you also like to eat it? The aroma is tangy. ”
The daughter held the beef in her hand and said with a smile, "Grandma's beef is so delicious." Daddy, hurry up or I'm going to eat it all. ”
The son also interjected: "There is also the shrimp made by my grandmother, which is super delicious, and I have to finish it." ”
The children's fairy tales liven up the atmosphere.
Today, my aunt is a little unhappy. She glanced at the boiled shrimp on the table, and her expression was a little dissatisfied: "I tell you, don't buy so many prawns for the children anymore, who knows how they are raised." And these mushroom ......”
Before she finished speaking, her father-in-law interrupted her: "Don't say it, let's eat." If you don't eat the vegetables, it will be cold. ”
The mother-in-law also hurriedly echoed: "Yes, let's eat." It's a pity not to eat such a delicious dish. ”
The son-in-law peeled the shrimp with a smile and said, "Aunt, if you don't eat it, I'll eat more." My mother's skills are no less than those of the chefs outside. The daughter also laughed and picked up a shrimp.
My daughter's support warms my heart. My old employer was always satisfied with the food I cooked, and often called ** to ask me how to cook and how to cook.
The employer even wanted me to go back to work as a live-in nanny at home, but unfortunately I had already decided that I wouldn't go back.
The daughter arranged a nanny in advance for emergencies during the pregnancy preparation, but unfortunately, the original nanny was unable to attend the appointment due to temporary affairs. In order to solve the problem of taking care of their granddaughter, they had to find a new nanny temporarily, but they had to lay off due to unpleasant getting along.
In this urgent moment, two new parents are in a hurry, they urgently need to take care of their granddaughter but cannot find a suitable person. The daughter's mother-in-law was unable to come to help due to her busy business, and the daughter herself suffered some accidents and was unable to take care of the child by herself.
The son-in-law happened to take over a key new project, and for him, it was an opportunity for a promotion and a raise, and he was reluctant to give it up. When I learned about this, I quit my job as a nanny at home and went back to take care of my daughter and granddaughter.
However, I didn't expect that this time I would go back to care for it and turn into a residence that lasted for nearly six years. At the family dinner, despite the excitement, my heart was a little heavy. I bothered to prepare a table of sumptuous dishes, but found that my aunt still had many opinions on various things.
She is always picky in her words, but she is not a picky eater when it comes to eating, and even picks up a lot of dishes. She seems to be ambivalent about her approach to food, complaining that the dishes are not wild and delicious enough while tasting them.
I can't help but be puzzled, after all, my father-in-law is a tolerant and kind person, why is there such a big difference in the relationship between their sister and brother?
After the meal, the daughter and son-in-law sorted out the dishes together, and then the aunt interjected: "Hey, Ah Hao, how can you worry about these trivial things?" The mother-in-law has nothing to do, so she should wash the dishes. You've worked so hard all day, it's time to rest. ”
The daughter's face suddenly turned ugly: "Auntie, what do you mean you have nothing to do?" The food we ate just now was made by my mother. She went grocery shopping at half past two in the morning, and then until half past five, and she didn't rest for three whole hours. ”
The aunt was a little disapproving: "There are a total of 24 hours a day, and your mother only does it for 3 hours, is this hard?" ”
The daughter's eyes were red with anger: "After my mother moved in, I didn't see her have any leisure. I get up at 5:30 a.m. every morning to make breakfast for us, and I have to take the children to school; At noon, he was responsible for making lunch for me and Ah Hao; Pick up and drop off the kids in the evening, cook dinner for us, and then have to help take care of the kids. I really haven't seen her stop. ”
Seeing her daughter's eyes red, the aunt said with some embarrassment: "I just said casually, why did you make it seem like I was bullying you, you are too squeamish, right?" People who haven't seen the world think I'm bullying you.
Moreover, your mother moved to your house to support the elderly, originally hoping that you would give her a peaceful old age, shouldn't she help do something? ”
I listened quietly, and I couldn't help but feel a wave of anger in my heart. This aunt's attitude is really incomprehensible, in the past, at most she was critical of small things, but now she blames me, and I really can't understand when I offended her.
At this time, the son-in-law spoke: "Auntie, maybe you don't know, when we bought this house, my wife's mother also paid 380,000 yuan. Therefore, this house is half of hers, and the remaining half is our husband and wife. Isn't it normal that she wants to spend her old age in her own home? ”
My son-in-law was right, when my daughter got married, she needed to buy a house, and I paid 380,000 yuan. In fact, my daughter and son-in-law invited me to live here to help take care of the children, also out of concern for my old age.
After listening to her son-in-law's explanation, the aunt felt a little uncomfortable on her face, and her voice raised a few points: "What's normal about this?" As a mother, isn't it natural to help her daughter buy a house? ”
Sister, what you said is a bit excessive. The father-in-law, who was playing with the child in the child's room, heard the argument and walked over. After hearing the eldest sister's words, he also interjected: "This is a matter for the husband and wife, they can solve it themselves, why are you meddling." ”
Auntie's face changed again and again: "I'm just asking, is there anything wrong?" Ah Hao wants to provide for his mother-in-law to the end, isn't this a debt? I'm worried about my nephew's ......”
The father-in-law interrupted her impatiently: "What did you say?" The mother has only one daughter, shouldn't she follow her daughter to support the elderly? Ah Hao married someone's only daughter and didn't provide for her, do you think it's appropriate? ”
The aunt suddenly lost her words: "That ......."”
What did you say? The mother-in-law interrupted the aunt's words.
The author emphasized: "People are like honey, all of them are unique; But don't be like arsenic, forcibly indoctrinate. "Everyone is an individual who thinks independently, with a unique mind and character. Blindly imposing one's own experiences and opinions on others can not only be harmful, but also resentful.
In relationships, the most enjoyable way to get along is to maintain proper boundaries. Moderate distance can be aesthetically pleasing, because everyone has imperfections. If you go beyond your personal space, snoop on your privacy, or interfere too much in the lives of others, it will cause distress to them.
It is a basic moral etiquette to refrain from judging others at will, and not to interfere with their lives. Everyone has a unique lifestyle, and no one wants to be overly intervened.
In life, we need to be respected, and we also need to respect others. This respect is mutual, and when you give some respect, the other person will respond with the same attitude.