The son was not successful, and Tao Yuanming wrote a scolding poem to express his helplessness
Tao Yuanming has five children, and each son is like a unique one"Stars", with a different light in the father's eyes.
However, this colorful"Starlight"did not illuminate Tao Yuanming's heart, but made him feel helpless.
The eldest son, Ashu, is one"Lazy Star", which gave Tao Yuanming a headache.
He is as lazy as everyone else, doing nothing all day long, idle.
Tao Yuanming tried his best to let him read, but when it was time to read, Shu Chang always closed his eyes, yawned, and soon fell asleep.
Tao Yuanming picked up the book in front of him and wanted to read it, but he kept humming and chirping, not moving at all.
Tao Yuanming persuaded him to write, but he shrank aside and refused to write.
Tao Yuanming could only shake his head and sigh:"My good son, how can this be!
The second son, Ah Zhi, is one"Stay Star", I don't like literature and history. He had little interest in literature and art, and was silent from an early age.
Tao Yuanming meticulously taught him poetry and songs, but he was always absent-minded and expressionless.
When Tao Yuanming read "The Story of the Peach Blossom Spring" to him, he was still yawning, and when he read "Mulan Ci", he had already fallen asleep on the chair.
Tao Yuanming sighed:"I love poetry and books all my life more than anything, how could I give birth to such a hard-working child!
Tao Yuanming's three or four sons, Amu and Ashi, are like two illiterate ones"Dumb star"。
They don't like to read or write since they were young. Tao Yuanming tried hard to teach them to read and write, but they always knew nothing about it, neither knowing numbers nor words.
Tao Yuanming took the "Three Character Classic" and knocked it over and over again, but they couldn't remember a word.
Tao Yuanming couldn't help but sigh secretly"I'm also a scholar, how could I make two of these logs!
The youngest son, Tong, is a man who only knows how to eat"Food star"。
He chases food all day long and devotes himself to eating, Tao Yuanming praised him"God of Food"He nodded happily in agreement.
Tao Yuanming made his best fish-flavored shredded pork balls, wanting to cultivate his dietary taste, Tong Dawei ate it with relish, and burped after eating, but it did not improve his dietary taste.
Tao Yuanming couldn't help but sigh"My five children have different talents, why don't any of them look good?
Tao Yuanming's five sons have their own characteristics, one is different from the other, but one is not as good as the other, which makes him feel"The sword has no edge", quite helpless.
In fact, children's personalities are very different and show the color of each person's life, so as a parent, it is wiser to guide rather than force.
These five children"Unfamiliar", reminiscent of Tao Yuanming's own experience.
He had served many times and lived in seclusion, and his impetuousness was not necessarily more stable than his five children.
Perhaps it was this similarity between father and son that made him tolerate his incompetence with his fifth child.
These five are colorful"Stars"Can it become dazzling under Tao Yuanming's care?"Sirius", let's wait and see.
His growth process will definitely touch Tao Yuanming's heart, making him constantly reflect on how to educate children and gain life wisdom from it.
Tao Yuanming rose and fell in the sea, lived in seclusion in the mountains and forests, and his mood repeatedly wandered between the court and the countryside.
This contradictory choice also profoundly affected his expectations and teachings for his children.
At the age of 20, Tao Yuanming wrote poems to express the embarrassment of his family, expressing his desire to be an official and to become famous.
He wanted to be a civil servant, so he wrote in the poem:"The plan of the day is in the morning"。
Later, because of the depression of quitting his career three times, 40-year-old Tao Yuanming chose to live in seclusion in the countryside and called himself"Return to the garden and live in the countryside", began to hesitate between court life and country life.
When he left office, Tao Yuanming sincerely hoped that the children would study hard, meet friends with literature, and have a successful career in the future.
He always told the children to be diligent and hardworking, asking them to study hard day and night so that they could do well in the imperial examinations in the future.
Therefore, Tao Yuanming often explained the Four Books and Five Classics to the children, asking them to recite and write silently; He also commissioned people to make silk and bamboo musical instruments, and let the children practice piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, hoping to cultivate their elegant temperament.
After living in seclusion, Tao Yuanming's thinking changed, and he began to encourage his children to learn to farm, enjoy the freedom of rural life, and stay away from the distractions of official careers.
Tao Yuanming took the children to work in the fields, taught them farming techniques, and let them play barefoot in the rice fields and get close to nature.
The sudden change baffled his children.
They had just been studying day and night at their father's request, and were supposed to succeed in their future careers, when they were suddenly asked to give up their books and go to work in the countryside, contrary to their previous directives.
In the face of their father's contradictory demands, the two sons were in a dilemma, and it was inevitable that their personalities would be public, which made Tao Yuanming helpless.
In fact, Tao Yuanming's choice was not uncommon at the time.
Many academics see the hardships of their careers and are tired of the corruption of the courts. It is not uncommon for them to value their children's studies but encourage them to live in seclusion.
First, they demand that their children get ahead in their studies, and then they want their children to stay away from the chaos, and this sudden change often overwhelms them.
Tao Yuanming found himself in the same predicament, which led him to make contradictory demands on his five children.
This may be the reason why Tao Yuanming struggled between the court and the field, and the five children were confused in their father's contradictory expectations, and they didn't know what to do.
The different personalities of the children also reflect the inner contradictions of the father.
There is still a lot to look forward to in the development of this relationship, and we will see if Tao Yuanming can recover his health and bounce back again.
Tao Yuanming's love for his children is beyond words.
He gave each child a symbolic name, and wrote poems such as "Punishment Son" and "Giving Son", which were serious and loving, fully reflecting the family affection between father and son.
Tao Yuanming named his eldest son"Ah Shu", hoping that he will grow up carefree; Name the second son"Ah Zhi", I hope he has great ambitions;
He named his third and fourth sons, respectively"Amu"with"Ah Shi", which means that they should study diligently and persevere; Name your youngest son"Ah Tong", I hope he is well-read and knowledgeable.
The good wishes contained in these names fully reflect Tao Yuanming's infinite intentions and expectations for his children as a father.
However, the children's personalities were contrary to their father's expectations, and Tao Yuanming could only sigh.
He wrote this helplessness and concern into the poem "Punishing the Children", in which he seriously criticized the children's faults.
There is a stern love between the lines, both the father's earnest teachings and the infinite expectations for his children.
The eldest son is not enterprising, the second son is slow by nature, the third and fourth sons are unlearned, and the younger son only knows how to eat heavenly porridge"。
This description points out the children's problems and expresses Tao Yuanming's anxiety and worry as a father.
The poem "Ideas" expresses Tao Yuanming's heartfelt wishes for his children.
He expects his children to do their best to understand their own destiny and advises them to learn knowledge and will through their own experiences and those of their ancestors.
End of sentence"But my order, the son's encouragement"It expresses Tao Yuanming's responsibilities and expectations as a father.
Tao Yuanming's poems show the intentions and expectations of ancient Chinese parents for their children.
They spared no effort to teach, set an example, and admonish, hoping that every child and grandchild would become a talent.
However, Tao Yuanming's poems also reveal his incompetence and pain as a father.
We look forward to seeing what kind of knowledge he gains from this experience, which will also be an inspiration for today's parents."
The story of Tao Yuanming and his children has not yet been finalized, so let's wait and see.
Tao Yuanming"There is no way to teach children"It makes people think about how to properly educate their children as parents.
Tao Yuanming has high hopes for his five children, hoping that they will learn to understand reason and be able to glorify their ancestors in the future.
But the five sons have unique ideas and interests, and none of them have become perfect in Tao Yuanming's mind. As a father, Tao Yuanming can't help but let go of his body and teach his son to repent.
In fact, the predicament encountered by Tao Yuanming is also the common pain of countless parents, and the child is an independent individual, not an extension of the will of the parents.
Being too pampered can easily hurt a child, but being too harsh can also be counterproductive. Educating children is an in-depth science, and guidance alone is not enough.
Perhaps Tao Yuanming should observe more of the five children's interests and strengths when they are young, and use various activities to develop the children's potential.
You can also put yourself in Goji's shoes and communicate and listen more instead of demanding.
Even if your child is on a different path than you expected, as a parent, you should embrace it.
Tao Yuanming's plight is an inspiration to future generations of his parents, and we hope that his reflections will be inspiring and of great benefit to people today.
The story of Tao Yuanming and his children continues, and it remains to be seen whether their relationship will improve as a result.
Tao Yuanming's relationship with his five sons has gone through ups and downs, and the wisdom of life contained in it has benefited future generations.
The difference between the five children made Tao Yuanming feel helpless for a while, but as a father, he should appreciate the unique talents of the children.
Tao Yuanming's choice between the court and the countryside also reflects the inner contradictions, but this is precisely the turmoil in the process of growing up.
Tao Yuanming's love for children is fragrant and beautiful, even if there are complaints, it also contains expectations. Educating children is not an easy task, but it can be improved through reflection.
Every grass and tree has vitality, and so does every child and the elderly. The five sons Dengke and Tao Yuanming are two branches of life, nourishing each other and growing together.
The sublimation of their relationship is the triumph of humanity and the harmony of the family.
Tao Yuanming lived in turbulent times, and the story of him and his five children shows the feelings of family and country.
As children, we must use the wisdom of our ancestors; As parents, we must guide our children with wisdom rather than imposition.
Tao Yuanming left behind not only a poetic legacy, but also a father-son relationship that can be sung and cried.