Text: Ling Ting Education |Typography: lingting
I am often asked an esoteric question by my students:Why would my husband choose a woman who already has a family and children as his third party?
What's even more puzzling is that even though my husband didn't give her a good amount of money, there were even times when she paid more for the relationshipWhat is she up to?
In my years of experience in extramarital affairs counseling, I have observed that more and more married women are involved in extramarital affairs and are deeply entangled with men.
I have written about the psychology of this type of man who chooses a married woman in my article, and today, I want to delve into the psychological motivations of these married mistresses.
1.Seek emotional fulfillment
Many women may not be getting the emotional feedback they expect in their marriage. This may be due to the husband's indifference, neglect, or the estrangement between the two parties in terms of emotional communication. When they feel that their emotional needs in their marriage are not being met, they may look outward for emotional solace.
2.Desire to be loved
Love is a basic human need, and some women may feel that they are not truly loved in marriage. This kind of love may involve many aspects such as care, understanding, respect, etc. When they don't feel this in their marriage, they may turn to extramarital affairs to find that missing love.
3.Avoid real-world dilemmas
Some women may choose to run away from marital difficulties, such as persistent arguments, indifferent treatment, and even domestic violence. The affair became a temporary refuge for them to forget about the unpleasantness of the family for a moment and seek a moment of peace.
4.Finding self-identity
Some women may feel that they have not gained enough self-identity in their marriage and therefore want to prove their charm and worth through extramarital affairs. In their view, extramarital affairs may be the only way for them to gain true recognition and respect.
5.Disillusionment with marriage
When women are disappointed in their marriage and believe that it did not bring the desired happiness and fulfillment, they may seek extramarital affairs as a way to find new happiness and fulfillment. In their eyes, an affair may provide an opportunity to escape from their existing married life.
6.Exploiting "married" status for profit
I mentioned earlier that some men deliberately choose married women when looking for an extramarital affair. This is because married women usually have a family and children bonding, making them less likely to get carried away easily by love. However, some women take advantage of this and trade money with men for gainresources, money, or other benefits。They may provide physical satisfaction in exchange for male support, promotions, or other benefits. Once the deal is made, the "feelings" become a means, and once the deal is over, the "feelings" dissipate.
However, regardless of the motivations and psychological state of these women, extramarital affairs can have a negative impact on the family. The more they seek in an affair, the easier it is to expose their weaknesses that could ruin their families and their lives.