The parent-child relationship is the most intimate blood relationship in the world today. The close connection between the two is not just blood, but a long-term companionship and living together. But sometimes, such closeness can also become fragile and eventually be broken. In order to maintain a harmonious parent-child relationship, there are three issues that we must avoid.
Don't hurt the mutual trust between us.
The trust between parents and children is not only blood affection, but also a feeling of mutual respect and understanding. However, sometimes parents will actively intervene in their children's life patterns and decisions, and such excessive intervention can often lead to a breakdown of mutual trust. For example, some parents change their children's college admission plans in order to give their children a good future. However, doing so is not only against the child's own will, but also undermines the mutual trust between the child and the parents. We need to know that once a credit is broken, it is difficult to repair it. Therefore, parents and children should respect each other and not hurt each other's confidence because of excessive intervention.
We need to build an open, honest and equal relationship with parents and children through communication. Parents should have confidence in their children and let them have their own freedom. At the same time, children should also pay attention to their parents' views and suggestions, and understand their parents' thoughts and thoughts.
Don't hurt too deeply.
The relationship between parents and children should be a kind of love and affection, not a kind of relationship that can be arbitrarily damaged and consumed. Sometimes, some parents abandon their children and live alone. This trauma is unforgivable and can cause indelible pain to children. Even if they have any regrets in the future, they will not be able to come back here. This scar can never be erased, so we must always remember not to let the other person get too hurt.
Children should have proper respect for their lives and keep a certain distance from them. Don't give your child too much interference and excessive freedom. Everyone has their own personal space, their own life, and their own children. Excessive intervention can lead to conflicts and obstacles in the relationship between two people. We need to find a balanced relationship between children and parents, pay attention to the lives of parents, and give children full freedom and respect.
Don't interfere too much in each other's lives.
The relationship between parents and children will inevitably change, and as children become a person, they will have their own lives and choices. Parents should fully respect their children's independence and independence, and should not interfere too much in their children's lives. Children should also learn how to respect their parents and not rely on them too much. Only by respecting each other can the relationship between parents and children remain healthy and stable.
Some children are too dependent on them and ask them to do anything for them. Excessive dependence on children not only makes parents physically and mentally exhausted, but also makes parents feel that they have lost their autonomy and freedom. Some parents cannot provide necessary help and support for their children after they grow up, and such loss and helplessness will cause conflicts and conflicts between husband and wife. The relationship between parents and children should be one of mutual respect and mutual benefit, rather than one-way "seeking" and "relying on".
The conclusion is that the parent-child relationship is a kind of kinship bond based on mutual respect and love. To maintain a harmonious parent-child relationship, it is necessary to avoid destroying mutual trust, not to hurt each other, and not to interfere too much in each other's lives. Only mutual respect and understanding can build a solid bridge and make children happy and harmonious.
I believe that getting along with parents and children is a good time for each other to develop and improve together. As children, we must understand that the love and concern of our parents is to make our lives better. However, as a parent, you should fully understand your child's needs and demands, and give them full trust and support. On the basis of mutual respect and understanding, the love between children and parents will never disappear.