All the feelings in this world need to be managed and maintained, and the same is true between brothers and sisters.
The relationship between siblings is naturally formed, seemingly stable and solid, but it is easily broken. If you don't maintain it carefully and carefully, your feelings will slowly turn sour, and even turn against each other and not get along.
Therefore, some things that are easy to destroy the relationship between brothers and sisters, do not touch them, otherwise it is easy to turn brothers against each other, so you must keep it in mind.
1. Walk too close, there are no boundaries
There is a saying that says, "Any relationship that gets too close is a disaster." The same is true between brothers and sisters.
When they were young, siblings lived under the same roof, and they were a family with shared weal and woe, and they were close to each other and had nothing to say
However, when the brothers and sisters grow up and start a family, they must keep a certain distance from each other, if they get too close, there is no boundary, it becomes a disaster, the most common is that one party is overly dependent on the other, or overly compared with each other, jealousy.
In the TV series "Ode to Joy 3", Zhu Zhe unconditionally sponsored his younger siblings to go to school when they were young, which made his younger siblings develop the Xi of over-relying on Zhu Zhe and take Zhu Zhe's dedication to them for granted.
Even the expenses for the younger brother to take his girlfriend's mother to see a doctor, as well as the expenses for the younger brother to buy a house and get married, the younger brother naturally asked Zhu Zhe for it, which brought great trouble and pressure to Zhu Zhe, and also became the fuse for the sister and brother to tear their faces.
In addition, if brothers and sisters get too close, it is easy to make each other excessively compared, and the party with poor conditions will be jealous of the party with good conditions, so that the warmth of family affection between brothers and sisters will gradually disappear, and only various open and secret battles and comparisons are left, which is really chilling.
Therefore, between brothers and sisters, even if the relationship is good, they must keep an appropriate distance when they grow up, so as not to bring unnecessary trouble and trouble to each other because they are too close.
2. If you don't repay the borrowed money, you will lose your integrity
In life, it is inevitable that you will encounter troubles and difficulties, and you will need financial assistance.
In daily life, when we encounter difficulties and lack of money, the first thing that comes to mind is to seek the assistance of our relatives and borrow money from our closest brothers and sisters.
It is a good thing that brothers and sisters have relatives whose blood is thicker than water, helping each other and borrowing money for turnover.
However, it is important to understand the truth that "brothers settle accounts clearly, people are not close to money, and financial interests must be distinguished", so as not to affect the feelings between brothers and sisters because of the entanglement of financial interests.
In life, some brothers and sisters, due to family affection, often do not write IOUs when borrowing money, and rarely say the specific repayment time.
As a result, the borrower relied on the relationship between relatives and borrowed money for a long time without repaying itThe party who borrowed the money is embarrassed to ask for the account directly, and after a long time, it will become a confused account.
When the time comes, whether you pick it out or not, it will affect the relationship between brothers and sisters.
In the final analysis, no one's money is blown by the wind, brothers and sisters help each other out of affection, they should keep their promises, repay the money in time, and don't blindly consume family affection, otherwise it is easy to turn against each other.
In addition, no matter how good the relationship between siblings is, in terms of financial transactions, the accounts must be clear and unambiguous, so as to make the relationship between each other more stable and long-lasting.
3. Discuss your partner and sow discord
After siblings have their own partners, they can still talk to each other, which is naturally an enviable thing.
However, no matter how good the relationship between brothers and sisters is, you must know the truth that "if you say too much, you will lose it, and if you talk too much", try not to say it, and try not to mention it, so as not to destroy the feelings between each other.
In life, when many people have an emotional situation, they will find their closest brothers and sisters to tell that as blood relatives, as soon as they hear that the other party has been wronged or bullied, they will not be able to suppress the resentment and displeasure in their hearts, while comforting their brothers and sisters, while not forgetting to complain a few words about the other party's partner's badness, if you know what black history the other party has, it will become a killer weapon to slander the other party's partner.
However, you must know that in the relationship between husband and wife, the vast majority of people have this mentality, that is: my partner, only I can scold and reprimand, but others cannot, even if they are close.
In real life, there is often such a situation:
Obviously, the husband and wife are arguing with each other, and they are not giving in to each other, and they are almost about to make a move, but as soon as someone else adds fuel to the fire and says bad things about one party, then the husband and wife will immediately turn the spearhead and attack the outsider in unison.
Therefore, no matter how good the relationship between brothers and sisters is, when they have a partner with each other, they must pay attention to their words and deeds, and cannot interfere with each other's feelings at will, let alone say bad things about each other's partners behind their backs, so as not to embarrass their brothers and sisters, thus affecting each other's feelings.
Conclusion: There is an old saying: "If the clothes are torn, they can still be sewn."Broken hands and feet, Ankelian".
Brothers and sisters should cherish each other's feelings, and the above three things that will turn brothers and sisters against each other should never be touched.
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