"Do You Know": Why is Zhang Guifen a winner in life? Why is Mrs. Liang worse?
In the original work of "Know", the British duchess's mother's educational spirit is admirable. She carefully planned to guide her daughter Zhang Guifen to face the difficulties in life, and at the same time, through Mrs. Liang's experience, she warned her daughter to learn to deal with problems in marriage and not to trust others easily.
The Duchess of England not only did justice for her daughter, but also taught her how to be a smart, strong mother.
Mrs. Liang was of noble birth, but under the arrangement of that era, she had to spend her life with people she didn't like. Also suffered Zhang Guifen, as the only daughter of the British princess, although she had a prominent background, she had to sacrifice her happiness for the imperial power and married a person she was not satisfied with.
Both women suffered in an era when they could not choose their own marriage, and they had to live a negative life to fight the injustice of fate.
Zhang Guifen and Mrs. Liang have very different endings. Mrs. Liang lived like a year, raising tigers for trouble, but as a result, she was overwhelmed by her son, and in the end she could only rely on a strong in-law relationship to barely make ends meet.
When the son inherited the title, the son of the concubine put forward a request to divide the family, and Mrs. Liang could only rely on the in-law relationship behind her daughter-in-law to suppress it. In order to survive, Mrs. Liang asked her grandson to marry Gu Tingye's niece and climbed into the Gu family.
We have been providing medicine to the Liang family, and this time we should give a gift to show our gratitude. It is said that all this was begged by Mrs. Liang personally from the eldest lady of the Gu family.
Marquis Liang is an honest man and will not deal with this kind of thing, but the Liang family's big house is becoming more and more prosperous. Mrs. Liang Hou was elegant and understanding, and she was about to cry every time she talked to me about difficulties.
Now that it's okay, the Liang family has climbed up to the Gu family. Although the Liang family has a title, the internal wealth has been reduced by more than half over the years, the population is large, the brothers are not in harmony, there are often disputes, and Mrs. Liang Hou has almost been boiled white.
Compared with Mrs. Liang, Zhang Guifen's life path can be said to be smoother and smoother, giving birth to ten children in a row, and she is also famous in the capital. In the second chaos in the capital, Zhang Guifen was not afraid of danger, bravely killed the enemy, and won honor for her family, and the people around her were full of admiration for her, and no one dared to provoke her easily.
From then on, the Shen Mansion would avoid seeing the Zhang family; The rest of Zhang's life was extremely beautiful, whether it was a concubine or a child, they didn't dare to say a word to her, if it was a blessing in disguise, it would not be impossible to put it aside for the time being.
is also married into a wealthy family, why can Zhang Guifen have the last laugh, but Mrs. Liang is getting worse and worse? It's just because Zhang Guifen has long been enlightened and knows how to take responsibility for her own life and is no longer at the mercy of others.
Mrs. Liang realized the seriousness of the problem, but by the time she found out, the eldest son had become an adult, shrewd and capable, good at hiding and holding grudges. Because Mrs. Liang was dissatisfied with the Marquis of Yongchang and refused to please him, in the face of this obviously neglected attitude, the Marquis of Yongchang was naturally not happy, so she openly pampered the concubine and let a scheming concubine give birth to the eldest son before Mrs. Liang.
I have to sigh that the Sheng family's family style is very good, and it is clearly stipulated that the eldest son must be born in the main family, so as to avoid the dispute between the concubines and concubines from affecting the development of the family. In wealthy families, having an eldest son is nothing new.
For example, in the Earl's Mansion of Zhongqin, after Sheng Hualan gave birth to Sister Zhuang's son, she had to face the difficulties of her mother-in-law. In order to fight against her mother-in-law, she even let the maid next to her open her face and gave birth to her eldest son.
Sheng Hualan is proficient in marriage management, successfully attracted her husband's attention, and gave birth to a number of sons-in-law, although the eldest son was not taken seriously, but it did not hinder her and her son's path.
For large families with the eldest son, the main family needs to plan in advance, either to take the eldest son by his side to cultivate family affection, or to make him a waste person to prevent future troubles.
Mrs. Liang chose to watch from the sidelines, and as a result, she raised a shrewd and capable eldest son, which is rare among many large families. Mrs. Liang didn't care about the eldest son, so that he was valued and appreciated by the Marquis of Yongchang, and he became more and more capable, and even had the ability to support the façade of the Marquis of Yongchang's mansion.
On the contrary, Mrs. Liang's biological son is not as capable as the eldest son and is not valued by his father. In the end, Mrs. Liang's high status caused her son to miss the position of the son, and the eldest son also had a chance to win the heir.
Mrs. Liang's youngest son, Liang Han, was even calculated by the eldest son of the concubine and married a woman named **. This made Mrs. Liang start to worry. Although Lady Liang's son eventually inherited the title, the life of the Marquis of Yongchang became more and more difficult, which was related to Lady Liang's failure to manage her marriage well.
Zhang Guifen has learned the lessons of her predecessors and understands that the mistakes of the past cannot be repeated. Under the reprimand of her mother, she finally accepted the arrangement of fate. She is strong and knows not only how to please her husband, but also how to spend her day.
She often visits Sheng Minglan, and will also participate in socials and fulfill her duties as a housewife.
After a woman gets married, she doesn't have to stick to a man all the time, and keeping a distance is more fresh. We have our own social circles and children, and it is more important to improve ourselves and do what we love.
Rather than spending time in arrogant persistence, it is better to live in sleek compromises. Whether it's washing your face with tears, or feeling sorry for yourself, or even looking for happiness, you're living your life.
Since it's better to die than to live, why not try to make your life better?
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