On January 5, in Huai'an, Jiangsu, an octogenarian rented a black car in the thick snow, braved the cold, and traveled 40 kilometers of ice and snow just to attend a relative's wedding. With full blessings, he handed over a gift worth 1,000 yuan, however, after returning, his heart was like ice, and he resolutely decided to cut ties with this family relationship. The twists and turns and resoluteness in this are like the blending of ice and fire, which is regrettable and emotional.
It turned out that this day was a big day for his wife's brother's son. Although his wife passed away a year ago, the old man still values the wedding very much. He solemnly demanded that his two sons and daughters be present, and that no one should be left behind. In his heart, maintaining a relationship with the bridesmaid's family is a vital thing.
However, since the 2nd, heavy snow has fallen all over the country, and Jiangsu has not been spared. Heavy snowfall for several days, combined with extreme temperatures, made it impossible for the children to drive. The day before the wedding banquet, for the safety of their father, who was in his 80s, the two children persuaded the old man not to go to the banquet the next day, but the old man insisted on refusing.
That night, because the heavy snow continued to fall, the son received a notice from the unit that all the staff went on the road to clear the snow, making it impossible for him to accompany his father to the wedding banquet. The daughter continued to persuade the old man not to go, but the old man insisted on going. He even said that even if he walked, he would walk to the wedding site. In desperation, the daughter had to accompany him with her son, who came home from vacation.
At seven o'clock in the morning, the three of them braved heavy snow and severe cold to go out, and the snow on the road was seven or eight centimeters thick. The daughter was worried and once again persuaded the old man to give up the plan, proposing to complete the gift money by transferring money through mobile phones. However, the old man suddenly lost his temper, and he firmly believed that only by being present in person could he show respect and concern for his relatives, otherwise they would lose face in front of their relatives.
The three of them waited for an hour at the bus stop to get on the bus. However, when the bus left the city and needed to transfer, they found that the bus to the countryside was out of service. The daughter thought that walking was impossible, because the road was too difficult to walk, and the old man could not reach it until dark. On the question of whether to go or not, the old man and his daughter had an argument. The old man still insisted on walking to his destination.
In a fit of rage, the daughter turned around and got on the bus back to the city, thinking that if she left, the old man would follow.
However, the old man strengthened his resolve. He took his grandson and spent 200 yuan to get into a black car.
The black car drove in the snow and wind for nearly two hours before sending them to the hotel for the wedding reception. The old man handed over a gift of 1,000 yuan and went to greet his relatives with joy, looking forward to their care and greetings. However, the relatives only greeted him politely and went on their own.
At the end of the feast, the old man sat alone, hoping that friends and relatives would invite him to his home for the night.
After waiting for a long time, no one came to greet them. The old man, who had planned to stay overnight and return tomorrow, gradually became heavy.
He got up and searched the hall, and found that the guests had left, and when he saw his wife and brother serving off the guests, he went up to greet them and said that he was going home. He hoped to be retained by his relatives, but what he didn't expect was that the relatives didn't say a word to keep them.
The old man left the hotel disappointed and angry. He spent another 260 yuan to call a black car home. When he returned home, he immediately called his children and announced that he was going to disown this relative. He said they didn't take themselves too seriously. He went through a lot of hardships to attend the wedding, but in exchange for the ignorance and indifference of his relatives. There was no concerned question about how he had come here, nor a kind word to keep him for the night.
The old man is overestimating this kinship. His passion and dedication were not reciprocated and respected as they should be. He takes others seriously, but others don't.
This story teaches us that everyone should not overestimate their place in the hearts of others. Sometimes, the higher our expectations, the greater the disappointment. We should learn to look at and handle interpersonal relationships correctly and not be overly involved in emotions so as not to get hurt.