Liang Dongfang. Babies need to see more, see more objects, streets, cars, pedestrians, trees, street signs, advertisements, and even road curbs and garbage cans, these things that adults are commonplace, all have the same novelty status in the eyes of babies. In this way, she can establish an early impression of the environment, which helps to understand the world she has just arrived.
Babies should see more people. Men and women, young and old, beautiful and ugly, and even different races, all have an equanimity in the eyes of babies. The people she sees are an important part of this rich world in front of her, and everyone deserves to be cherished. Only on the basis of seeing more people can the habit of not recognizing life be gradually formed. This socialization process at the beginning of life is very important. The direct manifestation is that when there are many people, the baby has more observation objects and information sources, and can grow faster and better in a relatively rich cognitive environment.
Babies should look far away, the buildings and the neon lights on the buildings in the distance, the viaducts and viaducts in the distance, the endless flow of vehicles in both directions, the corners of the sky and the clouds in the sky, are all in the distance in this architectural era where the skyline has been completely obscured. If you are always in the house and your vision is limited, you can't exercise your eye muscles well, and you're more likely to have problems like myopia.
No matter how impatient or cradled at home, as soon as you leave the house and walk out onto the street, the baby immediately quiets down. She was dazzled by everything in front of her, and everything in front of her made her need to use all her intellect to deal with it: observation, memory, and comprehension went on at the same time, and before one could be understood, the other came into view. Look at her serious look of curiosity, why are you embarrassed not to take her out!
Therefore, as long as it is not very hot or cold, you must take the baby out for a walk. Holding the child and pushing the child in a trolley to walk outside, there are nannies and aunts, parents and parents, as well as grandparents and grandparents. In this ranks, I belong to the last group. Before I thought much about this kind of scene, I had already entered the character directly.
In the streets and alleys, in public places, the elderly with children are the most easily ignored, and in fact always ignored. The elderly who hold a child have no social identity, or their social identity is just an idler holding a child. For many people, social identity, which is not without formalism, and the external "status" that has nothing to do with the real self, has always been alienated into the indispensable support of the real self. Now on such an occasion of holding a child, there is no support, and there are no symbols such as what was before, what was once there, what association member, what allowance recipient and so on, and only a real old man is left holding a real child. What is not the idler who lost the ** and the venue shelf? Although no one has said it, this kind of judgment is close to consensus, and only when you hold your child, you will have a real experience.
Although I never care about the so-called social identity when I go to work, I still have a lot of emotions when I really show up on the street and supermarket with my child in my arms without an identity.
On the one hand, it is easy for you to be overlooked, and there will not be anyone with whom you have any relationship between checks and balances; There is no division between superiors and subordinates, no professional prestige, and no gender tension. Freedom has descended on the air and corners as never before, in a place that everyone can see and everyone can not see.
On the other hand, if you are holding a child, you can easily be judged to be basically harmless, not a threat to anyone, not aggressive, and even strongly related to qualities such as kindness and gentleness, or at least not irritable, and patient. Not all people who hold children are in this way, but weak children are involved in those virtues of people. Qualities such as kindness, good attitude, and stable mentality will be endowed from the outside and themselves, intentionally or unintentionally, as if this is a character with fixed personality, psychological and behavioral characteristics on the stage of life, otherwise it is not a character with a child and an old man.
Even if you are not very old, you will grow old with your child. For you will "do nothing" and you will no longer be in a hurry; Together with the baby who has not yet entered society, you have become a social observer and a bystander without identity.
You will be cautious, cautious, and cherish your feathers, for fear that the wind will blow and the rain will blow, and the dust will be covered and touched by vehicles and pedestrians, and you will be afraid that your inappropriate behavior will affect the child; As for trivial matters such as thirst, hunger, urine, etc., in the years of my life, I have always only relied on habits and instincts to deal with them, and I have not paid much attention to them, and now when facing the baby in my arms, I have to fundamentally re-examine and treat them.
Babies allow the elderly to gradually enter the end of their lives, and make a refresh from the source. In the meticulous care of the baby, the details of the infant years that have long been forgotten are reviewed. The life of a little baby, who had never been taken for granted in the previous years of life, is now very concretely presented in front of his eyes, without the nervousness and busyness of facing his own child or baby, and he can look at everything about the baby with a relatively objective and calm eye, and he finds that many extremely valuable qualities in the baby are really the most universal humanistic basis on the planet. All humanistic thinking must have its roots in this specific concern for infants.
In this way, you can make up for the broken memories at the beginning of your life, and you can look back on your own life, and even quickly glance at everyone's similar lives from beginning to end. From the purity of the baby to the complexity of the first, from the baby's knowledge and growth to old age, everything has become an unthinking habit and even a numbing stiffness. Among them, the taste is sweet and bitter, and there is a sudden relief in addition to sighing and sighing. This is the sense of wholeness that has been experienced at every stage of life, and this is the natural nature of life given by God.
From this point of view, it is undoubtedly a blessing to be an old man holding a child on the street. As for the baby who is always warm with her small body, the sparse hair on her big head stands upright and always exudes a good smell of baby fragrance, and her eyes are overwhelmed by everything, she interacts with you from time to time, and she grows up step by step in your company every day, then it is a source of satisfaction and happiness in the meaning of the topic, and the source of a sense of accomplishment that one's life has been endowed with real value.