The psychology of a man in a long distance relationship

Mondo Psychological Updated on 2024-02-28

A long-distance relationship is when a couple of lovers live separately and find it difficult to meet. In today's society, many couples can only choose to fall in love from a distance, and in this distance, both parties feel a kind of torment. Who doesn't want their lover to be by their side every day, to see each other every day, but that's just a thought.

1.I hope my girlfriend doesn't change her mind.

In fact, a girl in a strange place, without the company of her boyfriend, it is easy to feel lonely, although she has a boyfriend, but without the care of her boyfriend, which will make her feel very pitiful, and because there is no boyfriend, plus all kinds of ** in society, so boys are very worried. So, in the beginning, the boys expect the girls to hold on and remain faithful to the relationship!

2.Resist **, endure loneliness.

If she was still alone, she wouldn't feel how difficult life was, but she already had a boyfriend, and she still had to face everything alone, and she suddenly felt that life was very difficult. Every pair of lovers who are far away have to endure **, endure loneliness, and only in ** can they see each other and then meet again. If both people can survive, then the relationship between the two people will be better.

3.Caught in suspicion, quarrels, cold wars.

People in long-distance relationships will insist on calling each other every day, sometimes for a month or two before they can meet, in order to make up for the regret that their lover is not around. However, due to some external factors, at one point, the boy could not contact the girl, and then the boy began to try, doubting himself, and the girl was unwilling to explain, and in the end, the two quarreled, and finally it turned into a cold war, and there was a crisis in the relationship, which is the only way for all long-distance relationships!

4.Reconciled again and again.

Although their relationship has fallen into a crisis, they have not completely separated, therefore, the boy is very unwilling to break up like this, so, he often contacts his girlfriend, he will take the initiative to admit his mistakes, and apologize to the other party, hoping that the two can get back together, and will personally pick a gift for the girl, hoping to get back together, but this is not a way, if the two people still want to be together, they must change.

5.Dispel suspicion and build trust.

Gradually, the boy realizes that this is his own overthinking, and the girl is very persistent in this relationship, so the boy will try to save the girl, but this needs to be solved face-to-face, and the best way for the boy is to give up all his work, run to the girl's city, give the girl a chance, let her feel your love for her, and in this way, trust will be restored between them.

Because the two sides have different positions and cannot communicate face-to-face, the differences between the two sides will be infinitely widened, and the contradictions will become more and more. For example, when a girl is sick, she will text her boyfriend, saying that she needs to take medicine, see a doctor, and pay attention to rest. All she needed was the comfort of men. If you don't know what's going on, you can respond like this: "Take your medicine and see your doctor." Of course, this is also to blame him, from his point of view, his girlfriend does not seem to have a good impression of him, if others ask for him, he will definitely not hesitate to help. This shows well in this example. Men should understand women's hearts, and women should not make it difficult for men, and both parties should take some time and put themselves in each other's shoes.

What to do if you quarrel will be noisy, the difference is that some people break up after a quarrel, while others are the more noisy the better. In a long-distance relationship, what I am most afraid of is the cold war, and any unhappiness can be resolved through quarrels. However, you have to remember to focus on reality, say whatever you have, solve one problem at a time, and don't pile it up. There is no point in simply arguing, they need to rise from arguing to communication, and then deepen understanding through fighting. What's more, both of them are in a long-distance relationship, whether they meet or not, there is no need to take into account each other's feelings, if the other party speaks first, they can also take advantage of the situation, so as not to cause conflicts when they get there. In the end, the two discussed, and when the quarrel was over, they each occupied one side.

The worst thing about long-distance relationships is that there is not much intersection between them, and the other party can easily tell you excitedly about what happened today, what happened, and what happened. The other person will think that you are very impatient and angry, why not listen? In fact, it is inevitable that two people do not have any common language. The two of them have lived for many years, and they still have to be busy with their own work. Rest assured, this problem is easy to solve. For example, if two people love to watch movies, then the two people agree that they must go to the same movie when the time comes, and then exchange views. Other interests are similar. If possible, they can also pull all their friends into their friend group, so that everyone has a common circle and more topics to talk about. Finally, it is important to focus on heart-to-heart communication and to go into each other's hearts instead of discussing things like "what did you eat today, what did you eat yesterday" or "what have you done for days in a row" all day long.

If you want to be a competent listener, it is difficult to achieve the effect without the help of facial expressions or body language, just **, text messages and other means. Therefore, when he is in a bad mood, you should try to comfort him as much as possible, not blindly listening, but also giving comments at the right time. He wanted to make people feel serious, and even though he didn't see it, his performance was obvious.

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