Marriage is one of the most important decisions in life, it is not only about the happiness of two people, but also about the future of two families. However, many people often fall into a misunderstanding when choosing marriage, that is, they regard marriage as a dream, rather than finding a partner.
A dream marriage is like a colorful bubble, which looks beautiful, but bursts at the touch of it. It may be based on romantic fantasies about love, expectations of perfection for the other half, or unrealistic visions of future life. However, when the sunlight of reality shines into this bubble, it disappears in an instant, leaving only loss and pain.
The essence of marriage is the companionship and support of two people in life. It is not a romantic game, but the real life of firewood, rice, oil and salt. In marriage, we need to face daily chores, responsibilities, and challenges. A good partner should be someone who supports you when you are difficult and shares with you when you are happy.
Finding a partner means that we are looking for someone who can understand, tolerate and support each other. This person is not necessarily the perfect lover of our dreams, but it must be a reliable partner in our lives. He may not have all the qualities we expect, but he must have the qualities we need, such as responsibility, honesty, kindness, tolerance, and so on.
When we see marriage as finding a partner, we pay more attention to the inner qualities of the other person and the compatibility with each other. We will pay more attention to the other person's personality, values, life attitude, etc., rather than just focusing on external conditions and superficial charm. Such a choice will make our marriage more stable and happier.
Of course, that's not to say we can't have dreams and pursuits. In marriage, we can still pursue our dreams, but we need to find a partner who can support us and understand us. In this way, our dreams will become a bright spot in our married life, not a pipe dream.
Marriage is about finding a partner, not a dream. When we understand this, we will cherish the people around us more and know how to love and be loved more. We will learn to grow in marriage, learn to take responsibility, and learn to give for each other. Such a marriage is the source of true happiness.
Let's let go of those unrealistic illusions and look for the person who can be with us for the rest of our lives with a plain heart. In the process, we will discover that true happiness is not in the distance, but in the days that surround us and accompany each other.
This is Yueniang's marriage and love, I hope some content can touch you.