Time flies, time passes quietly, and another round of the Spring Festival is coming in our ardent anticipation, but it is quietly drifting away before we know it.
In fact, in this most solemn and grand festival in the heart of the Chinese nation, laughter and laughter are not completely filled with it, but also a little confusion and doubts, like ripples knocking on the door of our hearts from time to time.
Like the subtle inflections in a beautiful movement, these confusions and questions reverberate in the melody of our lives, prompting us to explore the true meaning hidden behind the complex beats.
Where to spend the New Year is a tricky question!
After a year of hard work, the deepest expectation is the family reunion. However, the collision between the ideal plump picture and the skinny feeling of real life is often particularly prominent at the node of the Spring Festival.
During the Spring Festival, returning to the man's house or the woman's house for the New Year has become an unavoidable choice for many new families. Both sides have their own reasons, like a silent family game, quietly staged in a warm festive atmosphere.
Nowadays, it is common for one-child families to gather together, and while one party gathers together and is very lively, the other party may fall into a lonely and lonely situation; Moreover, the climate, environment, and customs of the other party's hometown will always make one of them feel uncomfortable, which will overshadow the joy of the festival.
As a result, some couples have adopted the method of taking turns to celebrate the New Year, returning to their hometowns to visit their relatives this year, and going to her house next year to fulfill their filial piety, so fair and just, everyone is happy.
Some even invited the elderly on both sides to spend a reunion year with the three families; Others choose to stay in their own homes to celebrate the New Year and visit their parents separately after the New Year.
As the old saying goes: "Husband and wife are of the same heart, and their profits are golden." ”
However, this did not solve the problem. Most of the young people in modern society grow up in pampering, rarely experience setbacks, are accustomed to doing what they want, and are often not easy to accept the arrangements of others.
Although various plans seem reasonable, in the actual implementation process, various unexpected situations will arise.
As a result, on the issue of going home during the Spring Festival, the smoke of war is sometimes pervasive, and contradictions and conflicts are inevitable.
There are even cases of people arguing over such trivial matters, which eventually lead to their respective return to their original families, and even the breakdown of marriages and parting ways.
On the surface, this is a trivial matter, but in fact it is an important subject to test the tolerance, understanding and humility of both husband and wife.
If you handle it properly, you can reap happiness and joy, and vice versa, it may become the fuse of emotional rifts.
Family gathering, post-00s say: I refuse to attend!
During the Spring Festival, family members gather together to share the reunion dinner, which is undoubtedly the most colorful scene. On weekdays, even if you are in the same city, you are in a hurry, and the moments of family and friends are precious. During the New Year's holidays, especially when the wanderers return to their hometowns, this reunion is even more warm and strong.
year", its inner meaning is the reunion and harmony of the family. However, in the face of such traditional customs, the modern young generation, especially the post-90s and post-00s groups, often look on coldly when the elders are keen to prepare for the party, lacking the deep expectations and joy of the elders.
Some young people even bluntly said, "I'm not interested in participating!" ”
As soon as this remark came out, the parents inevitably became angry when they heard this, and they hated to teach a lesson with a slap, and they were deeply worried: Throughout the year, isn't this reunion what the Chinese value most? Why are you so indifferent to the world?
Actually, these young people have their reasons too:
I don't usually have any intersection with these relatives, what is the basis of my relationship? If you are willing to maintain this connection, then you can do it, what does it have to do with me? ”
In the future, I don't plan to go back to my hometown and rely on their support, so instead of spending time contacting, I should focus on my own life. ”
You may find it difficult to understand how unbearable it can be to sit around a dinner table with people who don't speak a common language. Can a single meal give birth to deep feelings? ”
These resounding words made the older generation of parents feel confused and helpless. They see that today's young people prefer to laze at home rather than participate in family gatherings, and it seems that family ties are becoming increasingly alienated.
However, if you think about it carefully, behind these seemingly indifferent views, there seems to be some realistic considerations and truths.
A recent passage incisively points out that Chinese society in the past was deeply rooted in agricultural civilization, and its remarkable social feature was the close maintenance of clan blood ties.
At that time, people lived together in an environment of common ancestry, and the emotional bond between them was deep and knew each other.
However, with the changes of the times and the evolution of social structures, today's relatives and friends often no longer share the same life under the same roof since childhood, and the opportunities for daily interaction and communication are greatly reduced.
Especially when they enter the university or work force, their respective life circles and professional fields gradually drift apart, and even if they rarely get together, it is often difficult to find resonant topics, and the conversation falls into an awkward silence.
A hot question on the Internet reveals this phenomenon: why do people who have received higher education and accumulated a wealth of experience in big cities look out of place or even a little wooden when they return to their rural homeland?
The reason for this is not the physical separation, but the huge spiritual gap. They may be laughing and energetic in their social circles, but they may not be able to find intersections with familiar relatives and friends.
This reality has led many to realize that traditional kinship is being tested like never before, and that the phenomenon of so-called "ineffective socialization" is becoming more prominent. If this trend continues, kinship ties may face the challenge of drifting apart.
Visiting relatives and friends, the most unbearable moments are also endured!
During the Spring Festival, you embarked on the road home, followed the earnest entrustment of the elders, shuttled between your uncle, aunt and other relatives, and carried all kinds of tobacco, alcohol, sugar and tea gifts in your hands, and visited them one by one.
Every family, perhaps in an inadvertent corner, a young figure will suddenly appear, and the heart will suddenly feel warm, and it will naturally hand over a red envelope full of blessings.
At this moment, the numbers in the WeChat wallet seem to be jumping and dancing, quietly getting thinner and thinner.
However, it's not just the running water that makes people the most troublesome.
If you are of marriageable age but still single, when you enter the door of any relative, the seven aunts and eight aunts will always cast extremely concerned eyes, followed by a series of inquiries and urgings, like pins and needles to make you sit on pins and needles.
Even if you're in a two-person world, the problems won't be any less. The focus of attention often turns: "Whoever is already the parent of two children, why don't you hurry up?" ”
If you already have a cherub, people will say, "How come you have only one of all those who have three children?" ”
Before you enter the threshold of your relative's house, your mind begins to rac, thinking about how to skillfully respond to the "concern" of the seventh aunt and eight aunts, and find a reason that can both prevaricate and not lose etiquette.
Nowadays, many young people only return to their hometowns during the Spring Festival, but they still have to face the pressure of being urged to get married, being asked how much their salary is, how their business is doing, but few people really care about whether your life in the bustling city is hard and whether the pressure is huge.
Does this kind of embarrassment, entanglement, and disturbing emotions ever make you feel the urge to escape into the invisible? The flavors of life are all reflected in the reunion dinner of the Spring Festival, and the taste is only self-knowing.
According to the latest ** report, during the Spring Festival in 2024, a new trend is quietly emerging, and many young people no longer stick to the traditional custom of returning home, but choose to embark on a journey to visit the great rivers and mountains of the motherland.
This phenomenon has caused significant repercussions across the country, with crowds surging in major scenic spots, so much so that many popular attractions have had to take measures to limit the flow of visitors to ensure the safety of visitors and the quality of experience.
At the same time, even though some people still choose to return to their hometowns for the Chinese New Year, their lifestyles have also changed subtly. More and more people are inclined to book hotels in the county rather than return to their traditional homes in the countryside to enjoy a more comfortable and convenient holiday experience.
Another group of people regard returning to their hometowns during the Spring Festival as a set task, and after a short visit to their parents and a reunion dinner around the fireplace, they quickly set off for the city on the second or third day of the Lunar New Year, as if the ritual of the New Year has been compressed into just a few days.
In our daily life, these various voices and behaviors emerge one after another, which not only have a powerful impact on our deep-rooted ideas, but also lead us to think deeply and explore how to redefine the concept of "home" and the meaning of the traditional festival of the Spring Festival in the new era.