Procrastination is a passive aggression to resist the control of othersIn fact, procrastination and waiting are the things in the world that are most likely to crush a person's morale.
As parents, we should look at procrastination dialectically, slight procrastination is completely normal, but when it comes to procrastination or even serious procrastination, parents should reflect on and take necessary actions to help their children get rid of bad habits.
Children's procrastination is a chain reaction, which will not only consume children's life and will to learn, but also affect academic performanceParents are worried. The terrible thing is that the child slowly adapts to this mode of life and learning, and as he grows older and adolescence arrives, the more parents urge, the more rebellious the child is, and many things will backfire.
How does a child's procrastination form?
According to psychologists, the following factors can affect the development of procrastination in children:
1.The child is not confident enough
When a child thinks that learning is difficult and he can't do the problem himself, procrastination is a good solution. Many children will use procrastination to imply that they have worked hard inside.
.The child is too stressed
If the child is under too much pressure in learning, he will be very nervous in the face of homework and schoolwork, especially the child who usually lacks care, and is prone to self-criticism and self-blame. But this self-defeating mindset can increase anxiety and procrastination, and children who are often yelled at are likely to be the cause of procrastination.
3.Children are afraid of failure
If a child does not get the answer correctly in class or when he writes a question on stage, he will often resist this feeling. When he expects the result of doing homework, he will have a kind of avoidance mentality about doing homework, and in the long run, he will form procrastination. In this case, it is ostensibly procrastination, but the actual reason is that the child's ability to resist frustration is relatively low, and he begins to avoid real problems.
How can parents help their children get rid of procrastination? Teach you 2 ways to change your child's life!
1. Create a good learning atmosphere
Whether the child can be self-disciplined in learning has a lot to do with the child's learning atmosphere, the child's mind is not mature enough, so the concentration is not very strong when learning, even if the child is in primary school, the attention time is only a short 20 minutes. Therefore, to develop good study habits, concentration is very important, and the way to cultivate concentration must be a good family learning atmosphere, if the family learning atmosphere is not strong, children are easily distracted when studying.
I remember a parent consulted me about such a problem before, she said that their children's academic performance is usually very good, but since moving their grades have declined, and many ways can not be solved, and then I asked her about the specific situation, and then I understood clearly, it turned out that their new home lives on the third floor, downstairs is a night food stall, every night there is a loud sound coming up, affecting the child's attention, it can be seen how important the learning atmosphere is.
In addition, as parents, we also need to try not to interfere with our children's learning to avoid distractions and bad habits.
Two. Exercise your child's ability to resist frustration
Procrastination is essentially an avoidance behavior that occurs when a child is afraid of failure.
At this time, we can tell children that everyone has failures and it is not terrible, the important thing is to have the courage to face and correct mistakes, so that children can unload their psychological baggage.
Only children with strong ability to resist setbacks can be pampered in their future lives.
It is not difficult for us to find that being a qualified parent is one of the cruxes of solving children's procrastination.
Giving children more tolerance, understanding and love, and more high-quality companionship and respect will directly affect the formation of children's good habits.
The sooner parents guide their children to learn how to manage their time and adjust their own learning methods, the stronger their children's learning advantages will be.
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