It's been more than three months since I retired, and although it's not been a long time, my feelings have changed a lot.
During this period, I pondered while reading and experienced some life that I had never experienced before, such as: participating in offline psychology activities, going to the field to participate in labor, starting a sojourn life with my family, learning how to maintain health, etc.
In my opinion, everything I experience in life is a practice of self.
In my practice, my understanding of things is constantly changing, and my mind is maturing day by day.
One is that I have very little internal friction now, and I have begun to accept everything
I used to pursue perfection, and when something was not done well enough, or I didn't achieve my wishes, I would often condemn myself in my heart, attack myself, and feel that I was worthless.
It also makes me focus too much on the results and ignore the process experience when doing things.
Now I have very little internal friction, and I have begun to accept my imperfections and my ordinariness. When something is not done well, you can also forgive yourself and tell yourself that you have done your best.
When I began to accept myself, I became more calm, more willing to experience new things, and more willing to improve my cognition through continuous learning.
The second is that I don't like to cause trouble to others now, and I don't like to make trouble for myself
It turns out that I like to treat other people's affairs as my own, but as a result, other people's things are not done well, and my own things are not done well, and I spend my efforts, but I don't get good results.
Now I realize that everyone has their own problems, and one person can only manage their own problems.
Now I am no longer afraid of losing anyone, nor am I afraid of offending anyone, and I am learning to be a simple person.
No longer force yourself to do things that don't belong to you, get along with others, and get along well; If you don't get along, you pretend to be confused.
After learning to live simply, my mood is much more open, and I am more at ease when encountering things.
The third is that I am now, which neither belongs to anyone nor owns anyone
I used to think that I had a lot of people, including the people I loved and the people who loved me, and we were all part of each other, and there were no boundaries.
Now I realize that when a person feels like he belongs to someone, he has more expectations and dependence.
And anticipation is the beginning of a relationship that leads to hell.
When a person feels that he owns a certain person, he has more control and change in his heart, hoping that the other party will live according to his expectations, and will unconsciously change the other person.
Many conflicts between husband and wife and between parents and children are caused by this reason.
When I really returned to myself, I found my own life and began to have a completely different life from the past, which was a more wonderful life.
Fourth, I am now learning to live in the way I like
In the past, I always liked to put a lot of burden on myself, and when I did things, I always had the idea of "having to" in my heart, which made my life very passive.
Now I am starting to follow my inner thoughts to choose, to choose what to do or not to do.
I learned that life is my own, I learned to please myself, I learned to satisfy myself before I met the needs of others.
When I learn to love myself and have enough energy, my heart is more able to tolerate many things in life.
I began to be able to accept different points of view from others, to listen to others, to understand others, to meet others, and to become an empathetic person.
After I retired, I learned to make trade-offs and not be in a hurry.
I learned to choose my life seriously and embrace the life I chose and love my destiny.
I went from being a passive person in my past life to being an active participant in my current life.
At the same time, he also withdrew from other people's worlds and began to shine in his own world.
I know it's going to be a wonderful start.
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