David went to play with his classmates, but instead of taking the bus or taking a taxi according to his mother's advice, he chose to ride a motorcycle on the road.
David said that he has always liked the feeling of being in the wind and breathing with the heavens and the earth.
But unfortunately, on the mountain road, he got into a car accident. A flying rock smacked on the front wheel, turning the car upside down.
Because of the fast speed of the car, Dawei was thrown out more than ten meters, and happened to be stopped by a branch on the side of the road, so he did not slide down the cliff.
The car was towed to the repair shop, and he returned home in frustration.
He was greeted by a roar from his mother, followed by a barrage of complaints, and David couldn't interject at all.
Seeing his emotions change from frustration to grievance, and finally to despair, Dawei slammed the door and walked away in a fit of rage. The mother was still there reprimanding ......
This is a classic case that is somewhat extreme, and it vividly illustrates many contradictions in parent-child relationships. Of course, there must be a deep reason behind the occurrence of the incident, I don't know how long it has been accumulating grievances, but I found the problems of this mother and son.
The mother has been attacking her son, and in the case of the child being frustrated. The common phrase she uses is "I know it's wrong!" "Who told you not to listen to me" ......
Please try to imagine Dawei's mood in the story. After suffering such a severe blow, he was verbally attacked by his mother. This caused him to suffer a "second trauma" emotionally
It has to be said that this situation is still quite common in real life. When the child is injured and depressed, the parent chooses to "kick" again
I never understood the point of doing this.
In this sad moment, the child should first take care of his emotions as a parent. If parents are having trouble controlling their emotions, it is likely that they are venting their anger at their children. Of course, to be honest, this must not be the original intention of parents. What should parents do when their children do something wrong and are frustrated?
Resolution. After the child is frustrated, even if it is completely caused by him, he needs more care and encouragement from his parents. Because, at this time, he has experienced trauma, and the child needs to heal his emotions as soon as possible. When he gets through this difficult time, you can choose to go over and hug the child and say don't be afraid, there is a ...... for dad
You read that right, the more you are at this time, the more you must double down on protecting him and giving him a sense of security, and for children, support from parents is the most important.
Relative to the child's physical and mental health, those rights and wrongs really don't matter for the time being, don't they?
When the matter is over, you can choose to have a long talk with him, reminisce about the sad moment together, and make your own suggestions that he can accept with an open mind, which is a clever way. Why do you have to sprinkle a handful of salt on your child when he is most hurt?
When your child is frustrated, what you need to do as a parent is to take care of your child first.