Mr. Qian Zhongshu famously said in "The Siege of the City": "The old man is out of love, like an old house on fire, which cannot be saved." It expresses a deep sense of stability. , encountering emotional fluctuations and complex inner world. Middle age is often seen as a rewarding time in life, but it can also be a time when emotional infidelity is prone to occur. As the movie "Mobile Phone" joked, sleeping in the same bed for many years will inevitably lead to moments of "aesthetic fatigue".
However, marriage is not a simple relationship between two people, but the culmination of years of hard work. When their partner's betrayal is revealed, many choose to remain silent. The reasons behind this are often deep and complex.
First of all, children are an important reason why many middle-aged couples hesitate to divorce. I once heard a story about Brother Wang. Brother Wang worked hard in the construction industry for many years, and was eventually promoted to manager, and has a daughter with his wife, who seems to be living happily. However, he couldn't resist the middle-aged ** and chose to have an affair. My wife immediately noticed that something was wrong, but for the sake of the children, she chose to postpone it. She doesn't want her children to experience the pain of family breakdown at a critical time in their formative years. Because for children, family harmony and honesty are important for a sense of security. Therefore, when many middle-aged couples face a mental crisis, they choose to maintain superficial peace for the sake of their children.
Secondly, another important reason why middle-aged couples hesitate to divorce is a conflict of interest. I heard the autobiography of a middle-aged man on a talk show. He confessed to the relationship at the age of 50, but by then he had been with his wife for 22 years. His wife has a successful career and is the breadwinner of the family. He confessed that he lived in the shadow of his wife and hoped to find fulfillment in the family. However, even after the affair was discovered, she did not choose to divorce. Because, in his opinion, divorce means the loss of the security and benefits of his existing life. He is afraid of facing the cynicism of society, and he is even more reluctant to give up his current life. Therefore, he chose to return to his family, but at the cost of his wife's suspicion and distrust.
Writer Sanmao once said, "Marriage is the greatest happiness in life, and it is also the biggest gamble in life." "It is true that a happy marriage is like a valuable asset, but an unhappy marriage has its own misfortunes. In this fast-paced, high-pressure society, middle-aged couples face more ** and challenges. However, no matter what happens, you should cherish your immediate happiness and never cross boundaries that should not be crossed easily. Because once you take that step, you may end up paying an irreparable price.
The best advice for middle-aged couples who are in emotional turmoil is to always be grateful and cherish every moment they spend with their partner. Don't make decisions that hurt yourself or your family because of impulsiveness or fatigue. As we all know, divorce is not a panacea for solving problems. Please think carefully and be responsible for yourself, your family, and your children before making any decisions.