Goodbye Lover 3, "Goodbye Lover 3" has finally come to an end, although it is getting closer and closer to the final choice, everyone seems to be becoming more and more reluctant to deliberately hide their true feelings. In this middle-aged couple's reality show, which is composed of three female guests including Fu Seoul and three male guests, the complexity of emotions and the problem of choice become more and more prominent. The three female guests represented by Fu Seoul seemed to have "want to leave" written on their faces, while the three male guests showed different attitudes. Lao Liu's tolerance, Lao Ji's sense of responsibility and Zhang Shuo's efforts make their performance appear beyond the ordinary in the reality of marriage.
In this marriage reality show, among the three female guests, Wang Shiqing's divorce intention became more and more obvious. She revealed the flaws of Lao Ji's original family many times in the show, trying to provoke him and give people the impression that Lao Ji was emotionally unstable. At the same time, it is also difficult for couples to agree on the issue of having children. Wang Shiqing felt that she was old and should have a child, while Lao Ji may have been affected by her childhood experience and did not want to have children easily. Such a contradiction made the relationship between the two more complicated, and Wang Shiqing finally said: "You don't want it, don't delay me." ”
However, we can't judge from the standpoint of one side or the other, because everyone has their own difficulties and persistences. The reason why Wang Shiqing wants to separate is also because she feels that she is no longer "licking" the "licking dog", and she can't accept the feeling of the gap between the front and back. Before getting married, she chose marriage, probably more because of the other party's family conditions and parents, as well as Zhang Shuo's care before marriage. This kind of marriage began with an irrational lack of reason, so that in the run-in after marriage, the differences between the two gradually appeared, making Wang Shiqing feel that the two skins before and after were not mature enough, and the idea of separation became stronger and stronger.
And in this marriage reality show, the male guests also have their own difficulties. Although Lao Ji and Wang Shiqing help each other at work, Lao Ji thinks that 40 years old is already a huge age, and he has no energy to cultivate a second Wang Shiqing. Although Lao Liu said that he has hands and feet and is not afraid of not having a job, his relationship with Fu Seoul has gone beyond the traditional husband and wife relationship, they are a natural pair. Therefore, the choice of male guests is also constrained by various reasons.
In this season's "Goodbye Lover", guests of different ages correspond to the three most common ways of encountering in real life: "blind date", "workplace" and "campus". Sweetness is sweet, and love is not loved, but no matter how strong the affection is, it still can't withstand the consumption of ordinary years. What's even more touching is that to this day, the situation of women has not changed much. Once married, it seems that you are tied up with your hands and feet, and you are immobilized, and you can only be trapped firmly in place. Marriage has become a seemingly insurmountable cage, and women must have a seemingly insurmountable reason to leave.
However, the reason why the three female guests dared to file for divorce may also be related to the fact that they have solved the most fundamental economic problems. Financial independence became the basis for their pursuit of physical and volitional freedom, making divorce more feasible. When women's concept of marriage gradually awakens, marriage is no longer an insurmountable cage, but a state that can be chosen, perhaps in the future, divorce will become easier, there is no cooling-off period, no moral shackles and social pressure.
In general, "Goodbye Lover 3" presents the confusion and struggle of middle-aged couples in marriage choices through the real and complex marriage stories of the guests. Everyone has their own persistence and difficulties, and marriage is not simply black and white, but full of gray. Perhaps in the future, we can look at marriage more rationally and give each other more understanding and tolerance. Ultimately, the choice of marriage should be based on real feelings and empathy, not on it.