I signed a prenuptial agreement when I got married, and after 5 years, I left the house, and I called it lucky
After three years of marriage, we welcomed our child, and due to my mother-in-law's poor health, my mother came from my hometown to take care of me during confinement.
After the confinement, my mother returned to her hometown, and I had quit my job and decided to take care of the children at home full-time, while my husband Wang Lijie took on the responsibility of supporting the family. We have a clear division of labor and perform their own duties.
However, as time passed, I always felt distraught.
Can you go put some bath water? Dodora, I'm going to have to change her diaper. "I said loudly in the bathroom.
Wait a minute......"His answer seemed unhurried.
Hurry up, I've got to cook. "I was almost exhausted. It seems that there is not enough time in each day, and the week is supposed to be an easy day, but it is actually much busier.
It'll be fine right away, wait a minute. "He replied unhurriedly.
I feel like I'm going to **. Duoduo has been having diarrhea recently, and I have to keep an eye on her condition, and if the condition is serious, I may have to go to the hospital again.
I hurriedly changed my child's diaper, while he was still holding his phone and swiping the screen.
Duoduo has been sick to my stomach lately, and you see me so busy......Can't you help? "I put the child on the cot and looked at him and felt like I was out of breath.
I've also been very busy this week and want to take a good break over the weekend. "He stood up and walked into the bedroom.
I was left alone in the bathroom with the baby in the shower. After the shower, I put the child back in the cot and he was already turning on the computer in the study.
I didn't want to say anything more, just said coldly:"Watching the kids, I went to cook. "
During the meal, I didn't say a word, and he was halfway through the meal before he spoke"I offered to ask an aunt to help, but you didn't agree. "
I put down my chopsticks, looked at him and said:"You know the situation, even if there is an aunt, you should be involved. "
He was silent, and after eating he said:"What do you do at home all day? I'm also tired and want to have a good weekend break. "
I looked at him and couldn't believe his words:"365 days a year, what day have I ever rested? What do I do all day? Isn't the baby's eating, drinking, grocery shopping, laundry, cooking, and cleaning all work? "
He put down his job, went into the bedroom, and turned back to me"It's unbelievable. "
His words left me feeling outrageous and disappointed.
At night, after putting the child to sleep, I started chatting with my best friend Qiqi on WeChat. At this time, Wang Lijie was already playing games on the computer in the study.
Me:"Seeing him so lazy today, I really don't know what to do. "
Kiki:"You don't have the courage? But it's your own path, and you have to bear it. "
Me:"What do you mean by that? "
Kiki:"I'm just a friendly reminder: you have a prenuptial agreement, and if you get divorced, you may have nothing left, not even custody of your children. "
I was silent. Kiki:"Got it? "
Kiki was like a key, gently inserting it into the keyhole in my heart, and with a twist, imprisoned me in it. She was right.
Before I got the certificate, Wang Lijie came to me and talked about the family's property, five houses, two cars, a small factory owned by my father, and my mother's proposal for a prenuptial agreement. He spoke very sincerely, expressing my mother's concerns, but also emphasizing how sincere he was for me. I did not hesitate to say that I did not value these substances and was willing to respect their family's decision.
Wang Lijie looked at me affectionately, and I also felt that I had made a good choice.
However, life after marriage was not what I wanted. Somehow, I made a mess of my life, and getting angry and arguing became commonplace. And what shackles me the most is that I don't even have the courage to mention divorce.
Kiki's words hit my soft underbelly: "Because you don't have the capital to divorce." ”
I sent her a WeChat message to tell her about my predicament, and she said, "An unemployed married woman is divorced, what will happen to her life next?" Have you thought about it? ”
This silenced me, and Kiki was right when she said that if I were really divorced, I wouldn't even have a place to live.
Recalling the quarrels we had, Wang Lijie blamed me for doing nothing all day and blindly demanding, and reminded me to spend money wisely. I finally understood why I didn't dare to speak up.
Like Kiki said, I don't have the capital to get a divorce. We entered into a prenuptial agreement that clearly stated the ownership of the property.
I realized that I had to go to work, or I might be left with nothing one day.
So, I decided to start over and got a job as a field supervisor for a chain of beauty stores. This job requires me to go to different stores, solve on-site problems, and guide store management. I have similar previous management experience and am confident in this job.
After a week of company training, I realized that my previous management experience was outdated. Of the four supervisors, I was the eldest, and the others were all young and energetic in their twenties. They spoke clearly, energetically, and I felt at a crisis.
On the first day of work, I felt challenged, but I didn't want to go back to the dullness of family life. I decided to challenge myself because as mothers, we have advantages that young people don't have.
When I started working, I first learned about the situation of the store, and then asked my former colleagues for advice. They suggested that I first find out the reasons for the worst performing stores, and then draw up a feasible rectification report and report it to the headquarters.
I asked my colleague, "Is this plan feasible?" What if the performance declines after rectification? ”
My colleague encouraged me and said, "How do you know if it's feasible if you don't try?" ”
I reaffirmed my resolve and started looking at other beauty stores that were doing well, studying their marketing campaigns and store displays, and conducting ** surveys on key products.
After a month of research, I completed the first rectification report on the store's performance improvement and submitted it to the headquarters. A week later, the leader commented in the report that the report was feasible and suggested that a store should be piloted first.
During the three months of the pilot, I went to the pilot store almost every day to check the situation, pointed out the non-standard displays, and urged rectification. I knew I could only move forward, not back down. I get paid every month, and I feel at ease when I see those pieces of RMB.
During this time, Wang Lijie became more and more lazy at home, and I went out early and returned late every day, and I was very busy. My mom did her best to take care of the baby, and she was even more busy.
We often quarrel about the baby.
I'm going to work overtime today, you go back and give the baby a bath. ”
He answered and hung up.
When I came home exhausted and saw my mom bathing her baby, I knew she was tired.
I couldn't help but walk to the study and saw that he was concentrating on playing games: "I just said that I was going to bathe the baby, didn't you hear?" ”
He looked up: "Oh, I forgot, so busy. ”
I was so angry that I couldn't speak, just glared at him.
I'll forget about these things, I'm so busy every day that I don't have time to think about it.
One day, I was busy in the company, and I received a **, saying that he was a friend of Wang Lijie, saying that he borrowed 60,000 yuan a few years ago and has not repaid it yet. He said that Wang Lijie kept making excuses and didn't pay it back, so he had to look for me.
I hung up **, and immediately called Wang Lijie to ask for clarification, he was hesitant and said to talk about it when he went home.
When I got home, I asked him, and he said that a few years ago, he borrowed the money with his friend, saying that he would divide it equally if he earned it, and then he would talk about it if he lost it. But then the investment was lost, and he himself lost tens of thousands.
I said, "Borrow money to pay it back, that's how it should be, and your family can afford to pay it back, right?" Why not pay it back? ”
He said while playing with his phone: "My mother can't come up with the money to pay it back, unless the sky falls." ”
You have to pay it back quickly. "I urged him.
I don't have any cash on hand. He said perfunctorily while playing a mobile game.
What about your deposits? Well, I don't want to say more either, you feel free. "I'm not in the mood to talk nonsense with him anymore.
That night, I did the math and was surprised to find that he hadn't brought home a penny in a while since I started working. Where did he spend all his money?
In the past, he would give me at least some living expenses every month, but since I started working, he has never given me a penny, and he likes to jokingly say, "Wife, it's your turn to support me." ”
I was very busy at the time, so I thought I would leave it alone and settle accounts with him when I had time.
But one of his friends actually found my company, I had no choice but to meet with him alone, he said that he had to return the money to him, he urgently needed money now, otherwise he would go to my company leader, because Wang Lijie was unemployed, I couldn't find him, I could only look for me.
Is he unemployed? He didn't tell me? As soon as I heard the news, I felt five thunderbolts.
He seems to be commuting to and from work every day, so why didn't I notice that he was unemployed?
After work, I figured out the ins and outs of the matter, and asked a classmate who also worked in a large company, and he told me, "Wang Lijie?" He was the leader of the data group, which was disbanded last month after the company underwent a structural adjustment. ”
During this time, many large companies were laying off employees, and I had heard about it, but I was very angry that he was disbanded and I didn't even know about it.
When I got home, I followed him up, "You were dismissed last month, how could you not tell me?" ”
His expression looked calm, and he held the chopsticks and said, "What are you telling you about?" That's not a good thing. ”
Me: "So where have you been all this time?" It's okay to help mom do something at home. ”
I need time to adjust my mindset, I have to have a thought process. He was eating, looking like he was enjoying it.
Tell me, what have you done this month? I asked.
I'm adjusting myself, do I need to go out? I'll be at home from tomorrow onwards. He looked at me and looked indifferent.
I was very angry inside, but I couldn't get angry at someone who had just lost his job.
My work was quickly on the right track, and through my efforts, the performance of both stores improved, and the leaders even said that they would consider promoting me.
But I urgently need to pay off my debts, I urgently need funds, and even if I get promoted, my salary can be raised. I couldn't do anything, he was now unemployed, and I was forced to repay the loan again.
The baby's milk powder, the daily expenses of the family, water, electricity and gas, etc., the expenses of a city family, after a month, I have almost no respite.
One day, when I went to inspect the store, a store manager told me that she was going back to the north to get married and planned to transfer the store.
I immediately conducted a thorough evaluation of her store, and I felt that if I took over the store and ran it well, I should have a chance to make a profit.
I discussed my idea with a few friends and they all thought it was feasible, so I decided to go ahead without hesitation.
But now the only problem is the money, I don't have a lot of deposits, and most of the transfer fees have not yet been settled. I consulted with Wang Lijie, but he said, "I don't have a job now, where can I get the money?" ”
During this time, his life has basically been to get up, eat, and then play on his phone. Every time I asked him if he had helped my mother take care of her daughter, he was at a loss.
My mother advised me in turn: "You have to be more considerate of him, people who don't work at home are more tired inside than people who are busy outside." ”
After listening to my mother's words, I knew that he would not help her mother with the children at home. Forget it, this is all self-inflicted, Kiki is right, if you choose this path, you must stick to it.
Now my mind is full of money, and I can't care about talking to him anymore. Fortunately, with everyone's help, the money problem was finally solved. Kiki borrowed some from me, and my mother gave me all the pension money: "I know that the decision you made must have been well thought out, I support you, and you dare to pursue it, which is a good thing." ”
After intense preparations, it only took me two months from the transfer of the store to the reopening. During this time, every day was very busy because I couldn't wait, and I couldn't afford to lose.
During this time, I really didn't even have the strength to argue, and all my time and energy were invested in the store. Every night when I came home and saw that the light was still on in the study, I knew that Wang Lijie was still playing his game.
Sometimes, before I go to bed, I ask him, "Did you find progress at work?" ”
He replied: "How can it be so easy, the general environment is not good now, and the industry is laying off employees." ”
I said, "Why don't you come to the store and help first, I'm too busy here." ”
He replied: "Our majors are different, and it is useless for me to go." After saying that, he fell asleep with his head resting on his head.
I had nothing to say, but my heart was in a panic. How can these days be so upside down?
Lying in bed and looking at the ceiling in a daze, what do I want to be a husband and a godchild? What kind of ease do I want?
Looking at the sleeping man next to me, I suddenly felt that he had achieved my dream, how ironic.
Maybe God is also helping me, since the store was transferred, business is getting better and better. I'm so focused on my work that I do everything myself.
During this period, two former colleagues joined our team, and they are both business backbones with strong executive ability. After they joined, I went through research and analysis, took over two stores, and worked harder. Although it is hard every day, the monthly income is unimaginable before.
Looking at the amount of money in the bank card, I felt a sense of stability. It turns out that money is what gives you a sense of security.
I decided to buy a house and now live in a house in my mother-in-law's name. A few days ago, she came over and told us that it would be demolished in six months, and suggested that we start looking for a suitable house now. I said I'd do it as planned.
Looking at my mother-in-law sitting on the sofa drinking tea, I suddenly realized that I was not as shrewd as her. The house we live in now is in my mother-in-law's name.
And the houses under Wang Lijie's name have been rented out, and the rent is collected by his mother-in-law. And I also signed a prenuptial agreement, and these properties are all prenuptial property, and I have nothing to do with half a dime.
But in the eyes of outsiders, I became the one who benefited. At the class reunion, it was obvious that I was raising Wang Lijie, but I became a vested interest in marriage, which made me feel very confused.
What am I looking for? In TV dramas, there are always people who say that women have to have a plan for marrying, but I don't know what I have planned.
Looking at my mother-in-law and her son, these two are leisurely in their marriage, while I feel the hardship of life. I started to think, what the hell is all going wrong? My head hurt, as if something had collapsed.
Soon, I bought a house in the city center, 150 square meters of space, and I took my dad to the city so that he could also be with us. In the busy life, I still have to take care of my daughter, my mother said that Duoduo is learning to walk, she takes care of the baby and cooks alone, and often worries that Duoduo will accidentally fall and get injured.
I am busy every day, except for Wang Lijie, I seem to have become the busiest person in the family. He lived at ease, as if this home was his temporary residence.
After his father came, he became even more lazy, sleeping, eating, and playing games all day, and spent no more than half an hour with his daughter every day.
Dad is a retired teacher, polite to others, on his birthday, I gave him the most brand mobile phone.
That night, my dad came to me and said, "Next Monday is Lijie's birthday, don't forget to prepare a gift for him." People who are unemployed at home are in a bad mood. ”
I replied, "He's been at home for so long, it's okay to lower his stature a little." The employment situation is not good, so let's find a job first. ”
Dad comforted: "Everyone has their own ideas, don't push him too much." ”
I complained: "The problem is that it's been two years, you can't keep it like this, right?" He can obviously find a job, but his thinking is rigid, and he always insists on equal treatment and positions, and now it is difficult to find a job, so is it not good to accept a job first? ”
Dad instructed: "Don't be in a hurry, he will always find a job." ”
I said it, when my birthday came, I still bought the most ** limited edition mobile phone for him. He happily said that it was very helpful for playing games, and I looked at his satisfied smile and suddenly felt sad in my heart.
My man turned out to be like this, without any anxiety, living with a smile every day. He really didn't understand, it was all based on my hard work.
I became more and more anxious, although the business was good, the industry was highly competitive, and there were times when the performance was not good. And his recent form has me on the verge of collapse.
The other night, I asked him, "Is there any drama in the interview you went to today?" ”
The professional counterpart, but I don't accept the deputy team leader. He said with a yawn.
I persuaded: "Try it first, if you have the strength, you can make achievements and have more opportunities to be promoted to team leader." ”
I don't do this kind of selective wrongdoing. He said justifiably.
You've been at home for so long, aren't you in a hurry? I asked helplessly.
With you, what's there to hurry, you won't starve to death anyway. He looked like he didn't care and quickly fell asleep.
I stared at him alone, alone complaining. He may not be a bad person, he has no drugs and gambling in his life, and he usually has a smiling face. He may also be considered a family, accompanying his daughter to the doctor, and being praised by other women as a good man.
However, every day I worked hard, thinking of two old men and a man with sound limbs in my family, who lived comfortably in the house I bought, wearing the clothes I bought, and enjoying the life I had prepared for him. On such days, he took them for granted.
I felt that life was not going my way and that I had to make a decision.
That night, I stepped into my study and said to him, "Let's finish." ”
This time, he finally withdrew from the game, and the calmness on his face was fading: "What do you want to do, okay, why do you want to end?" ”
I said, "I've figured it out, let's get a divorce." ”
He frowned, his right hand still pressed on the mouse, and the sound of the game's characters fighting could be heard in the computer.
You think I've been at home for too long? You've thought about it, if I'm unemployed, I'll support you the same. He squinted his eyes, saying that he always squinted when he was nervous.
I said, "If I lose my job, I'll immediately look for a new job, and I won't let you raise it." ”
He was a little at a loss: "I know, I'll tell Mom." ”
I smiled to myself, but on the surface I was calm: "Give me a clear answer tomorrow." ”
Hmm", he seemed to just utter the word, and lowered his head to play with the computer again.
Back in my room, I had mixed feelings. When I mentioned this idea to my parents a few days ago, my mother was silent, and after a while, she said to my father, "I think our life is too hard. ”
Dad was a traditional man, and he thought about it all night, and only then said to me the next day, "You talk to him again, after all, it is a family, and you have to think carefully." ”
The next day, I was at work and my mother-in-law asked me out for lunch at noon, and I knew she would have something to say.
Sure enough, while eating, the old lady said, "You have worked hard during this time, and the kid eats and drinks at home all day." I always reminded him to help with the housework, and if he didn't work, he would go to your store and help you. ”
I listened and felt that my mother-in-law had some truth and nodded. The mother-in-law said, "Mingli, that kid in my family wants to spend the rest of his life with you, and if he does something wrong, he will correct it." Give him a little more time, and I know you're a reasonable person. My mother-in-law said kindly, obviously trying to persuade me.
Seeing the old lady whispering so much for her son, I couldn't firmly say that I wanted to divorce, I am a soft-hearted person.
So I didn't say anything, but a job ** called, and a familiar big customer wanted to find me, and I ended the conversation on the grounds that I was busy with work.
Since that conversation, I have come home and clearly felt that Wang Lijie has changed and become more diligent.
is no longer addicted to games, and also takes the initiative to go out to buy groceries, and when he comes back, he also plays with his daughter, and even helps mop the floor.
My parents were happy with the changes, but I had a strange feeling in my heart. Wasn't that what he should have done a long time ago? Why wait until you say something like divorce to start changing?
Half a month later, my mother-in-law came to me again and said, "Mingli, don't blame me, I didn't know that you were a real person at that time, so I told Lijie something." Mothers are always worried, and now that you have the idea of divorce, I don't think you should be too clear. Let's live together as a family, don't be so angry. ”
As soon as I heard it, this agreement was notarized, and it was not something that could be scrapped. Since they were all signed in the first place, there is no need to bother to cancel them now.
I thought about it for a while, smiled and said, "Mom, I really don't want to cancel this agreement, premarital property should be personal." You're not wrong, I chose it in the first place. ”
After listening to my words, her smile became a little reluctant, and I took the opportunity to say, "Mom, the matter between me and Lijie has been finalized, and we are going to divorce, but I want to clarify that the reason is not because I mind the issue of prenuptial agreements." ”
Hearing this, the old lady immediately straightened her face, stood up and picked up her bag and prepared to leave, saying as she went: "You are all married now!" You guys will solve your own affairs, and I can't take care of it! ”
I looked at her back as she left in a hurry, and it took me a long time to come to my senses, and I quickly sent a WeChat message to Qiqi: "Your tongue is really to the point, she wants to cancel the agreement." ”
Kiki quickly replied: "The old lady still thinks that you are still the simple girl back then, she can calculate, but now that you have more property than theirs, a prenuptial agreement is simply the best gift for you." ”
Me: "Indeed, the old lady's opinion of me at the beginning was simply short-sighted, just for that little bit of property. ”
In the end, Wang Lijie and I divorced, and the divorce procedures were handled quickly because there was no dispute.
We signed a prenuptial agreement when we got married, and five years later I left the house and divorced, but I feel very lucky.
The daughter belongs to me, and he does not fight for the rights of his daughter. He moved out of our current home, which I bought in full. As for the distribution of other property, it is all clearly stated in the prenuptial agreement, and the agreement on the matter of money is clearly written, so there is no entanglement.
After the divorce, I felt a lot more relaxed. I work hard during the day and spend time with my daughter and parents at night, and the family is happy.
My daughter Duoduo is already in kindergarten, and during the summer vacation, I took my daughter and her parents to Hainan for a vacation. On the beach, the sun was setting, I watched my parents and daughter holding hands and playing on the beach, listening to my daughter's cheerful laughter, I felt very down-to-earth and happy. It turns out that I can give my daughter such a life myself.
Wang Lijie rarely took the initiative to come to see his daughter, and I contacted him every time. Said that my daughter has a birthday, you can come here. Said that there are parent-child activities in my daughter's kindergarten that you need to participate in, so he will come.
Half a year later, Wang Lijie got married again, and I heard that this marriage was completed under the arrangement of his ex-mother-in-law.
Within half a year of the wedding, the woman resigned from the company, and the two moved to the old lady's house, indulging in games day and night.
As a result, the old lady had to serve the two of them upside down, and I heard that the old lady was so angry that she was hospitalized with a cerebral hemorrhage and almost died.
After my parents heard about Wang Lijie, my father said, "It seems that we were right to respect your decision at the beginning." ”
I smiled: "If you make a mistake, you can correct it, and if you find the wrong person, you can correct it." Who says a woman has to accept her fate? ”