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Are you such a person?
The circle of friends only sends positive energy, I don't like to share my daily life, it's good for everyone, but it's not very good to people close to me, it's easy to turn around, never refuse others, others will promise to ask you for help, I don't like to be angry with others, and when I'm angry, I will only cry and refuse others, and I won't say "no" when I refuse others, but I will say "okay", obviously it's my own problem but I keep saying each other's problems 7Sometimes when I'm angry, I don't scold, I just keep crying.
If you have any of these seven behaviors. Then there may be social Our Lady's disease. Let's analyze it from several aspects of psychology:
1.[Cognitive dissonance]: When our behavior is inconsistent with our beliefs, psychological discomfort may occur, which is called cognitive dissonance. In"Social Our Lady's Disease"In this case, even if we have previously had a negative evaluation of someone, a good behavior by the other person may cause us to re-evaluate the person to reduce inner conflict and discomfort.
2.Attribution bias: We tend to interpret human behavior, and this interpretation is often influenced by our own expectations and experiences. When someone we don't like is nice to us, we may overattribute our own misjudgment to our own misjudgment rather than seeing the multifaceted nature of the other person's behavior.
3.[Social Proof]: Human beings are social creatures who desire to be recognized and accepted by others. When an otherwise undesirable person makes a gesture of favor to us, we may change our opinion of him because we want to fit in with the group or be recognized.
4.[Madonna Personality]: Madonna personality describes those who always regard kindness as the only code of conduct, and have suffered a lot of grievances because of it. They have a hard time saying no to others, often sacrifice their own interests to please others, and feel guilty even when they stop doing so.
The journey of life is long, I hope you and I can be at ease. I am a red bean that understands you, remember to pay attention to my Baijia number: come to a bowl of red beans].