Throughout the ages, many people are easily swayed by emotions, including some famous figures, who are not immune. For example, Cao Cao during the Three Kingdoms period accidentally killed Lu Bohao's family because of suspicion and anger. Before the Battle of Chibi, he fell for Zhou Yu's plan, and angrily killed Cai Mao and Zhang Yun, two generals of the navy, and immediately regretted it after killing. Facts have proved that this has a great impact on the victory or defeat of the Battle of Chibi. Wait a minute.
ModernIn psychology, there is an effect called:Seconds Effect: "Emotional 12 Seconds Effect".It was first proposed by the American psychologist Paul Ekman (Paul Ekman) that when a person's emotions are stimulated by a certain stimulus, the emotion usually only lasts about 12 seconds. This concept suggests the transient nature of human emotions, where the peak of emotions only reaches its strongest in the initial phase and then quickly returns to the baseline state. That is, the time for a person to be angry with something is only 12 seconds, and after that 12 seconds, the person will return to his former peace. However, most people will be controlled by these 12 seconds, do things they regret, and say things they regret. Napoleon said: A man who can control his emotions is greater than a general who can take down a city.
InusOn the way to growth, weBothThere will be many competitors, but the biggest opponent is your own emotions. VisibleControl emotions on a personHow important. But many people treat emotions as "laissez-faire", which leads to irreversible results.
It is reported that once inGuangzhou, Guangdong, the entrance and exit of a parking lot on Tianhe RoadOne day becauseThere was a parking lot management dispute, and the security guard stabbed a car owner with a knife. Just because at the timeOwner of the carScoldedSecurityIt's a "watchdog". And thenIn the case of intentional injury caused by a dispute, the injured person died after rescue efforts failedSecurityOnly 38 years old,Owner of the carHe is also in his 49s. The author also heard that two people because of playing chess, one of them because of a person next to him, quarreled, resulting in mutual abuse and beating, and later a person was blinded, the defendant was sentenced to 7 years in prison, and compensation of more than 100,000 yuan.
Coincidentally, it is reported,A woman in Chongqing couldn't wear a wedding dress because she was pregnant and wanted the wedding dress shop to refund the deposit. The store said that the deposit could not be refunded according to the regulations, but the woman did not accept it, and in a fit of anger, she used key Yinsen scissors to cut 32 wedding dresses in the store. Afterwards, she regretted it very much, and after negotiation, she finally ended up with 50,000 yuan in compensation. Some say that she is pitiful and that pregnant people should be tolerated. But who can understand the shop where she ruined the wedding dress. Bad emotions can be vented appropriately, but it is not an excuse to damage other people's property. Adults have to pay for their impulsive behavior, and if they dare to do it, they must dare to take responsibility.
In view of this, it can be seenEmotional stability is the most basic self-discipline for adults. And a person's greatest happiness is emotional stability. The 12-second effect tells us that when we encounter something that makes us particularly angry, we must first control our emotions and give ourselves 12 secondsTimeand wait until the mood eases before dealing with itSo as not to make irrational and even regret it for the rest of your life in these 12 secondsthings
In the face of life, we must avoid the "twelve-second effect", the gap between masters and ordinary people is that no matter what the situation, they can always remain calm and calm. Therefore, we think twice before we act, don't be easily provoked by others, don't be controlled by emotions, don't act impulsively, don't be led by emotions, no matter how big things are, no matter how big the problem is, no matter how big the problem can be solved!
When weLearn about the "12-second effect of emotions".Later,usAs it should beManage emotions betterWhen we realize that emotions are changing rapidly,PleaseHold on, maybe it's a different story. RecommendationsHere are a few things you can try:
One of them isBreathe deeply. In times of high spirits, we often feel distracted and irritable, and taking a deep breath not only helps calm the brain, but can also have a positive impact on our overall mood. You can close your eyes and inhale slowly through your nose, trying to get your breath to your abdomen, and exhale slowly through your mouth, trying to let out longer than you inhale. As you exhale, notice that your body is gradually relaxing, not too fast or too slowly, and shift your attention from worry or anxiety to your breathing, and your mood will gradually level off. You can also recite 12 numbers in your mind, and wait until the time exceeds 12 seconds, you can relieve and control their emotions.
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Second, yesDispersedTransfer your ownAttention. We often fall into the cycle of focusing on bad emotions, and the principle of distraction is to break this emotional cycle, such as observing the environment, focusing on the senses, and focusing on a specific task or activity. When we shift our attention away from emotional stimuli and start focusing on other things, the brain gradually reduces its intense focus on emotions, and emotions gradually weaken.
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Three, it is to leave the scene immediatelyReflect calmly. Emotional reflection allows us to return to calm, think rationally, and avoid regrets due to impulsiveness. Specifically, you can use methods such as asking yourself, finding out the trigger point, and looking for alternative reactions to reflect on yourself. Emotional reflection is a part of emotional intelligence, which helps us to better understand ourselves, improve our ability to manage emotions, avoid over-amplifying emotions, and better control our emotions and not be swayed by themUgh