Life is unsatisfactory, ten like**. Regardless of whether rich or poor, old or young, this is a common social problem, and it is also a big problem in everyone's life. Spencer Johanson said, "Happiness is an attitude to life, and if a person has money, power, and fame all his life, but is not happy, he can still only spend this life in vain."
Modern competition is cruel, people generally feel too much pressure, although the material life continues to improve, but people's mood is difficult to keep pace with the growth of material, depression has become the "disease of the century" in the 21st century, becoming one of the main reasons for endangering human health, someone once said that the most valuable thing in the 21st century is to have a good mood immediately!
Some retireesBusy with work all day long, busy with work, busy with educating children, busy with those annoying and helpless interpersonal relationships, nervous compression, on the street, in the factory, in the office, rarely see people's happy smiles, is it that people are not in a ridiculous mood, or are they so busy that they forget to laugh?
Pavlov said, "Sorrow and sorrow can damage the body and open the door to all kinds of diseases, but pleasure can make every nerve in your body and spirit sensitive and active, and it can strengthen your constitution." The best of drugs is happiness and laughter. It turns out that the best doctor in the world turns out to be yourself. And this drug is not toxic *** is the safest tonic and neuroimmune agent, unfortunately modern people recognize spending a lot of money to buy "health products" everywhere, but forget to develop their own "treasure".
This kind of development is actually very simple, you don't need a spade or a pick, you don't need a bulldozer and a drill, you just need to "remind" yourself often.
When your anger or sorrow is caused by someone else, remind yourself that my behavior at this time can change the other person's behavior. If I can't change, then am I punishing myself for someone else's mistakes, and is it worth it? Usually the other party will have three reactions, one is that he also uses anger to fight your anger, and the result is a lose-lose situation; The second is that he is not angry when you are angry, but it does not mean that he accepts it humbly in his heart. The third is that the other party accepts and appreciates it with a smile, but such a gentleman and wise man is rare in ancient and modern times. When you encounter the first two types of people, your anger can be said to be of no help at all, but rather hurts your feelings. The probability of meeting a third type of person is extremely low, and even if you meet it by chance, you will obviously lose a mentor and friend. From this, it is not difficult to see that the result of anger, just like spitting on your back, can only bear yourself.
If you are angry "in progress", as long as you do not reach the "hysteria" and "madness", you may wish to pause, remind yourself, my behavior is a bit ridiculous, at this time self-deprecation and self-irony may immediately change the mood at the time, as the so-called "tears into laughter" contrast, after the reminder, turn anger into joy, sometimes the other party is not angry, but will be surprised by your "against the current" method, so it really turns the war into a jade silk.
When your sadness and frustration are caused by temporary physical illnesses, you should remind yourself to be happy, and at the same time laugh right away, and when you can't laugh, you should apply the "philosophy of pretending". A smile is the window of the house, without a window, the sunshine of life cannot bathe you. According to research, general laughter can make the diaphragmThroatAbdomenHeartBoth lungs, and even the whole body, is a short exercise, laughing, but also affect the movement of the muscles of the face, arms and legs, when the laughter stops, the pulse beats at a slower than normal rate, and the skeletal muscles will become relaxed. It can be seen that "laughter is the cure of a hundred medicines", and the philosopher said: "A happy smile is the only medicine stone to maintain life and health, and its value is millions, but it does not cost a penny." "Laughter therapy is now available in many countries. Dr. Madan Cataria of India has opened hundreds of "laughter clinics" at home and abroad, where people can get all kinds of laughter and all kinds of diseases.
Reminder to be happy no matter who you areWhat age,No matter how many assets, don't forget that only health is the first wealth in life. And if you want to maintain long-lasting health, then you can't ignore the magic weapon of "happiness", if you are tireless, exhausted, and not happy all day long for those things outside of your body, then you are only using life, and you have not learned to enjoy life. People who live in the "spiritual world" have few material requirements and more happiness. People who live in the "material world" do not understand the needs of the soul, and the more material things they have, the greater their greed, and the more distress they have, what kind of person would you like to be?
Remind yourself to be happy, always be satisfied with what you have, and don't be greedy for what you don't have, and always think about the Zen machine between what you "need" and "what you want", and you will be able to achieve "epiphany" and laugh out loud at the moment.
If you haveAfter retirement, there isA lot of spare time, then learn to manage happiness, study the methods of happiness, and study the benefits of happiness. If you study something often, you will be infected and obsessed with it, and it will not take too long to suddenly look back and realize that business happiness is more valuable than business money. American psychologists have proven that anyone who is too calculating about monetary interests is actually a very unfortunate person, even sick and short-lived. More than 90 of them suffer from mental illness, and these people feel pain for many times more time and depth than those who are not calculating.
Too much calculation is accumulated in the heart, and it will definitely accumulate worries and become ill, and even sleepless at night. The money has increased, but the sickness has also increased, and the life has also been shortened, and the business has become a "negative number", because how can health and life be bought and extended with money?
We usually have a lot of things at work, in order not to forget, often write a "memo", just to remind yourself, now it is recommended that you also write a "reminder of happiness" memo, paste it in front of your desk, paste it in a conspicuous place in your bedroom ......As long as you look up you can see it, it is best for you to match a face or a funny ** painting, when you see it, you will remember to laugh, remember the value and wonder of laughter, I believe it can become the best "motto" in your life, prompting you to be happy every day, happy every year.