Don't be a mom and a girlfriend
I have found that many girls, once they enter a relationship, cannot find their own position, do not know who they are and what they want to do.
For example: everything about your boyfriend, pointing fingers and fingers;
What clothes is he going to wear, what is he going to eat, what time is he going to bed;
He has to work, he has to work hard, he can't play games;
His socialization, life, and hobbies must be arranged reasonably by himself.
often "overflowing with maternal love", forgiving all the little things that boys have done wrong;
Self-substitution into the boy's situation makes his own mental internal friction.
This kind of love relationship is "deformed" and abnormal.
Your relationship is only in love, not as husband and wife;
Your personality is independent, not bound.
Never interfere too much in your partner's life, you won't get anything good;
On the contrary, the more girls nag, like "old mothers", the more disgusted the boys become.
There is no man who wants to hear his girlfriend babble endlessly every day.
Respect each other's individuality, respect differences, and don't try to change each other;
What can be changed, you don't need to work hard;
If you can't change it, it's futile to exhaust you.
The more you try to control the other person, the less love you get
Feelings are a thing, pay attention to fate, ordinary heart, and stable mentality.
Alexandre Dumas wrote a passage:
If you desire something, you have to set it free;
If it comes back to you, it's yours;
If it doesn't come back, you've never owned it. ”
You like the other person, and you are in a relationship with the other person, and this is just the beginning;
More so, you should learn how to manage the relationship.
Most girls are prone to "love brains";
Love each other more than yourself, and pay too much attention to everything about the other person.
Require that the other party must not have any opposite sex around him, and there must not be any social interaction;
When you go out to socialize, you have to bring yourself with you.
Every time you are together, you have to check your boyfriend's mobile phone to try to find clues from it;
If you can't find it, you still don't believe it, and you remain suspicious;
Found, hysterical.
But whether it is found or not, what is the difference?
If you are always suffering from gains and losses, you have a strong desire to control;
No matter how much a man loves you, he will be forced away by your behavior.
Don't worry about whether a man loves you or not, you just need to love yourself
An iron law of feelings:
The more you love yourself, the more men love you;
The more independent your personality is, the more men will take the initiative to find you.
Why are "cat girls" so attractive?
Features of cats:
Mysterious, not dependent, loving yourself, independent of the cat personality.
These characteristics are all collected in a girl, and her attraction to men is fatal.
You don't need to suffer from gains and losses, the feelings that belong to you will never leave you;
Don't be anxious to please, you have to spend this time loving yourself and improving yourself.
You do a good job and make a lot of money;
You maintain your fitness habits and get better and better;
You keep reading, and your temperament gets better and better.
You yourself have the ability to live well, so you don't need to be attached to each other;
At this time, the man will feel a "sense of crisis" in you.
The more he feels unworthy of you, the more he wants to try to be good to you.
Moreover, he will be influenced by you and will also slowly get better and roll up.
So you get the idea?
Instead of spending all your energy on men, it is better to become better yourself.
At the end of the term, stop losses decisively
If you don't see any hope in this relationship;
You are always consumed, struck;
You give a lot, but the boy is not willing to pay for you;
You manage your relationship alone, but his heart is not in you.
You try to try, try to keep it, but it still doesn't work.
At this time, please stop the loss in time immediately.
In fact, from the very beginning you notice that his feelings for you have changed, you should stop giving;
The more you consume and the more you invest, it will only increase the "sunk cost".
Remember one principle:
Any relationship that makes you feel uncomfortable is a warning from your brain: "Run".
Life is a long road, and love is only a small part of it.
Opening up the pattern and treating feelings with a normal heart is the manifestation of a woman's enlightenment.
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