You can observe the people around you, some people are not flustered after an accident, and often say the last sentence with confidence:We've got people
Someone has everything, and a network is not an ordinary relationship.
If you eat and drink with a bunch of fox friends, dog friends, and wine and meat all day long, it's worthless.
The most important thing is to find those people who are really useful to you, to relate to them, and to bring more of them into your system.
So, if you look back and re-examine your social network, do you find that some of them are not of great value?
Here are three ways to build a network that will help you build your own high-quality social relationships.
Keep relationships in the darkYou can observe that all those who go around at the table and tell people that they know some great person are either out of vanity and bragging; Either they are too inferior, give themselves courage, and have almost no credibility.
There is also a key influencing factor, for the boss, it is very taboo for the people below to form a party.
So how do you make your own relationships without being caught by others to form a party? A lot of people can't hack it.
But if you pay close enough attention to the scheming masters, you will find that they are very good at keeping relationships in the dark and only functioning when it matters most.
There are three such benefits:
One isAvoid the suspicion of forming a party and reassure the above.
The second isMake your opponent unclear about your strength, or let your guard down and give you more offensive opportunities. Either they will start with you, so that you can detect more potential risks early, resolve them in advance, and make yourself safer.
The third isWhen you put the relationship in the dark, once you need support, it will not arouse the suspicion of others, for example, if you secretly win over a group of people and directly support you when voting, no one will suspect that you are canvassing, and even if you do, there is no evidence.
Burn the cold stoveHot stoves are known to burn, but often cold stoves are more valuable.
Some people, as long as they do not suffer a devastating blow, even if they are not expected for the time being, the future prospects are still not to be underestimated; Or it is hit at the moment, but there is a good chance of an outbreak.
As a truth that ordinary people understand:The icing on the cake is far less than sending charcoal in the snow
Make friends, only those who have run their own cold stoves can be grateful and build a deep alliance.
One isIn addition to interests, such a relationship also has an extra layer of emotional value.
And emotion is just an extremely important subjective factor, just like the recent celebrity melon-eating incident, so many women support women, is it because of their values that prompt them, or this incident affects their emotional resonance.
The second isSuch a person, because he has been isolated by the circle of interests, will not be contaminated with too many interests, and will not have too many scruples when cooperating.
The third isIt can eliminate the suspicion of the big leaders about their own strong alliance. In Journey to the West, if you come to absorb Sun Wukong into the enterprising team, in addition to fighting first and then pulling, is it also burning the cold stove?
Unite all forces that can be unitedThe so-called struggle is to get as many people on one's side as possible and as few people as possible on the other side.
Therefore, we can only set up as few or even one enemy as possible for a certain period of time, and then unite the majority.
On the other hand, if you make enemies everywhere, you will have to defend yourself in many ways, thus putting yourself in danger, and eventually you will have no time to worry about it.
Seek common ground while reserving differences, first bring down the common enemy, and then repeat the process.
Unite the majority, fight a very few