I saw a very strange thing on the Internet today: Divorced girls can't celebrate the New Year at their parents' house? The New Year's holiday should be a day for family gatherings, but a divorced woman can't celebrate the New Year at her parents' house, and she takes her baby out after collecting her luggage for the New Year, which is really sad. What's going on? Let's take a look.......
.The incident happened in front of a villager's house in Henan, where a girl was holding a suitcase in one hand and her daughter in the other, preparing to leave her mother's house. Because the Chinese New Year is approaching, according to local customs, she can't celebrate the New Year at her parents' house. In many places, it is customary that divorced women are not allowed to return to their parents' homes for the New Year, so she must find her own place to live, or she will have to live on the streets. 
They feel that the return of a divorced woman to her parents' home may affect the fortune of her mother's brother, that is, from the age of 30, the woman can no longer stay in her mother's house. Because she and her husband have divorced, she can't go back to her mother-in-law's house, so she doesn't know how to go to ** yet, so she can only go to the county town first, live in a hotel or rent a house, and finish the New Year first. 
The mother is very distressed about her daughter, knowing that it is not easy for her, taking the child alone, not only to make money to support her mother and son, but also homeless, this is ready for the New Year, and she has to leave home, and the mother is also very helpless.
But customs are not something she can call the shots alone.
If you leave your daughter at home for the New Year, you may blame your daughter for anything that goes wrong.
Instead of bearing this inexplicable charge, it is better to respect the customs and let your daughter go outside for the New Year.
When she was separated from her daughter, her mother prepared a lot of food and secretly stuffed money for her daughter, hoping that she could live a better life and not wronged her children and herself.
After the Chinese New Year, she can continue to live at home.
But she didn't ask for her mother's money, and when she hugged her mother, she secretly stuffed the money into her mother's pocket.
This scene makes people feel sad when they watch it, is customs really that important?
And my cousin thinks that divorce is not unfortunate, but for a better life.
However, such incidents are not rare, there is also a divorced young mother who lives in her mother's house with her child, divorced, homeless, and has nowhere to go with her child.
In the days of family reunion, she had to pack her luggage and find another place to live with her children, and when she left home, she held her children and dragged her luggage and couldn't help but cry.
Before leaving, kneeling in front of his mother, hugging his mother's thigh and crying, children are the hearts and minds of their parents, how can they not feel distressed, but when they think of these thousands of years of tradition, they have to follow it.
Seeing her daughter sad, the mother also cried, and in the end she didn't leave her daughter, and saw her daughter leave with tears.
In many places, the word "divorce" is a killer weapon that is more lethal than nuclear radiation and more unguardable than viruses.
As soon as a divorced woman is close, she will become unhappy.
Because in their consciousness, the water spilled by the married daughter, if they get divorced and return to their parents' home, they are "lost dogs".
It will not only make the mother's family face shameful and poked in the back, but also affect the brother's business and financial luck, make the unmarried brother not suitable for marriage, and make the marriage of the brother and sister-in-law not harmonious.
In order not to be infected by this "root of all evil", the mother's family made a concerted effort to isolate the divorced woman from her own door.
At home, divorced women cannot pay New Year's greetings to relatives and friends for three years, and be careful to spread the bad luck of widowhood and loneliness.
Even after death, you can't go to your mother's grave.
In case the saying "there is a daughter's grave next to the ancestral grave, the children and grandchildren are inferior to others" comes true.
And it's not just the Spring Festival, they will be treated differently, in the Dragon Boat Festival and Mid-Autumn Festival, which is a family festival, divorced women can only wander around.
There are also some girls who divorced, and the former boudoir was converted into a utility room by the family.
When I came back, my identity had become a guest, and whether I could stay overnight depended on the host's face.
There are too many such examples, and in some cities, even women who are happily married after remarriage cannot spend the Spring Festival in their parents' homes.
And really retrospectively, the real culprit that makes these divorced women homeless is the stigma of divorce in addition to their families.
But my cousin believes that the freedom of marriage is a right granted to everyone by law, and it is also the most intuitive embodiment of a civilized society.
When the relationship is going to dry up, divorce or not is just a relatively important choice among the countless crossroads in life.
No matter whether you choose to advance or retreat, you should be respected and blessed.
And those meaningless traditional folk customs, let them dissipate in the dust of history. What do you think of this event?Radio.
Feudal dross!Those who have been divorced are unlucky!
I have my opinion, see you in the comment section.
Vote. I don't know what everyone thinks?Let's take a look at what netizens think! Out of the pond mud and bear good fruit:As long as the maiden family has brothers, the married female Chinese New Year's Eve to the first day of the new year can not spend the night in the maiden house, the married woman, the maiden family has brothers, then the maiden family for the woman, you become a guest,Orchid pushes the book:The rules passed down from the old generation, after I got married, my husband was in the army, and the day before eating Laba rice, my mother told me in advance"Tomorrow is Laba, don't eat at home, as the saying goes, "If you eat your mother's rice, you can't afford to eat it." I don't say what your brother and sister-in-law would say: "I had to go out for lunch that day." AlasPlum Blossom Proud Snow:What bullshit rules, daughters are not born and raised by their parents, they are just fooling around, if it were me, cut off all relationships, don't want to be cold, don't deal with me until you die. But my parents are not like this, they don't believe anything, their daughter is important, their second elder is very good, and they also help me raise children, I have given the second elder a pension, everyone praises me, the second elder has just passed away, and I am sad to see this mother and daughter