“Mom, you can't break us up just because I'm happy, it's not easy for us to come together
I don't care, you have to get a divorce today, you can only choose one between me and him. "Face the motherXiao Yu'eis quite unreasonable,Xiao YinIt's a headache, 39-year-old Xiao Yin's first marriage was arranged by her mother to marry her ex-husband, but her ex-husband didDomestic violencetendency, beat her as soon as it didn't go her way, her mother Xiao Yu'e persuaded her to endure it, but in the end, Xiao Yin, who had endured it for more than ten years, still chose to divorce and live with her two daughters.
Perhaps it was fate that Xiao Yin met his first love, he had just divorced, and the two who were sick and sympathetic quickly came togetherAfter getting married, her first love took care of her in every way, treated her two stepdaughters as her own, and was also respectful and filial to Xiao Yu'e. Xiao Yin felt very happy
But Xiao Yu'e just saw that her son-in-law was unpleasant, and forced her daughter Xiao Yin to divorce many times, how should the obedient and filial Xiao Yin choose? Why is Xiao Yu'e so unaccustomed to her near-perfect son-in-law?
Xiao Yin and her mother Xiao Yu'e have been dependent on each other since childhood, when she was 9 years old, Xiao Yin's father couldn't stand Xiao Yu'e's strong unreasonable and paranoid, the two had a big quarrel, ran away from home, and never heard from again. After that, Xiao Yin followed her mother's surnameSince childhood, under the strength of her mother, Xiao Yin has developed a submissive, obedient and cautious character。Moreover, Xiao Yu'e is quite unreasonable, and she is well-known in the neighborhood.
Xiao Yin has no talent in studying, dropped out of school after junior high school, and worked in a kitchen and bathroom shop. When he reached the age of marriage, because Xiao Yu'e was too strong, the blind date was unsuccessful many times, until he was 25 years old, under the arrangement of his mother, he hastily married his first husband.
After marriage, two people who have no feelings naturally don't have much in common, the key is that her ex-husband has a bad temper, and she beats Xiao Yin when she is unhappy, Xiao Yin is often bruised and swollen by domestic violence, after she told her mother, Xiao Yu'e comforted her:Husbands and wives are so noisy and noisy, just get used to it
Xiao Yin naturally listened to Xiao Yu'e's words very much, and endured it, a few years after marriage, Xiao Yin gave birth to two daughters successively, of course, she was also inevitably subjected to domestic violence, for her daughter, for her mother, she endured it again and again, and this forbearance was 12 years. Once, the ex-husband was unhappy, and Xiao Yin was beaten in front of his two daughters. This time, Xiao Yin couldn't bear it anymore, even if Xiao Yu'e didn't listen to it, after suing twice, she divorced smoothly and got custody of her two daughters and more than half of the family property.
After the divorce, Xiao Yin's life is hard but much smoother, the same work before feels boring, she has been doing kitchen and bathroom sales for nearly 20 years, she wants to be her own boss, she has more time, and can spend more time with her daughter and mother. So, with the money I got from my ex-husband, I borrowed some of it and opened a kitchen and bathroom shop, but I didn't expect that the kitchen and bathroom store was run by Xiao Yin, and in just 2 years, Xiao Yin achieved financial freedom.
Once, Xiao Yin accidentally met her first loveZHANG Kang, the two were junior high school classmates, or they were at the same table, but later, one went to college and the other dropped out to work. The two missed it, and this time they met, and the two told each other about the recent situation, but they didn't expect that both of them had just ended a failed marriage. This may be due to fate.
Under the arrangement of fate, Xiao Yin and Zhang Kang quickly rekindled their relationship and got married a few months later. After marriage, the two are like glue, very affectionate, at home, cooking, mopping and laundry, Zhang Kang is trying not to let Xiao Yin do it, and often creates some small romance, at the same time, Zhang Kang also treats his two daughters as his own, Zhang Kang specially bought a large four-bedroom apartment for Xiao Yin, one of which is reserved for Xiao Yu'e.
Maybe it's the success of the family, the business of Xiao Yin's kitchen and bathroom shop is getting better and better, and the double harvest of career and love makes Xiao Yin very content, although this happiness has come more than ten years late, but she is still lucky to wait.
In addition, Zhang Kang is also respectful to his mother Xiao Yu'e, and he will think about this mother-in-law when he has delicious food, and often takes Xiao Yin and his two daughters to visit her, so to speakZhang Kang is a perfect husband, father and son-in-law
Xiao Yue was very satisfied with Zhang Kang, but after Xiao Yin and Zhang Kang got married for half a year, she somehow hated Zhang Kang very much, often said bad things about Zhang Kang in front of Xiao Yin, and asked Xiao Yin and Zhang Kang to divorce, Xiao Yin knew that her mother's character was very arrogant, although she was filial, but she was not stupid, she lived a very happy life, she would not listen to Xiao Yu'e's words and divorce Zhang Kang.
In this way, Xiao Yu'e also has a lot of opinions about her daughter Xiao Yin, and she goes to Xiao Yin's kitchen and bathroom store every once in a while, as long as there are customers in the store, Xiao Yu'e curses loudly, Zhang Kang and his parents, and even smashed the glass, after a period of time, the business of the kitchen and bathroom store plummeted, Xiao Yin was very dissatisfied with her mother, but after all, she was a mother who depended on each other.
Here, Zhang Kang is also very confused, he is very good to Xiao Yin and his two stepdaughters, including his mother-in-law Xiao Yu'e? She didn't offend Xiao Yu'e, why did she hate herself so much, and she had to divorce Xiao Yin from herself?
With the purpose of exploring, Zhang Kang found a TV station mediator to mediate this gratuitous farce. Xiao Yin took the mediator to Xiao Yu'e's house, but whether it was knocking on the door or calling, Xiao Yu'e just didn't respond. It was the mediator who got through Xiao Yu'e's ** and told her to mediate in Xiao Yin's kitchen and bathroom shop.
Half an hour later, Xiao Yu'e came to the store, and the mediator looked at Xiao Yu'e's fierce face, and it was not a good stubble. Sure enough, Xiao Yu'e opened her mouth: "Why, you figured it out and decided to divorce Zhang Kang." As soon as these words came out, Xiao Yin sobbed aggrievedly: ".I've listened to you for more than 30 years, my first marriage failed, and now I'm 39 years old, and I finally met my first love, I'm very happy, why should I tear us up
Suddenly, Xiao Yu'e's face fell: ".I am your mother, I raised you, you should listen to me, now you only have Zhang Kang in your eyes, and I am the mother
Xiao Yin's crying pear blossoms bring rain, on one side is her mother who raised her, and on the other hand is her beloved husband, she doesn't know what to do. Here, Zhang Kang looked at his wife, very distressed, walked up to her and hugged her shoulders and comforted. Xiao Yin leaned on Zhang Kang's shoulder, and this action made Xiao Yu'e angry: ".Today, you have to make a choice, either divorce or break off the mother-daughter relationship with me
At this time, Xiao Yin cried even more sadly, seeing this, Zhang Kang didn't want Xiao Yin to be embarrassed, and said very painfully: "I am willing to divorce, so as not to hurt your mother and daughter's feelings." Xiao Yin hugged Zhang Kang and cried bitterly, I didn't agree, and the mediator couldn't stand it, what is this called?
Here, the mediator comforted Xiao Yin and Zhang Kang, persuaded Xiao Yu'e with good words, facing the camera, Xiao Yu'e did not speak ill of her daughter and son-in-law like she did, the mediator slowly opened Xiao Yu'e's psychological defense, and she slowly said the reason why she hated her son-in-law.
It turned out that Xiao Yin was often abused by her ex-husbandXiao Yin can only rely on Xiao Yu'e, complained to her, and often bought food and clothing for Xiao Yu'e, and asked Xiao Yu'e to take her two daughters out for travel. In Xiao Yu'e's eyes, Xiao Yin should obey her arrangement, she is Xiao Yin's sky
But after Xiao Yin and Zhang Kang got married, they lived happily, Xiao Yin not only had no complaints, but also met Xiao Yu'e less often, and her mind was all on Zhang Kang and her two granddaughters, the most important thing is that Xiao Yin dared to talk back to her Xiao Yu'e for Zhang Kang, which was impossible before.
Xiao Yu'e thought that it was Zhang Kang's fault, and it was Zhang Kang who snatched his daughter Xiao Yin and made Xiao Yu'e lose control of Xiao YinTherefore, the happier Zhang Kang Xiao Yin is, the more unhappy Xiao Yu'e becomes, so she hates Zhang Kang and asks Xiao Yin to divorce Zhang Kang so that Xiao Yin can return to her control, without taking into account the fact that Xiao Yin is 39 years old and living happily
In order to break up the two of them, Xiao Yu'e slandered Zhang Kang in front of Xiao Yin many times, but Xiao Yin said good things for Zhang Kang, seeing that this plan failed. Xiao Yu'e simply offered her emotional card, took the initiative to contact her ex-son-in-law, came to find two granddaughters, and wanted Xiao Yin and her ex-husband to get back together, of course, this also failed, Xiao Yu'e went crazy, and came to the kitchen and bathroom store with Xiao Yin's ex-husband many times, and the business of the kitchen and bathroom shop deteriorated, and there was also a credit from Xiao Yin's ex-husband, and the ex-wife's character was not good, and after the divorce, she often slandered Xiao Yin in the circle of friends.
In front of the mediator, Xiao Yu'e directly said that Zhang Kang coveted Xiao Yin's property. Zhang Kang and Xiao Yin laughed angrily, although Zhang Kang's income was not as good as Xiao Yin, who opened a store, they had already bought a four-bedroom apartment before marriage, and it was a lot of money to decorate it. And no matter how good the business in Xiao Yin's shop is, it has only been open for more than two years, and during this period, Xiao Yu'e and Xiao Yin's ex-husband have messed up the business, saying that coveting money is purely a crime of desire.
Xiao Yin knew that this was her mother's nonsense, and immediately said, "I."I won't remarry him, and I won't divorce Zhang Kang, you still have to die of this heart, it's okay in the future, don't come to my store。These words made Xiao Yu'e jump to her feet angrily on the spot, no longer paying attention to the camera, and began to spew foul language.
The mediator and the accompanying psychological counselor advised Xiao Yin: ".Your mother is paranoid, controlling and possessive, she cares about you too much, you better give in, otherwise things will only change, it is estimated that your father will run away from home and can't stand her temper.
After that, he persuaded Xiao Yu'e: ".It's not easy for your daughter to meet a good match in her second marriage, why break them up, they are all persuaded to make peace and not to persuade them to leave, you would rather demolish ten temples than destroy a marriage, you don't want your daughter to become enemies with you
Xiao Yu'e has nothing to say now, she just wants to regain control of her daughter, not to push her daughter to Zhang Kang's side completely, after thinking for a while, she said:It's okay not to divorce, but you have to agree to two conditions, first, Zhang Kang and Xiao Yin are separated, Xiao Yin must live with Xiao Yue, and second, Zhang Kang can't go to Xiao Yin's shop to help, she goes to help, Xiao Yu'e and Zhang Kang can't appear in front of Xiao Yin at the same time
Don't let Zhang Kang and Xiao Yin meet each other, and they have to separate, what is the difference between this and divorce, Xiao Yin didn't agree, just said:I will not separate from Zhang Kang, nor will I divorce, I will accompany my mother more in the future, and I will not quarrel with her。Zhang Kang also said:will not worry about Xiao Yu'e, and he will not be separated from Xiao Yin, they can be together again, that is fate
In the end, the farce ended in such an unsolvable way.
Objectively speaking, the tragedy of Xiao Yin's first marriage has a lot to do with Xiao Yu'e, since she was raised by the strong Xiao Yu'e, Xiao Yin has developed obedience to her mother, for decades, what her mother says, what she does, both of them unconsciously go deep into the role of controlling and being controlled.
Under Xiao Yu'e's persuasion, Xiao Yin endured her ex-husband's domestic violence for more than ten years, and finally became happy again, but because she was too happy, she neglected her mother Xiao Yu'e, making her feel that her daughter had escaped from her control, and made a move to force her daughter to divorce.
No parents do not want their children to be happy, but parents cannot interfere too much in their children's lives, children have their own life trajectory, and they cannot force their children to follow their own planned path. When encountering strong parents, they should still be reasonable, don't be noisy, they are also for the good of their children, but the concept of the times is different, resulting in cognitive differences. Everything must be grasped to this degree, too much.
What do you think of Xiao Yu'e's behavior?