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Hello, the days are passing day by day, the Spring Festival is getting closer and closer, the train ticket home has been bought, I haven't been back for a year, and I am looking forward to seeing my parents soon, both looking forward to it and a little anxious. I don't have a boyfriend, I don't have a year-end bonus, I'm afraid of facing my parents' questions and nagging, what can I do to alleviate it?
Shanghai Wei Yue.
Expert Opinion. Hello Wei Yue:
The Spring Festival is a festive day for family reunions, so why do some people feel anxious at the end of the year? This is because for these people, the Chinese New Year is not simply a New Year, it may also represent blind dates, forced marriages, and comparisons between relatives and friends. Or for some people with social phobia, it is also difficult for them to cope with the coming and going of relatives and neighbors during the Spring Festival.
So what can be done to alleviate this end-of-year anxiety?
First and foremost, it is important to find out what is causing anxiety so that you can prescribe the right medicine. For example, your anxiety may be that you have no object, your income is not so ideal, and you are afraid of living up to your parents' expectations.
In fact, you can try to put yourself in the other person's shoes to understand the emotions behind the other person's language and find out the source of the emotion. was asked by his parents whether he was single and whether he was ready to have children if he was married. For such problems, it stems from the love of parents for their children, and they are worried that their children will not have a good life. On the basis of understanding this, it is possible to tell parents that you have grown up, that you are doing well, and that they do not have to worry about these problems.
Then, starting from yourself, change your self-perception, that is, the more you are afraid of something, the more you must choose to face it, and it is the same to relieve anxiety. Find out the cause of anxiety, only dare to face it, can overcome it, so that the anxiety can be relieved at the same time, but also can convert these negative anxieties, such as working hard in the new year to increase income, socializing more, finding a suitable friend, etc.
Finally, learn to look at things from a different perspective. One thing, from a different perspective, will suddenly become clear. During the Chinese New Year, everyone hopes that the family will sit together and have a good New Year. So, the most important thing is to be kind. From the perspective of this result, you have to think carefully about what you should do to achieve this result, what to say and what to do.
Communication is a universal tool for solving all interpersonal problems. During the long vacation, when communicating with your parents, express your true thoughts and feelings calmly and clearly, and listen carefully to the other party's response if your parents do not understand or disagree, and empathize more. In this way, we can understand each other and promote problem solving.
The porridge is warm and the lights are amiable, this is the meaning of going home for the New Year. Facing it easily, I wish you a happy New Year. (Rong Juan).