Reflections after divorce The collision of love and reality
I am 29 years old and have just ended my marriage to my ex-husband. Thinking back on this short experience of marriage, I can't help but fall into deep reflection. We only met for three months and hurriedly entered the palace of marriage, and I was moved by his thoughtfulness and meticulous care, and I chose to marry naked without hesitation.
At that time, we didn't have a house, we didn't have a car, and we didn't even have a wedding party. But I don't care because I believe in the power of love. He promised to buy a car and take me on my honeymoon by car. I'm looking forward to that beautiful moment and looking forward to our lives being as free as those who travel by car.
However, reality gave me a resounding slap in the face. After getting married, the two of us squeezed into a rental house of only 70 square meters, squeezing buses and subways every morning and evening, and life was extremely difficult. I've come to envy my colleagues who have cars and houses, and who can go out on road trips on weekends while I have to spend my boring time at home.
A year later, we finally saved 150,000 yuan, and I excitedly planned to use the money to buy a car. But my ex-husband suddenly changed his mind, he said that the car was a consumable, and suggested that we keep the money to buy a house. I couldn't accept his decision at once, I thought how could he go back on his word when we had agreed to buy a car? I felt cheated on, angry and disappointed.
We had a big fight over it, and I insisted that without a car, our lives would never improve. But the ex-husband said indifferently: "You have too much temper, we don't have a good life, if you don't want to, let's divorce." "I was so angry, since he said so, let's get a divorce. For a man who can't even keep his promises, I've long lost faith.
After the divorce, I walked out of the door of the Civil Affairs Bureau alone, and my ex-husband held my hand tightly and persuaded me to change my temper and find a rich man. I shook off his hand and roared, "You just want to buy a car, but you want to divorce me, whose fault is it?" ”
In retrospect, maybe we weren't wrong, but what was wrong was just that we had different understandings of marriage and life. He is more focused on stability and security, while I am more eager for freedom and romance. None of us are wrong, it's just that we don't fit together.
This marriage experience has taught me a truth: love can't be eaten, but it can't be without. While pursuing love, we also have to face reality and plan our lives rationally. Only in this way can we find happiness that truly belongs to us.
Although the divorce has hit me hard, I believe that the future will be better. I will continue to work hard, live hard, and make myself better. I believe that one day, I will meet the person who truly understands me and cherishes me.