In real life, most parents regard their children's marriage as an important mission and constantly urge them to enter the marriage hall as soon as possible. Every holiday, I urge my children all the time, hoping that they can get married as soon as possible. Otherwise, they will feel anxious, as if they can't lift their heads. However, let's calm down. Marriage is not a short adventure, but a lifelong commitment. What will happen if you choose the wrong person just to complete the task? How can parents cope when their children are in pain? This is bound to be a mess. In order to avoid this situation, should parents be more far-sighted and not short-sighted when choosing a son-in-law or daughter-in-law? Let's ** it.
First of all, we should not choose people with whom we have not been well. Nowadays, many children work outside the home, resulting in parents rarely having the opportunity to see their partners. Some don't even meet for the first time until they get married. There is clearly a problem with this situation. There are also some people who have met through blind dates, have only met a few times, and the time they spend together is not even as good as that of their colleagues. Can you really get to know each other in such a short relationship? Clearly not enough. There are often some cover-ups before marriage, and if you don't get along for a long time, it is difficult to judge the true qualities of the other party. I once knew an acquaintance who met his son-in-law for the first time before his daughter got married, and the two of them just had a hasty meal and got married. However, their married life is full of contradictions, and now their parents have to worry about their problems. Such an example is really embarrassing. Therefore, whether it is a blind date or free love, you need to spend enough time together, because only in getting along will a person's character be gradually revealed.
Second, we should not choose people who are excessive. The definition of exceedance is very broad, and it may be the excessive conditions proposed by the other party, or it may be excessive in words and deeds. Once there is an excess, it means that you will become the patient party, which may also indicate conflicts after marriage. For example, some people demand excessively in the terms of marriage, even coveting property that the other party should not covet, which is obviously excessive. There are also people who make people feel very uncomfortable in their daily words and actions, which can become a source of conflict after marriage. Therefore, we should not be overly patient before marriage, when you feel forced, it means that the other party has violated your principles, and you should communicate openly at this time. If the other party can't change the excessive attitude, then there is no need to continue, because such a resolute refusal means that the run-in after marriage will inevitably not go well.
Finally, we need to consider whether the people who can hitchhike in their lives. Marriage is a serious decision, and we need to find a relatively diligent person to be a partner for our children. A person's diligence can be seen in their work attitude and ability to take care of themselves in life. Those who are lazy and just want to hitchhike are clearly not suitable for marriage. For example, some people want each other to take care of all the housework during the relationship stage, but they find various excuses to avoid study and work, such people are obviously not suitable for marriage. Therefore, when choosing a marriage partner, we need to consider all aspects, and although we do not have to ask for someone with excellent conditions, at least there must be no major problems.
To sum up, parents need to be far-sighted and not too short-sighted when choosing their children's marriage partners. We should not choose people with whom we have not gotten along well, people who have gone too far, and people who want to take a free ride in life. Only by taking these factors into account can we choose a satisfactory partner for our children and make their married life happy.