An honest father, a son with severe cerebral palsy, and two stubborn daughters ......If you were asked to choose such a family to remarry, would you be willing?
Definitely not! Therefore, since the death of his wife and Yu in 2003, although there are well-wishers, no woman is willing to meet Zhang Shouyuan, the male owner of the family.
Such a family, poverty and hardship can be imagined!
However, a woman named Huang Gui, despite the dissuasion of her family, stubbornly walked into the family and sent several children to university, master's degree, and doctorate one by one.
Zhang Shouyuan, an ordinary worker at the original seed farm in Boai County, Jiaozuo City, Henan Province, has a son and two daughters with his ex-wife.
The eldest son, Zhang Dakui, was diagnosed with the sequelae of kernicterus when he was two years old, with severe cerebellar paralysis and severe impairment of physical motor function.
Zhang Dakui could only crawl on the ground until he was 6 years old, but under the strict supervision of his parents and unremitting training, he was able to walk on crutches at the age of 9.
Huang Gui was a laid-off worker at the county materials bureau, her husband also died of illness, and she and her young daughter Zhu Zhenzhen depended on each other. The experiences of the two seem to be similar.
However, because he has a disabled son, Zhang Shouyuan can't reach Huang Gui no matter how he looks at this marriage, not to mention, he is 13 years older than Huang Gui!
However, fate is so strange, when the introducer brought Huang Gui to Zhang Shouyuan, seeing this shabby home, as well as the eager expectation flowing from Zhang Shouyuan's eyes, Huang Gui was moved.
She was determined to reorganize the family with him and share the ups and downs, and before she got married, she only put forward one condition: the family must be in charge of herself.
Before entering the house, Huang Gui was ostracized by Zhang Shouyuan's two daughters.
Why should we let our stepmother call the shots? We don't want stepmothers! Faced with the crying of his daughters, Zhang Shouyuan didn't know what to do.
At this time, Zhang Dakui, who was already a computer science student at the Yellow River Institute of Science and Technology, resolutely stood on the side of his stepmother, and he spit out a few words with difficulty:
The eldest sister, the second sister, we ......To understand ......Dad, believe in this woman too!
Oh, yes! Since my mother left, my father has gray hair and bent over tired in order to support the family.
I am not in good health and can't take care of my two younger sisters, and if my father is tired, the family will collapse.
What woman would want to step into this home, burdened with nothing?
Based on this alone, Zhang Dakui had already concluded that Huang Gui must be a kind woman who would take good care of her father and sister.
Zhang Dakui stammered, persuaded his two younger sisters word by word, and after a simple wedding banquet, Huang Gui took his daughter to live in Zhang Shouyuan's house.
From Zhang Dakui's body, she seems to see the hope of this family.
During the college entrance examination, Zhang Dakui's grades could have been used to go to a better school, but because of physical reasons, he was restricted from admission by many schools.
He likes computers, and when he filled out the volunteer, his father chose the computer major of the Yellow River Institute of Science and Technology for him.
This is a private university, and this is the only school willing to accept people with disabilities like Zhang Dakui.
In order to show his sincerity, his father filled in the Yellow River Institute of Science and Technology for him three times in a row, in order to show Zhang Dakuifei's determination not to study in this school.
As soon as Huang Gui entered Zhang Shouyuan's house, Zhang Dakui took a year off from school, saying that he wanted to help share some of the family pressure at home.
But the real reason is that at this time, Zhang Dakui is worried about his future work, and it is difficult for able-bodied people to find a job, not to mention that he is a disabled student of a private university?
He wants to go home and use what he has learned to open a small Internet café or set up a stall to start a small business.
After hearing this, Huang Gui didn't think about it, and said categorically: No, you must continue to study, at least you have to study for an undergraduate!
This is the first time Zhang Dakui has learned the strength of his stepmother, but he doesn't understand his stepmother's intentions.
Huang Gui said: You are the eldest brother, you must be an example. If you don't study anymore, your three younger sisters will learn from you!
Besides, you have a body and bones, if you don't study for an undergraduate, which unit wants you?
Although the words were ugly, they were reasonable, and Zhang Dakui listened to it and lowered his head in shame.
Zhang Dakui took a break from school and stayed at home with nothing to do. Huang Gui and her husband are busy working every day, and in order to earn money for their children's education, they set up a small pig factory.
In order to keep his son from being depressed and slack, Huang Gui decided to use the time off school to let Zhang Dakui learn to ride a tricycle. She couldn't help but say that she took Zhang Dakui to buy a tricycle.
Seeing that she had a son with cerebral palsy next to her, the boss suggested that she buy an electric one, which was labor-saving and the child would not be affected.
But Huang Gui insisted on buying a human-powered tricycle, and when he got home, Zhang Shouyuan was very unhappy, and asked: Why don't you buy an electric one, how much money can you save?
Huang Gui retorted: I bought manpower to let Da Kui exercise his leg strength, be able to stand up as soon as possible, and live independently on his own.
We can still take care of him now, but when we are old and die, let him parasitize on others for the rest of his life? ”
was robbed by Huang Gui, Zhang Shouyuan understood his wife's good intentions, Zhang Dakui listened to it on the side, both moved and helpless.
In order to teach his son to ride a three-wheeler, Huang Gui put a lot of effort into it.
In the early years, Zhang Dakui, under the urging of his biological mother, also learned to pedal three times, but later threw it away because his body couldn't bear it.
Huang Gui thought of a way, she first asked Zhang Dakui to practice pedaling on the spot, but Dakui was too lazy to pedal and couldn't move without a few pedals.
He was depressed and unwilling to practice again. Huang Gui grabbed his foot and pressed it on the pedal, forcing him to practice ...... over and over again
Da Kui was so tired that his head was covered in sweat, and his tears were falling in pain, but Huang Gui just wouldn't let him stop.
The two younger sisters felt sorry for their brother and complained to their father: How can there be such a ruthless stepmother who tortures her brother in a different way!
Although Huang Gui was aggrieved, he still went his own way, she said to Zhang Shouyuan: I'm not ruthless, can it be that your son will let us take care of it all his life?
Zhang Shouyuan knew that his wife had a knife mouth and a tofu heart, and he didn't care, he was tossed by her, and he understood his wife's good intentions.
After two months of training, Zhang Dakui finally learned to ride three wheels, and Huang Gui lost more than ten pounds as a result.
Some people laughed at her stupidity and went to Zhang's house to work as a nanny. Some people still question what kind of heart she has? Some people even scolded her behind her back for not waiting to see the child. In the face of these rumors, Huang Gui always ignored them.
Once, Zhang Shouyuan heard other people's discussions, and when he returned home, his face was very ugly.
Huang Gui took advantage of the meal to tell the whole family: When I entered your house, there was only one condition, that is, you all had to listen to me. Now you don't have to listen to the long and short outside, just listen to me, read hard, and don't worry about other things!
The words made the whole family enthusiastic, and the two stubborn and proud daughters, under her strength, were also properly cleaned up.
With the encouragement of his father and stepmother, Zhang Dakui prepared to take the college entrance examination.
The neighbor said: Don't toss around, what kind of climate can a son with cerebral palsy become? Huang Gui said: How do you know that he can't become a climate?
The neighbor's unintentional words stabbed Zhang Dakui's ear, but it aroused the inferiority complex hidden in his heart.
The next day, when the sun was on the clock, he was still lying in bed and could not eat.
What's wrong with this kid? Usually, he is the hardest working child in the family, and the reason why he can go to college is not how smart he is, but because he works harder than others.
Huang Gui didn't say a word, picked up a broom and walked into the house, and hit his son's buttocks.
It doesn't matter what others say, what matters is how you do it and what kind of person you want to become!
The daughter muttered to her father: I have never seen a stepmother beat her son like this!
Huang Gui heard this and snorted: Zhang Shouyuan's son, can't he be beaten? If you are disobedient, you will still fight!
The husband and daughter were choked and silenced, and they no longer dared to speak strongly.
During that holiday, the three daughters saw that their brother did not want to continue studying, and they also had the idea of abandoning school.
The neighbors are talking on the side: a child with cerebral palsy, three incompetent daughters, this family is hopeless.
These words reached Huang Gui's ears, and she called the four children to her, and in front of Zhang Shouyuan, they slapped each of them.
She looked at the four stunned children and said coldly: You can beat me if you want, but you have to wait until you have a chance. If you have ambition, you will slap someone in the face just now!
The children bowed their heads in shame. Zhang Dakui said: I remember, we have to use our own actions to give those who look down on us an invisible slap in the face.
In order to support his son's study, Huang Gui took good care of Zhang Dakui, and had to accompany him every night, fanning him next to him to drive away mosquitoes, and a fan was a fan for several hours.
Her own youngest daughter was jealous: Am I your own or not?
Huang Gui also felt sorry for her children, but she still said ruthlessly: Whoever is diligent and studies well, I will be partial to whom, and you are the same!
The youngest daughter had to pick up the pen and continue to write her homework.
In order to motivate the three daughters' interest in learning, at the suggestion of Zhang Dakui, the family implemented a reward and punishment point system, and one point was awarded for entering a ranking in the exam, and one point was punished otherwise. During the Spring Festival, rewards are given according to the score.
Over the past few years, she has been carefully recording the progress of each child, and the children have achieved varying degrees of improvement in their learning under this competitive mechanism.
In August 2005, Zhang Dakui re-entered the Yellow River Institute of Science and Technology.
But the annual tuition fee of 8,000 yuan made Zhang Shouyuan worried. The pig farm is still in debt, go and get this money again?
Huang Gui asked his mother's family for help, but his mother's family was unwilling to borrow it. A stupid paralyzed child, can you be trusted?
Huang Gui said domineeringly: I said that he can be trusted, he can be trusted! The family had no choice, and although they were reluctant, they still gave her 10,000 yuan.
Under the influence of his elder brother, several younger sisters are also scrambling to study.
The eldest sister got on the key line in the college entrance examination, and under the persuasion of her stepmother, she gave up a better college and chose the undergraduate English major of the Yellow River University of Science and Technology, just to take care of each other with her brother.
At this time, Zhang Shouyuan became ill from hard work and was admitted to the hospital. Huang Gui took on the responsibility of the whole family, spinning like a top every day.
Several younger sisters are in school, and Zhang Dakui, who is the eldest son, decided to drop out of school and find a job to earn money to support his family. At this time, he was sprinting to upgrade to a higher level.
Huang Gui was angry, she scolded in **: You don't have to take care of the affairs at home, you don't concentrate on studying, be careful that I beat you!
My father also called**: Your mother said that if you can't get into the bachelor's degree, she will divorce me ......
At the insistence of his stepmother, Zhang Dakui did not dare to slack off, successfully passed the college entrance examination and was admitted to Henan Polytechnic University.
After finishing his undergraduate studies, Zhang Dakui originally planned to look for a job, but unexpectedly ran into walls everywhere, and he wanted to go to graduate school.
However, if you fail the exam, it will not only waste time, but also increase the burden on the family.
Huang Gui knew his son's mind from his eldest daughter, and the ** that hit him was sonorous and powerful: How do you know that you can't do it if you don't try, as long as you work hard, there is nothing unsuccessful!
In January 2007, Zhang Dakui took the postgraduate examination, and three months later, the results were announced, and he was admitted to the university.
He rode his tricycle all the way home, dancing with excitement and being happy.
Huang Gui looked calm, and immediately poured a scoop of cold water on him: What is there to be happy about, you are a disabled person, you don't study for a doctorate, and you don't have a unit to ......
She had already inquired that the best way out for a serious cerebral palsy like Zhang Dakui was to engage in research, and the only way out was to study for a doctorate!
In August 2007, the second daughter was admitted to Beijing Forestry University, and Huang Gui sent a message to the three daughters: The three of you will listen to me clearly, and you will also be admitted to graduate school in the future!
Under her careful cultivation, several children are very competitive and encourage each other.
Even the youngest daughter Zhu Zhenzhen, whose grades have been lagging behind, with the help of her older brothers and sisters, has improved her grades by more than ten years after a holiday make-up class, and she has become a class representative.
In her junior year, her eldest daughter passed the CET-8 exam, but she decided to give up the opportunity to go to graduate school and find a job to reduce the burden on her family.
After Zhang Dakui found out, he felt very guilty, he was a wasted person, and it should be himself who should give up, not his sister, and he also had the idea of giving up Kaobo.
Knowing the fluctuations in the thoughts of the two children, Huang Gui was very anxious, but the children were down, and it didn't work anymore if they were as arbitrary as before. What to do?
She ran to Zhengzhou and found her eldest daughter: Your brother wants to take the doctoral examination of Beijing Institute of Technology after graduation, and if you and your second sister are also admitted to Beijing, you can take better care of your brother.
The rare earnestness touched the eldest daughter, and she tearfully agreed.
On the other hand, Zhang Dakui, under the strong ** offensive of his stepmother, also regained his spirit and prepared to continue to take the exam.
In 2009, the eldest daughter was admitted to Beijing Forestry University for a master's degree in English, and Zhu Zhenzhen was admitted to Zhengzhou University of Economics and Business.
Two years later, Zhang Dakui was admitted to Beijing Institute of Technology for a doctorate, and his second daughter was admitted to ** University of Finance and Economics for a master's degree.
The tuition fees of the four children add up to nearly 50,000 a year, and Zhang Shouyuan can't sleep all night.
The most uncomfortable thing is Zhang Dakui, who is close to him, does not help his family earn a penny, and reaches out to ask for money every day, making it difficult for his parents. He had the idea of dropping out of school again.
Just as he was about to go home to pack his clothes, Huang Gui hurriedly found him and snatched his baggage: I have always thought that you are the most promising, but now, I think you are the most mixed! Zhang Dakui dismissed the idea of abandoning school again.
During the Spring Festival of 2011, after learning that Zhang Dakui had a sudden high fever, Huang Gui hurriedly went to Beijing to visit.
The first time she went to a big city, she couldn't find her way, so she got out of the car and got lost.
followed the bustling ** on the bus, because she was overtired and didn't hear the station, she took the station.
Unfortunately, after getting out of the car, she found that her mobile phone and money had been stolen, so she had to inquire all the way and walk to the Beijing Institute of Technology.
It was late at night, the school gate could not enter, it was cold, and she was tired and hungry, so she curled up in front of a store for the night.
At dawn, the eldest daughter received a letter from her father, only to know that her stepmother had come to Beijing, and the three brothers and sisters found Huang Gui who was asking about her son at the door of the student dormitory.
30-year-old Zhang Dakui cried like a child, it is not easy for parents to provide for four children!
I'm not going to do a Ph.D., so let's get a job! I don't have a mom anymore, and I can't afford to lose your ...... anymore
Huang Gui smiled and comforted him: I discussed with your father to sell that side (the original house of her and her daughter Zhu Zhenzhen) and raise the tuition fees, so you can study with peace of mind!
I swore at your mother's grave that I must train you well, even for the sake of your dead mother, you must study and become ......
Tears blurred Zhang Dakui's eyes, he raised his head and saw that his stepmother had gray temples, and he couldn't help crying.
From that moment on, he was determined to get his Ph.D. and never back down.
Postscript: Along the way, Zhang Dakui has gained a lot of honors, and has been elected as the pacesetter of "Star of Self-improvement of Chinese College Students", "Star of Capital Citizen Learning", and was recommended to become one of the 10 typical "Capital Learning Stars" for key publicity.
In 2017, he was awarded the title of "People's Learning Star" in China.
In July 2018, Zhang Dakui officially came to work at the China Braille Library under the China Disabled Persons' Federation.
The spacious and bright office, the smell of books wafting from time to time, Zhang Dakui said, I like it very much.
His three younger sisters, one studying abroad for a Ph.D., one for a master's degree, and one is already working in Beijing.
In their hometown, when their family is mentioned, people all give a thumbs up and praise: this stepmother is not simple ......
The only regret is that their father, Zhang Shouyuan, left their ...... forever two months after Zhang Dakui joined the work