Love is an emotion based on respect, understanding, and support, but love without respect is not healthy.
Whether a man respects you or not depends on your actions, not your words.
A man is not in love with you when he behaves in front of you: probably because of his lack of respect and understanding for you. These actions can show that he has no real feelings for you, showing his disdain and disdain. for you.
01: Talk about other women.
When a guy talks non-stop about other women in front of you, it doesn't mean that he is close to you and won't talk about anything, it means that he looks down on you.
Evaluations and comments on others often reflect that person's values and moral bottom line. If he often uses demeaning and critical language towards other women, he may project the same attitude onto you.
This behavior not only shows his disdain for women, but also shows that he doesn't put you first emotionally.
Even if he has a positive opinion of other women, he won't take your feelings into account. Love is possessive, and no woman wants to hear a man praise another woman in front of her.
When he doesn't hesitate to praise other women in front of you, he doesn't put you on an equal footing at all and doesn't care about your feelings at all.
02: Hit your family.
When a man criticizes your family, it is also a form of contempt and contempt for you.
Family is the closest person in our lives and plays an important role in our growth and formation.
When a man makes negative comments about your family or criticizes them, he is actually disrespectful to the supporter behind you.
This behavior shows disrespect for family values and traditions, as well as disapproval of your relationship with your family.
It may seem like he's criticizing your family, but he's actually criticizing you.
03: Accuse you in public.
Zeng Guofan once said that it is better to do good things in the court than to do good things in private. When complimenting others, say it before others buy it, so that others can understand how good you are. If someone criticizes you, communicate privately to save face.
This is something that everyone should be aware of, not only between two people in an intimate relationship, but also in their day-to-day interactions with friends.
When a man criticizes you in public, it is also a public disrespect and contempt for you. He didn't leave you with any dignity and didn't respect you enough.
In public, blame should not be used as a means to achieve an end, but rather choose a more respectful and constructive way to solve the problem.
When he belittles you or criticizes your actions and decisions in front of everyone, he is actually denying your abilities and worth. This behavior not only hurts your self-esteem, but also shows his distrust of your character and abilities.
Love is based on mutual respect and support. A man can only give you true love and thoughtfulness if he truly understands and values your worth.
Some men package these things as expressions of love for you, but whether they truly love you or despise you, you can feel it when you're there, and I believe it can be done.
Whatever words he uses, as long as his behavior makes you feel uncomfortable and disrespectful, it is inappropriate.
In relationships, we have to trust our feelings and reject the "love" that others impose on us.
I hope that all women who encounter this kind of hurting men in the name of "love" will have the courage to walk away and find someone who knows how to cherish themselves.