If the baby has the problem of crying and holding back, then in the process of growth, his personality and mental condition will be very different. There are generally three reasons why children cry, one is that they are not feeling well, the second is that they are not in a good mood, and the third is to achieve their goals. For crying children, parents should understand the causes and give care and help; If you are holding back to prevent yourself from crying, then you should pay more attention to your emotional catharsis and spiritual development. Such personality differences can lead to differences in children's psychological defense mechanisms, personality traits, and emotional perception abilities as they grow up. Therefore, parents should pay attention to children's emotional performance, guide children to treat their emotions correctly, and develop a good emotional attitude.
1. The reason why children cry.
1) Physiological diseases: When children are injured or sick, they will cry, which is due to the physical discomfort that makes them feel very uncomfortable and helpless.
2) Affective disorders: When children are frustrated, wronged or hurt, they will shed tears due to emotional venting due to emotional inaccessibility.
3) To reach the goal: Some children get the items they need by crying, which is a way for them to express their needs and expectations.
The situations that children present when they cry are in fact external expressions of their inner emotions. Crying physiologically inappropriately is seeking care and comfort; When you are in a bad mood, you can vent your feelings by crying, and you need the understanding and support of others; To shed tears in order to achieve a goal is to learn how to use emotions to achieve a goal. Parents should be good at understanding the meaning of children's crying, and pay attention to and guide them in a timely manner.
2. Restrain yourself from letting tears flow.
1) Differences between men and women: It is often assumed that girls are more likely to cry and boys are more patient, which may have a negative impact on boys' emotional performance.
2) Emotional repression: If you endure and don't cry all the time, then emotions will accumulate and it will be difficult to vent out, and even worse relationship problems will appear in the future.
There is no significant emotional difference between men and women who expand, and boys, like girls, maintain their inner balance through affection. Being patient without crying is not a positive way to cope with emotions, on the contrary, it can lead to the accumulation of feelings and the increase of psychological burden, which can have a negative impact on mental health later on.
3. Differences in all aspects.
1) Children who suppress tears tend to hide their emotions by numbness, indifference, etc., so as to develop a stronger self-protection mechanism.
2) Personality characteristics: Children who do not cry are prone to timidity and vulnerability, while children who can freely express their emotions have a relatively stable personality.
3) Emotional perception: Children who are good at expressing emotions generally have a high emotional perception and can better understand their own and others' emotional needs.
Children's spiritual development is restricted by extended expressions, so parents should guide children to understand and respond to emotions, and cultivate children's good emotional expressions. When children are growing up, they have to experience feelings, pour out their feelings, use emotions to understand themselves, understand themselves, and form a strong and stable psychological quality.
Conclusion: In the teaching process, we should pay attention to the guidance and cultivation of emotions, whether it is often crying or forbearing, parents should listen patiently and understand. Allowing children to vent their emotions at the right time and guiding them to learn to express their emotions appropriately is crucial for cultivating a sound psychological quality. Parents' behavior is also very important, do not let their feelings hurt their children, to give rational guidance to their children's feelings, teach them how to control their emotions, so that they can have a positive and healthy psychological quality when they grow up.