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Jimu News reporter Liao Shiqi
At the beginning of the new year, the wave of film and television dramas ushered in a wave of small peaks - "Flowers", "Big River 3", "If Running is My Life" ......When the plot finally comes to an end, are you still immersed in it and can't extricate yourself, and it is accompanied by some "sequelae": the small expectation of chasing dramas at a fixed time every day no longer exists, and I can't help but revisit my beloved episodes repeatedly, and I have long forgotten how to spend the days before chasing dramas.
If so, you're going through one"Electronic Lost Love".。Recently,It turns out that the end of the play can also induce separation anxietyThe topic rushed to the hot search, what is electronic lovelorn? How do drama followers get out of "electronic lovesickness"? On January 31, the reporter interviewed a psychologist in Wuhan.
Feel "out of love" after chasing the drama?
Netizens have a variety of mitigation methods
After reading "Mountains and Rivers Order", I felt as sad as if I had been dumped. "After the concert, I felt sour, like an empty piece, and I couldn't cry, but I was so sad. "I've watched "Please Answer 1988" many times, but I never dared to watch the last two episodes. For their favorite film and television dramas, ** or games, people often come up with the idea of "never end", once the end is near, they will be extremely reluctant, and after watching the episode (or game clearance), they will feel empty, as if they have just lost a big love.
The reporter checked relevant reports and found that the term "electronic lovelorn" can be traced back to 2020 at the earliest, when popular dramas such as "I Want to See You" and "Crash Landing on Love" ended one after another, making many viewers who followed the drama say goodbye to the characters in the drama instantly, and their hearts were empty for a while, as if they had fallen into a broken love. At the beginning of the new year, the end of dramas such as "Flowers" set off another storm of "electronic lovelorn".
"Electronic lovelorn" is not comfortable, and netizens have a variety of ways to alleviate it. Some people chased from the drama to reality, turned out the interviews of the actors and directors one by one and read them repeatedly; Some people insist that "as long as I don't watch the finale, the story doesn't end"; Someone rewatched it repeatedly until the next series that appealed to them came along. At the same time, film and television drama companies will also release "tidbits" and "easter eggs" to provide a series of "intimate after-sales service" to comfort netizens who have not yet come out of the "electronic lovelorn".
If you fall into "electronic lovelorn" too deeply
You need to seek professional psychological help
What exactly is an e-lovelorn? Chen Tingting, director of the Department of Pediatric Psychology of Wuhan Wudong Hospital, introducedElectronic breakup refers to a feeling of loss after watching your favorite film and television works and ** games, and it is also a social psychological phenomenon.
Why do some people always fall into "electronic lovesickness"? Chen Tingting pointed out that personal personality traits, especially empathy ability, are one of the most important factors. People with strong empathy tend to be more sensitive, emotional, more sensitive to stimuli, and good at caring for others with empathy. Empathy is often interpreted as understanding and responding. When we give emotion to the virtual world, it is also a manifestation of how we understand the world and the characters in the world, and respond in our own way. In the moment of empathy, you will feel a sense of spiritual fulfillment and a sense of satisfaction. But detachment from empathy is not an easy task, and "unable to get out" is one of the manifestations of failure to detachment from empathy.
Another important factor is the projection effect, the tendency to attribute one's own characteristics to others. In the process of chasing dramas, "projection" often makes us tend to know and evaluate others according to our own characteristics, and because of this, we will invest more feelings in people who are similar to ourselves and people who have the same characteristics as the people we hate, and we can't even "extract" these emotions from them after the end.
Director Chen Tingting pointed outIf you fall too deep,It is easy for us to lack interest and motivation in other things in life, to be framed in the virtual world, and to affect our normal daily life, at this timeIt is necessary to seek professional psychological help appropriately and let the professional provide advice to better solve the problem.
How to get out of electronic lovelornness?
Positive psychological cues are especially important
How to get out of electronic lovelornness? Wei Xinjie, a psychologist in the Department of Pediatric Psychology of Wuhan Wudong Hospital, believes that in a society where the Internet and media are prevalent, "electronic lovelorn" is a widespread phenomenon. In other words, there's nothing wrong with falling out of love electronically, and there's no shame in it. It's important to get the e-breakup right and be wary of falling into a cycle of breakup.
Wei Xinjie said that from a psychological point of view, positive psychological cues are especially important, we can constantly imply that our stories are stories, characters are characters, and we are ourselves. We still need to be empathetic and understanding of others, but we must not let these emotions and feelings interfere too much with our own lives. Secondly, it is a good idea to get rid of the emptiness that comes with e-lovelorn and try to find a new goal. You can chase a new drama, watch a different **, or go back to real life and complete some things you wanted to do but didn't have time to do.
Wei Xinjie pointed out that science treats "electronic love".The most important thing is to acknowledge the existence of the phenomenon of electronic lovelornness, admit and accept your true emotions and feelings, and then gradually change your negative emotionsCarefully analyze the degree of influence of electronic lovelorn on yourself, and look at any film and television work from a rational point of view.
*: Jimu News (Reporter: Liao Shiqi) Correspondent: Chen Hongyuan Chen Lan Drawing: Liu Yang Editor: Xiao Tao Review: Wei Xi Intern: Li Jiaxin.