Because of the loss of the perception of love, many people misunderstand hurt as true love, and end up in deeper pain.
Many women are deceived in the name of "love", but in fact fall into the trap of harm.
One of the important reasons for this is that we have many misunderstandings about love, which is like losing the steering wheel of our direction, which directly affects the trajectory of our progress.
Our initial perception of love is based on the family of origin, however, there are many wrong and rough ways of getting along in the family of origin, which deeply affects our understanding of love and makes us mistakenly think that love should be a certain appearance.
Fortunately, with the awakening of the collective consciousness, people gradually understand what true love is, and learn to discern the true meaning of love and the correct way to love others.
There is a saying that "loving a person is like raising flowers" that resonates with many people, although this sentence seems strange, linking a lover with raising flowers, but a closer reflection reveals that there are many similarities contained in it.
Loving people is like raising flowers, they need to invest time and energy and take care of them.
Many girls ask netizens by sharing chat records or feelings, wanting to judge whether their boyfriend really loves her.
However, some boyfriends are reluctant to give too much for a girl when they are in a relationship, and they show that they are stingy with time, energy, and money.
Raising flowers requires careful care, watering, insect removal, fertilization, and choosing a suitable environment.
In the same way, treating your lover also requires love and help when she is sick, facing difficulties or feeling down, listening to the other person's heart, and being there for her when she needs it.
These moments need to be given with love, patience, and sincerity.
However, many girls are deceived by the superficial love, and they give their hearts and minds to each other without getting an equal response.
Some men are accustomed to the woman's unilateral giving, but are unwilling to make the same effort for the woman, and even use the excuse of "for your own good, in order to make you feel worthy".
This superficial love is actually just a disguise, and true love needs to be put into action.
Another thing that lovers and flower raisers have in common is their attitude towards their objects.
The flowers are beautiful and fragile and need to be cared for. People who truly love you will cherish you, take care of you, and treat you like a treasure.
However, in reality, some people show indifference, ignorance, accusation, and even violence in the name of love.
This disguised love will only bring harm to the other person, not warmth and pampering.
Raising flowers needs sunlight, water, and nourishment, but what is the "nourishment" of love?
Positive behaviors such as appreciation, tolerance, encouragement, comfort, and support can make love healthier and stronger.
People who are truly loved become radiant, energetic, and love themselves and the world.
Lovers are like flowers", although concise, but vividly convey the true meaning of love.
And getting along with a person also needs to be appreciative, enjoy the process of getting along, and wait for the surprise of love.
We can't ** the direction of love, we can only have good wishes, to give, to water, and then wait for the flower to bloom, waiting for it to bring us surprises.
Raising flowers requires patience and appreciation, and healthy love also requires a relaxed mind to enjoy the process of getting along.
Love is like sand in your hands, the tighter you grasp it, the faster it flows.
When a person is too nervous about the relationship and wants too much control over the outcome, it often backfires, puts pressure on the other person, and strains the relationship.
Therefore, true love is tender, not violent.
Only in a relaxed state of mind can we enjoy the process of getting along and wait for the flowers of love to bloom quietly.
May every flower of love be beautiful and moving, and it will flourish forever.