Since ancient times, love has been the most unpredictable, when we fall in love with someone, maybe we haven't realized that people are the most innocent and beautiful at the beginning, showing each other the best side, hiding some of their shortcomingswill only show his perfect image in the eyes of the other party.
When we determine a relationship, the reason why there are big and small conflicts is because the love between each other is getting stronger and stronger, and it is precisely because we care about each other's feelings that there will be countless quarrels.
I have seen many people have a strong desire to control in their relationships, and this idea is not obvious at first, perhaps because the other party is usually used to reporting their whereabouts and keeping in touch with each other all the time.
Suddenly one day this habit fades, then there will be a kind of convenienceThere is a strong sense of crisis, constantly wondering if the other party has changed his mind, but for a while I don't know how to face it.
So they began to bombard each other with their mobile phones, wanting to know where the other party was and what they were doing at all times.
Take the present as an example, there are many couples who will gradually lose their minds during their relationship, obviously there are many excellent people around them, and there are many beautiful things, but he can't see them all, and he only puts all his thoughts on each other.
Although this is a way for him to express his love, what he doesn't know is that his so-called love will make the other party haveSuffocation.
Just imagine, if it is ourselves, we also hope to have our own independent space at any time, the pressure given to us by life is too great, the original relationship is a very beautiful thing, but also can give us a charge and release at the right time, relieve our pressure.
But if the other person is too controlling, it will not only not relieve us, but also make us feel more stressed.
Just like a friend told me before, the real reason why he broke up with his girlfriend was that he felt that her love was too strong, which made him feel a strong sense of restraint.
Whether it's working overtime or drinking with friends, as long as she doesn't reply to her messages in time within 10 minutes, then she will start to **bomb.
Sometimes he accidentally mutes his phone, and he will also start to call the people around him, and after some operation, his friend will not only have to reply to her, but even have to reply to the messages of all friends around himThis feeling made him suffocated and incomprehensible.
I think in a relationship, it doesn't have to be based on both parties, even if it's marriedYou should also have your own space。Although it is said that the relationship between two people needs to be managed by each other and connected with each other to maintain, sometimes the distance is too close, and it is not necessarily a good thing.
A good relationship is getting better and better with each other, two people working together towards a better future, and at the same time hoping that each other can become excellent from the heart, rather than blindly immersed in it and unable to extricate themselves, not only immersed in it themselves, but also with each other.
Love is indescribable, and it can't be seen or touched, but as long as we feel it with our hearts, we can really feel it, and loving someone should be paid without asking for anything in return, when two people get alongIt should also be a comfortable stateYou must know that you are exhausted at the end of the day's work.
We all just want to rest and recharge ourselves, instead of going home and constantly entangled, constantly arguing and explaining, it may be easy to want the other party to be afraid of you.
If the other party cares about you, then he will be afraid of you from the heart, he is afraid that you will leave, and he is afraid that you will propose to break up.
But this fear does not last longIf you only blindly let the other party be afraid of you, then the relationship will end sooner or later.
Everyone's thinking is independent, we should not try to control others, let alone force them to obey us in the name of being good for each other.
I think more often than not, we should be ourselves, so that the other party admires us from the heart, and the love he generates must come from the heart.
It's like saying that every day he will report his whereabouts to you, and all the time he will tell you what he is doing, and share with you what happened to him today, for better or worse.
If these practices are not from the heart, then the distance between the two people will be farther and farther away, even if two people can achieve zero distance in real life, whether it is going to work or even eating togetherBut the distance between hearts and minds is far apartIn this case, it is not good for the relationship between two people.
So at this time, some people may say that at the beginning, the other party will report everything, and he will be willing to share everything with him, but maybe in the future, as soon as the novelty passes, he will not share anymore, and he will no longer reveal his whereabouts.
In fact, we don't have to think too much about it at this timeIf the other party really loves us, then he will definitely be able to do a good jobIf the other person's heart has changed, then no matter how much we ask for it, it will not help.
As the saying goes, love in a relationship is cultivated by each other, and it is two sincere hearts that collide with each other, rather than one party teaching the other how to do itLove is taught in this wayOften not sincerely
Therefore, no matter how much we love each other in a relationship, we should focus on ourselves, respect each other, and keep a certain distance even if we are intimate lovers.
Don't be delusional to know what the other party is doing all the time, more often we should be ourselves, try to make ourselves better, and let the other party appreciate him before he wants to maintain the relationship from the bottom of his heart.
I hope everyone can harvest their own love.