First of all, before the article begins, Ya Ya's mother would like to ask you a question:Who is taking the baby in your family?
Some mothers may say that I bring it myself, or a nanny. But in any case, one thing cannot be denied - taking care of the baby every day, in fact, grandparents and grandparents also assume very important responsibilities.
However, Ya Ya's mother often hears people complain that her mother-in-law's parenting concept is very backward and hurts her children, and she also complains that her mother-in-law often quarrels with her.
Although there is some truth in their complaints, it is also unfair to always complain about these elderly people who have worked hard for themselves, and it is not easy for the elderly to take care of children!
In fact, young parents are full of opinions on "old people with babies", which can be summed up in just two points:
Psychological aspectsThe elderly are prone to over-indulge their children, which has more or less influence on the development of children's personalities, and in addition, the relatively backward concepts of some elderly people will also hinder the development of children's personalities; 
PhysicalThe elderly generally like to be quiet and do not like to move, and tend to meet their children's various snack preferences, which is not conducive to children's physical development. 
However, aside from these, there are actually many benefits for the elderly to bring a baby!
1.The elderly have a lot of experience in childcareAfter all, they are people who have come over, and they still summarize a set of parenting scriptures, some concepts may be outdated or abandoned, but some can still be referred to and listened to!
2.The elderly have an innate psychological foundationDue to the blood relationship between grandparents and grandchildren, the elderly will instinctively have a loving heart for their children, which has the psychological basis for the success of intergenerational parenting.
3.The elderly and children are getting along more happilyThey will especially like to play with children, they are actually old children, they will get along with children very well, which also creates good opportunities and conditions for educating children.
4.The elderly have wonderful life experiencesThe elderly have also experienced a lot of things, they have rich life knowledge and profound life experience, and they provide capital and authority in educating children.
Not only that, the old man with the baby, but also made a huge sacrifice, if you can understand them, you will really feel a little guilty, in fact, they are not easy!
The elderly with children paid for their healthOften the elderly who can take their grandchildren are over half a hundred years old, although they are living now, but there are still some elderly people suffering from high blood pressure, diabetes and other difficult diseases. 
However, in the process of helping to take care of the children, they may forget to take medicine because they are busy, because the illness is aggravated due to busy work, even if they are a little uncomfortable, they are all insisting, and the old people are undoubtedly not consuming their health to take care of the baby in this process!
The old man took the child and gave his own energyAlthough mom and dad love their children very much, they are still not as serious as the elderly when it comes to raising children. Sometimes young people will choose a simpler way to bring up a baby, such as in order to calm down the crying child, they will show them their mobile phone or tablet to watch cartoons and play games, and they can be lazy.
However, the elderly always feel that letting children play with these things is not good for children's eyes, so they will always hold their children in order to calm them down, and they will also take their children out to play. Therefore, in the process of raising children, the elderly are more responsible and pay more energy than young parents.
The old man took the children and gave his own timeAfter retirement, many elderly people want to enjoy their old age, travel with their wives or friends, and see all the beautiful rivers and mountains of the motherland. But in order for the young couple to live a better life, they have to stay at home and take care of their children.
I spend the rest of my days coaxing my children to play with my children, and I don't have any time for my own entertainment. They also want to live a chic life in their own homes, and they also want to travel everywhere to relax, but for the sake of their children, they have to live a life of looking at people's faces, and dedicate their time to taking care of babies like a nanny.
Seeing this, do you still want to continue to complain about your mother-in-law or mother with a baby?
It is not an obligation for the elderly to take care of the baby, but to give additional gifts to their children, which inevitably has many contradictions. If science and theory can't solve them, thenJust be tolerant and understanding! Forgive these big or small unpleasant things, and let this home be filled with more warmth and upward strength!
Speaking of which, Ya Ya's mother will share a few experiences with you. How do you communicate when you have a disagreement with an elderly person in your family because of a child's problem?
1. Facts
When communicating with the elderly, we should discuss things on a case-by-case basis, discuss whatever problems arise, and don't bring other contradictions in life to education.
Don't blame, but talk about solutions: speak your own opinion calmly, and try to agree with the elderly to some extent, because everyone's starting point is the same, all for the good of the child.
2. More encouragement and care
Encourage the strengths of the elderly in raising children, so that the elderly know that their hard work can be recognized. In case of holidays, take the elderly and children out for a walk, so that they can enhance mutual understanding.
3. Learn to use external forces
In the eyes of the elderly, the words of some authoritative people have more weight, so in order to change the old man's concept, he can use "the child's teacher said......”
Experts on TV say the same......"We asked the doctor ...... beforeConvince them that it will work much better than what they say.
Ya Ya Ma here as a person to say a few words:
Even if you have to go to work, even if there are elderly people at home to help take care of the children, you can't be the shopkeeper, you must shoulder the responsibility of taking care of the baby yourself, and spend more time with the growth of the child. It is not a matter of course to give this obligation to the elderlyAlthough the baby has received double love from the elderly, what he ultimately loses is the childhood companionship of his parents.
Once Ya Ya's mother chatted with her best friend, she started her own company, and she had to take two children, her husband was abroad, and her in-laws were old, so there was no way to help her take care of the children. I asked her what it was like to be alone with two babies. Isn't it full of a sense of accomplishment? But she said lightlyThere's nothing special about it, isn't that what every parent should do?
Yes, this is what every parent should do, no matter how hard it is, they must take care of their own children, instead of blaming their in-laws or parents for not helping, on the contraryForcibly asking your mother-in-law or mother to help take care of the child is the most selfish manifestation.
There are old people to help with the baby, we want itWith gratitudeTake care of the old and the young, because this is happiness"Double accompaniment".
We will grow old after all, and we will all do better after all.
Ya Ya's mother hopes that everyone can remember the heart-warming efforts of the elderly with their babies, and they can all have a sense of it, and change their attitude towards the elderly at home from todayStop criticizing and complaining about the elderly!