"My boyfriend, who was so good to me before marriage, how did he change after marriage? It's not so good or even bad, and it's like two people before marriage. ”
Is this the confusion of the girls after a lot of struggle in marriage?
I would like to share my personal experience.
My husband and I have been in love for 5 years and married for 10 years, and I am very touched by this!
We were in a campus romance, and after graduation, the other lovers almost broke up, and we didn't.
One of the important reasons is because:At that time I felt that he was very good to me!
What's a good way? For example, every morning he would wait for me downstairs in my dormitory, and then go to class together, his dormitory is a minute walk from my dormitory, and it takes more than ten minutes from my dormitory to the classroom, but his dormitory to the classroom is closer than his dormitory to my dormitory; They will also take me back to the dormitory in the evening. It isOne.
SecondI take good care of my life, for example, when I eat, there are many people in the canteen, basically he helps me to do a good job, I eat directly, I don't have to queue up to eat, and when I eat, he will also give me the delicious food in his bowl.
Thirdly,He was willing to spend a lot of time with me to hang out, such as cycling around the school on weekends, going for walks, going to places I wanted to go, and helping me with umbrellas.
Fourth,...Belch. Well.
No, I can't even think of it!
Yes! That's it, that's "good"? What a ghost!
Let's talk about oursMarital statusLet's do it!
The first year of marriage was normal, I was pregnant, and he took good care of me. But after the birth of the child, all kinds of problems began to come to the fore, and I had to take care of the child at home, and he was responsible for making money. Raising a child is not an easy thing in itself, and it is not easy to make money, so sometimes when I have emotions, he thinks that it is not easy for him, and he does not help me solve it very well. Since that time, I have been passively backlogged negative emotions little by little, including friction with his family, slowly, he no longer plays an umbrella for me, doesn't care about my emotions, doesn't care about my feelings, many times, after we quarrel, he slapped his ass and left, and he didn't show up for a few days, and even if he did, he didn't take the initiative to speakIf you don't communicate, you can't solve it, and it's completely up to me to digest it myself. It's really devastating. I've been through many, many days like this.
I believe that what happened to me is what happened to most married girls as well.
I remember that when my husband was chasing me, he sent me a long confession of 1,000 words, which moved me to a great extent, and the most impressive sentence was:Give me a chance and I'll take care of you for the rest of your life.
It was clear that he had broken his word. I gave him the opportunity, but he didn't do it, and those promises may have been thrown out of the sky by him a long time ago. At first, when I was unwilling, I would ask him why his words were not words, and he replied like this:People change!
Actually, it's not that he has changed, it's that his nature is like this, at first it didn't show its original form. I'm so stupid! actually followed him to marry him because of the sentence "let me take care of you for the rest of my life". As everyone knows, as soon as the original form is revealed, what has been said before is equivalent to a fart that has been released.
So, girls, wake up. Don't marry a guy just because it's just "good for you"! Because some "good" can be pretended, and even if it is not pretended, how long can this "good" last?
My Lesson in Blood and Tears:There is a premise and timeliness for being good to you. The premise is that he doesn't have to worry about money and three meals a day. Under this premise, he has the possibility of being good to you. Remember, it's just possible, not necessarily; The time limit is difficult to say, some are short and some are long, and they are completely uncertain. When you are in love, it is sweet and sweet, and when the passion subsides, how long can a man be good to you?
So,"Good to you" is definitely not the main condition for being able to marry a man, don't be blinded by the momentary "good".
Although my husband is usually diligent and does housework, he really doesn't take the initiative to care about people, evades things, never knows mistakes, knows mistakes and doesn't admit mistakes, admits mistakes and doesn't correct mistakes, and doesn't understand me enoughThese problems alone can really grind people to death.
Girls: Life is short for dozens of autumns, please stay away from this kind of "good for me" love "** marry a man who is good in itself, not "good for you.""of men.
In the end of marriage, it must be a fight for character, and if you marry someone with low character, you can't afford to hurt!